Do you know anyone who has committed suicide?

  • trainhard2011

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    Jul 17, 2011 8:58 PM GMT
    Who were they to you, and why did they do it? Did it affect you in anyway?
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    Jul 17, 2011 10:31 PM GMT
    One of my best friends in high school. It still hurts sometimes, even 25 years later.
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 17, 2011 11:22 PM GMT
    About three months ago a guy I knew in school killed himself by hanging.He lived in a nearby village and I used to go over to play sometimes when we were about ten.We lost contact somewhat at secondary school.I was pretty shocked as he always struck me as a very strong minded type.There didn`t seem to be any reason for it,either.This was because it came on top of other tragedies in my village/local area,like a murder(the victim had connections to my family as well!)and another suicide.
    My response was a kind of bewilderment as this village doesn`t do murder and suicide.Life is very stable here.I`ve lived here most of my life and can`t remember another example.It was a very strange,alienated feeling,as if calamity was stalking me.
    This guy`s suicide has gotten deeper and stranger as it seems he was involved with the woman now charged with her partner`s murder(yes,the recent local one).And he could have been her accomplice.He was married still,but estranged and had a new girlfriend-and a lover!Seems he couldn`t face the consequences of being found out or something.He left a suicide note and dropped her right in it.She`s facing a murder charge.
    The trial may involve a family member as a witness.
    It`s left me feeling very unsettled this year.It seems life is never what you expect or know.
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    Jul 17, 2011 11:31 PM GMT
    a friend in high school did, about 2 months before we graduated. he told us all he was really depressed, but we didnt really listen.

    looking back there is a lot of signs, and i still wonder if i could have prevented it.
  • Glorfindel

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    Jul 17, 2011 11:43 PM GMT
    Kind of morbid, but yes, I do. icon_cry.gif

    About 15 years ago while I was away at college, got a call from my parents that one of my friends from my youth had died. He was a few years younger than me and I knew him thru my Boy Scout troop and we didn't really interact a whole lot, but he was a kid who I thought could go anywhere and do anything. He had so much talent and ability that I expected to see his name in lights one day.

    I don't know why he did it. His parents claimed it was an allergic reaction (he was Catholic, so suicide is not allowed), but the siblings claimed otherwise.

    I still remember driving by his house one day while I was back in town from school and seeing him outside. I was running an errand and didn't take the time to stop to chat with him since I hadn't talked to/seen him in forever. That would be the last I ever saw him. I still wish I had taken a few extra minutes that day to pause and chat with him.

    While I still lived in that town, I would go visit his grave every year on the anniversary of his death. icon_sad.gif

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    Jul 17, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    trainhard2011 saidWho were they to you, and why did they do it? Did it affect you in anyway?


    A colleague. We got along quite well.
    Was quite a shock.
    No one knows why. It was chalked up to the inability to get a job after she was laid off. A cousin found her decomposing body.
    ever remindful that who feels it knows it.
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    Jul 17, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    I didn't know this kid Todd from high school well, but four years after school I read he hung himself. Although I didn't know him well it really bothered me because everyone loved him and he seemed to love life. I'm not really christian anymore but he had said his biggest problem in life was that he didn't know how god wanted him to do good in the world. He was bi polar. This really got me thinking that mental health is really a sickness cause this guy would never hurt a fly or himself, or his family by taking his life. I still think about him and how unfair the whole thing is.
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:03 AM GMT
    One of my best female friends in high school shot herself, we think to get the attention of her parents who never paid any attention to her. She shot herself in the knee and her parents never came home until late that night and she bled to death. I still think about her and what a great person she really was.
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    About a dozen years ago, I had given a yearly performance review to one of the guys on my sales staff. ("Firm but fair").

    He didn't show up for work the next morning. Later in the day his brother called up hysterical and told me he had hanged himself with a belt that night.

    No shit.

    I was in a daze for an entire day before his brother called me again to fill me in.

    Graciously, and thoughtfully, he told me it had nothing to do with me or the review. I had never felt such a heavy load of bricks being lifted off my shoulders. He had other issues in his life none of us were even aware of, including problems with his wife... We all thought he was single.

    All of us at work were just stunned. Any many of us had the exact same eerie term to describe the feeling it gave us: "evil."

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    Jul 18, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    Unfortunately I know a number of people who have committed suicide.

    two housewives in my crescent while I was a child, one gun shot, one car running in the garage to asphyxiate herself.

    At the time it didn't really affect me, I guess the pressures of being a lady that lunch got to them. Never really heard much about why even to today.

    3 kids from high school that I know of have as adults:

    one OD'd on prescription meds (Pharmacist)

    one jumped from a highrise (and landed in front of another friend of ours, later found to be shizo)

    one I don't know how, but rumored to have been caused by his family not having money and him not being able to deal with it.

