Should I offer my subway seat to obese people?

  • KissTheSky

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    Jul 16, 2011 9:51 PM GMT
    I live in DC and there are a huge number of extremely obese people here... it seems dramatically more than just a year or two ago.
    So when I have a seat on the subway and an obese person gets on, should I offer him/her my seat? It can't be too easy to stand when you're that big, but I don't want to insult people either -- I'm talking about people who are young enough that it would be obvious I'm offering due to their weight, not age.

    Thoughts?
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    Jul 16, 2011 10:28 PM GMT
    Hmmmm etiquette rules usually dictate to offer seating to people whom are elderly, expecting mothers, or disabled. You can also offer a seat if someone is carrying objects that may seem rather heavy or no space to be placed on the floor.

    Now if an obese person, is having difficulty being in a standing position for certain time duration by all means offer the seating. There is no harm in being gracious/civil to offer a seat. If they decline then don't intrude any further. Even if they feel insulted by it, just calmly apologize and say it wasn't your intentions to be insulting.
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    Jul 16, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    No.
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    Jul 16, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    Screw 'em.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    No.

    They would need two seats anyway.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:03 PM GMT
    Offer your seat; civility costs nothing and can be enriching.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    No, they might loose calories by standing up
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    Him? No.
    Her? Yes.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:11 PM GMT
    maxjf saidHim? No.
    Her? Yes.


    Sometimes with *really* obese people it´s hard to tell gender.

    ALso think of the person sitting next to you. If you give the fat person your seat then they get squashed too.
  • KissTheSky

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    Jul 16, 2011 11:26 PM GMT
    Trollileo saidPlus, it gives me a chance to save a hot guy with a catch when he falls over from the sudden shift in momentum. (Or vice versa.)


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    Jul 16, 2011 11:29 PM GMT
    No

    Are you sitting in a single seat? If not, what about the person who was sitting next to you? Will they not be squashed? If I were sitting next to you and you got up to let an obese person squash me - I would be pissed at you hey. Hell yes I would be.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    Lostboy said ALso think of the person sitting next to you. If you give the fat person your seat then they get squashed too.

    If you forget about that your karmic payback will be to be seated between two fat people on your next intercontinental flight. In coach.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:32 PM GMT
    It's not our job to punish people for making bad decisions. If you feel empathetic, I would offer my seat.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:35 PM GMT
    TexDef07 said
    Lostboy said ALso think of the person sitting next to you. If you give the fat person your seat then they get squashed too.

    If you forget about that your karmic payback will be to be seated between two fat people on your next intercontinental flight. In coach.


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    Jul 16, 2011 11:36 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidIt's not our job to punish people for making bad decisions. If you feel empathetic, I would offer my seat.


    that is so unamerican. America LOVES punishing people for their decisions. it´s possibly the most judgemental and vindictive society in the world.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:38 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidIt's not our job to punish people for making bad decisions. If you feel empathetic, I would offer my seat.


    Punish? Are they entitled?
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:38 PM GMT
    Scruffypup saidIt's not our job to punish people for making bad decisions. If you feel empathetic, I would offer my seat.


    QFT
    Never judge others and you shall not be judged.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    If they look like they're struggling, then yes. In fact, the rule applies to anyone of any age or size.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    mayBbignow saidDoes it matter?
    Jeez louise- gay men and fat people, water and oil

    Answer: only if it looks like theyre in pain



    And if any smart ass say no
    Realize that it can be bad for their knees and losing weight will be more difficult


    i didnt mean to offend anyone im just saying, it could be the same for any type of person like elderly people, they pay less yet you have to give your seat up for them, probably the environment i was brought up in , i just like to keep myself to myself i guess

    sorry again if i insulted anyone
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:44 PM GMT
    Blackguy4you said
    Scruffypup saidIt's not our job to punish people for making bad decisions. If you feel empathetic, I would offer my seat.


    Punish? Are they entitled?



    No they are not. But this thread is not about entitlement.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:49 PM GMT
    I suppose if I felt obesity is an impairment.

    Here's why I don't think it is an impairment

    -A larger person can typically eat more than a smaller person. IE) buffets, they are getting their food cheaper than I am.
    -More fabric is implemented in larger clothing. I'm getting kind of ripped off because my clothes still cost the same.


    SO I am self-centered and obesity is not an impairment.
  • mke_bt

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    Jul 16, 2011 11:54 PM GMT
    Lostboy said
    maxjf saidHim? No.
    Her? Yes.


    Sometimes with *really* obese people it´s hard to tell gender.

    ALso think of the person sitting next to you. If you give the fat person your seat then they get squashed too.


    Second-hand fat is just as repellent to me as second-hand smoke. I don't really have anything against fat people but when it comes to being within close proximity skinny loses everytime.
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    You evil bastard think of their feet man!
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    Jul 16, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    Standing up burns calories. So by not giving them your seat you're actually helping them more.
  • Parker817

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    Jul 17, 2011 12:05 AM GMT
    Being young, healthy, and capable, I stand as soon as I see the other seats are filling up-- no matter who may be looking for a seat