I get this way too often, anyone else?

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    Jul 17, 2011 4:06 PM GMT
    So I was out with a friend of mine this weekend, dancing at a strait club. We just met that night and he is gay. I caught him giggling at me and I asked him why. His reply was "You just come off as very strait". A couple weeks ago I was at chicago pride and I went with my group to a deck party at a friends place. I was actively social for about 5 hours (I grilled all of the food for these guys because I was the only one who knew how to use a charcoal grill ;) - point being that I was in the center of attention). 5 hours in and I said something about sex and my buddy Carlos says in a very surprised voice "Yeah but you straits have no idea what good sex is". I replied with "Excuse me Hunny! I am not strait!!!" It took me about a half hour to convince them that I wasn't fucking with them.

    This totally bugs me because now I feel like even when I am out in obviously gay atmospheres I get passed off as "the cool strait guy." icon_eek.gif I DONT WANT THAT REPUTATION! icon_wink.gif It seriously makes me wonder how many hot gay guys pass me up thinking Im just another strait dude. I don't want to change myself because I am who I am!! Brian told me to "gay it up" at pride...which I didn't, because its just NOT ME! I can't believe I am alone in this so....Come with the stories boys!
  • Import

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    Jul 17, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    u look pretty queer to me
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    Jul 17, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    Import saidu look pretty queer to me



    hahaha Ouch, and Thank you at the same time icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 17, 2011 5:52 PM GMT
    a young person dropped into the LGBT library at AIDSPEI and we talked for a long time about gender identity. We went over a couple of pamphlets we have on gender & sexuality. She was very reluctant to believe I am gay because to her perception I conformed to what she perceived as "straight" therefore I must be straight. She was really hung up on but " you don't look gay or sound gay.


    Oh yeah - I remember how it came up -- she said she was amazed that the chairman would be a straight guy.

    I told her the previous chairman was indeed a straight guy, and half the board of directors are straight women at the moment , but my boyfriend didn;t know I'm straight, so it had to be our secret.

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    Jul 17, 2011 7:21 PM GMT
    Depends on who I'm around and everything. Usually people pin me for straight but then I'll do something and they'll be like, "Okay, maybe not?".

    Everyone is straight until proven Gay-lty to me.
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    Jul 17, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
    This is a dilemma that some gay guys face. Their "straight" mannerisms result in lost opportunities. Or they are accused of being closeted by other gays. It's a shitty situation either way. But I don't think you should change who you are, or how you carry yourself. Maybe step up your game and go after guys that you're attracted to, rather than have them go after you. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 17, 2011 8:01 PM GMT
    Don't worry about it. If you want to advertise more, then just wear less when you're out icon_smile.gif Be approachable and stop worrying about missed opportunities. They're missed for a reason.
  • mizu5

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    Jul 17, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    Green_Panda saidGuys that don't scream "I'm a HOMOSEXXXXXUALLLLL!!!" at the tops of their queeny voices are hot. Really fuckin' hot. Maybe wear a shirt with a lamba on it or a pink triangle if you're worried about it. But don't start gaying it up like a Thailand tranny. When I go to TO, sometimes it's just sad to see some guys who would make great guys if they weren't so dementedly girly.
    Wow. you can really see what a small town hick you are from your language. Dementedly girly? Thailand tranny? Have some respect for other people. Not everyone HAS to be he-man, and not everyone is, but you don't have to be a douche bag about it.

  • ryno

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    Jul 17, 2011 9:01 PM GMT
    If you think about it too, you would be attracting guys that find themselves falling for straight dudes.
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    Jul 17, 2011 9:55 PM GMT
    You could try to "be gayer" but you would just be playing to stereotypes. I think it is a good thing not to be the stereotype. It says "I'm confident" to me. People who have to put on guyliner, bleach their hair and speak in the highest voice possible sometimes concern me. I want to be like, listen we know you are gay, you don't have to keep proving it icon_razz.gif
  • Timbales

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    Jul 17, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    Just be yourself. Other people's limited perceptions are their own problems.
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    Jul 17, 2011 10:04 PM GMT
    I don't understand what the problem is?
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    Jul 17, 2011 10:10 PM GMT
    As obsessed as gays are with straights, I don't see why this bothers you. I bet you could totally bang every one of them on the DL. icon_biggrin.gif
  • kennyj08

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    Jul 17, 2011 10:11 PM GMT
    Bucky159 saidSo I was out with a friend of mine this weekend, dancing at a strait club. We just met that night and he is gay. I caught him giggling at me and I asked him why. His reply was "You just come off as very strait". A couple weeks ago I was at chicago pride and I went with my group to a deck party at a friends place. I was actively social for about 5 hours (I grilled all of the food for these guys because I was the only one who knew how to use a charcoal grill ;) - point being that I was in the center of attention). 5 hours in and I said something about sex and my buddy Carlos says in a very surprised voice "Yeah but you straits have no idea what good sex is". I replied with "Excuse me Hunny! I am not strait!!!" It took me about a half hour to convince them that I wasn't fucking with them.

    This totally bugs me because now I feel like even when I am out in obviously gay atmospheres I get passed off as "the cool strait guy." icon_eek.gif I DONT WANT THAT REPUTATION! icon_wink.gif It seriously makes me wonder how many hot gay guys pass me up thinking Im just another strait dude. I don't want to change myself because I am who I am!! Brian told me to "gay it up" at pride...which I didn't, because its just NOT ME! I can't believe I am alone in this so....Come with the stories boys!


    Don't change yourself for anyone! it's attractive that you can be yourself.
    Just saying icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 17, 2011 10:18 PM GMT
    Them perty smile gives it away.
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    Jul 17, 2011 10:22 PM GMT
    Import saidu look pretty queer to me




    ....its because you have the gaydar.
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    Jul 17, 2011 10:24 PM GMT
    Bucky159 saidSo I was out with a friend of mine this weekend, dancing at a strait club. We just met that night and he is gay. I caught him giggling at me and I asked him why. His reply was "You just come off as very strait". A couple weeks ago I was at chicago pride and I went with my group to a deck party at a friends place. I was actively social for about 5 hours (I grilled all of the food for these guys because I was the only one who knew how to use a charcoal grill ;) - point being that I was in the center of attention). 5 hours in and I said something about sex and my buddy Carlos says in a very surprised voice "Yeah but you straits have no idea what good sex is". I replied with "Excuse me Hunny! I am not strait!!!" It took me about a half hour to convince them that I wasn't fucking with them.

    This totally bugs me because now I feel like even when I am out in obviously gay atmospheres I get passed off as "the cool strait guy." icon_eek.gif I DONT WANT THAT REPUTATION! icon_wink.gif It seriously makes me wonder how many hot gay guys pass me up thinking Im just another strait dude. I don't want to change myself because I am who I am!! Brian told me to "gay it up" at pride...which I didn't, because its just NOT ME! I can't believe I am alone in this so....Come with the stories boys!


    Just tell them, "I'm so gay I can't even spell strait."
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 17, 2011 10:54 PM GMT
    Other guys tell me I`m apparently 'straighter' than straight guys,so I can`t possibly be gay.But I am gay!Always have been,always will be,no question.
    My advice would be to be yourself,as 'straight' as you are.Once you start acting up to what you think others want of you/will please them,you`re lost.
    If you`re worried other gay guys pass you up because they think you`re straight,you should pursue the guys you fancy more!
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    Jul 17, 2011 11:02 PM GMT
    They were just flirting with you. You migh try learning how to do the same. Problem solved.
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    Jul 17, 2011 11:09 PM GMT
    No and it's not a compliment either, more along the lines of back handed compliment. Furthermore, one cannot look Homosexual. There is no visible difference between Homosexual and Heterosexual, unless of course you are sucking dick in front of the latter's faces.
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    Jul 17, 2011 11:14 PM GMT
    Iceblink said
    Just tell them, "I'm so gay I can't even spell strait."


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    Jul 18, 2011 12:39 AM GMT
    What were you wearing? Were they, for instance:

    Anything plaid? Black shoes with a brown belt? Flip flops and socks? Jean shorts?
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:50 AM GMT
    staples_jockey said
    DodgedBullet said...Furthermore, one cannot look Homosexual. There is no visible difference between Homosexual and Heterosexual, unless of course you are sucking dick in front of the latter's faces.

    Haha, oh, I dunno about that.

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    lol! well played.
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:58 AM GMT
    ryno saidIf you think about it too, you would be attracting guys that find themselves falling for straight dudes.

    +1!
  • mke_bt

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    Jul 18, 2011 1:31 AM GMT

    Just tell them, "I'm so gay I can't even spell strait."[/quote]

    Zing.