    Made me pause briefly, but life's pressures tend to make you move on and not reflect as deeply as maybe one should.
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    Jul 18, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    my BF committed suicide in August 2008. His family wouldnt accept him for being gay. His brother told him to kill himself, so he did. It was devastating for a while, but I know there was nothing i could have done to prevent it. I know it is his brothers fault, and his family's fault. It still hurts on his birthday, or on the anniversary of the day he took his life. But I just try and think that hes not in any pain now, and hopefully hes found peace.
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    Jul 18, 2011 1:10 AM GMT
    I know one person who committed suicide, he was hooked on heroine and painkillers.
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    Jul 18, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    I had a friend who set himself on fire. Horrible death.
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    Jul 18, 2011 1:50 AM GMT
    I've written about this on here before, but my older brother slit his wrists in the summer of 1998. I don't remember anything about it and to this day I still don't know why he did it. This is only speculation, but his twin brother had been killed a few months prior and my parents' marriage was starting to fall apart. Mix in some major depressive disorder and I really don't need to explain any further.

    My best friend's dad also killed himself the first day of our senior year of high school. He slit his wrists too. He was a doctor at the FDA and had gotten caught up in some scandal... or something like that. If I recall, he was bipolar.

    Mental health is a bitch. icon_confused.gif
  • trainhard2011

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    Jul 18, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    LoneRanger09 saidmy BF committed suicide in August 2008. His family wouldnt accept him for being gay. His brother told him to kill himself, so he did. It was devastating for a while, but I know there was nothing i could have done to prevent it. I know it is his brothers fault, and his family's fault. It still hurts on his birthday, or on the anniversary of the day he took his life. But I just try and think that hes not in any pain now, and hopefully hes found peace.


    I'm sorry. I'm so sorry. Does his family even care?

    I'm sorry to all of you. You seem like good people.





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    Jul 18, 2011 3:25 AM GMT
    i have lost 3 friends and it hurts till this day.icon_cry.gif


    2 were due to depression and one was due to his life partner was killed in a car crash and he didnt die so he killed himself.
  • DCguy2001

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    Jul 18, 2011 3:25 AM GMT
    My uncle killed himself when I was a little kid -- maybe 9 or 10? I remember my mother coming into my room and telling me what happened. I didn't fully comprehend the suicide part but I understood he was dead which was sad because he was young (in his 30s?) and was my favorite uncle. I found out years later that he suffered from severe depression (and possibly other forms of mental illness).
  • hyperionx

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    Jul 18, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    What a grizzly thread. I'm curious why the the OP would start such a discussion?
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    Jul 18, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    My sympathies to everyone.

    I don't know anyone directly who committed suicide. I've known people who knew people who committed suicide, but no one I knew myself.

    I knew a couple of people who attempted it. One did it several times for the drama and attention. The other was someone who had such a horrible childhood I can't even describe it.

    There isn't always an explanation, and there rarely is anything you could do to prevent it.
  • trainhard2011

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    Jul 18, 2011 4:21 AM GMT
    hyperionx saidWhat a grizzly thread. I'm curious why the the OP would start such a discussion?


    I don't know. I have not been doing to good lately. I'm trying to figure things out.
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    Jul 18, 2011 4:22 AM GMT
    My father, on January 4th 2010. Completely turned my life and my family's life upside down, fortunately my mother is a strong woman, and she is recovering. I think it has made me more independent, I used to ask my father for advice and help all the time but now I just try to seek it all on my own. My father was kind of the glue of the family and now I really really do not enjoy Thanksgiving, Christmas and Easter anymore..oh and Father's day for that matter.
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    Jul 18, 2011 4:23 AM GMT
    Twice. A woman who was our town treasurer (a position my own mother held a few years before her), whose kids my younger sister used to play with. This woman was caught embezzling town funds, about $5000, and so drove her car to an empty dead-end road, and hooked up some hosing she bought to bring the car's exhaust into the passenger compartment. My parents wouldn't tell me at first because I was only 13 and knew the family, but I read it in the paper, and so my mother finally told me what she knew about it.

    The second time a few years later involved a young woman my own age, but whom I knew only slightly. She was driving home from some night job she had, and every time she encountered these road barricades for some bridge work, she moved them aside to cross the bridge and avoid a several-mile detour.

    One night, though, a portion of bridge decking had been removed, and her car plunged through. By a miracle the car caught in a safety net below, meant for the workmen and not intended for the weight of a car. The car went into it grill first, the net sagging and holding the vehicle tail-end up. She spent the night staring through the windshield at the river water some 60 feet below her.

    Early at grey dawn next morning a man from a house nearby took his dog for a walk and saw these red taillights below the bridge where they shouldn't be. He went to investigate, saw the barricades moved, and as he approached the edge saw the rear bumper some few feet below. He called police and a rescue was organized, firemen on ropes climbing down for her.

    She was never the same afterwards emotionally, and staring taking recreational drugs. Finally she killed herself with an overdose, the death ruled a suicide because there was a note. Some stupid local people said it was because she wasn't supposed to have survived her bad judgment in crossing the bridge, and should have died on that occasion.
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    Jul 18, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    trainhard2011 said
    hyperionx saidWhat a grizzly thread. I'm curious why the the OP would start such a discussion?


    I don't know. I have not been doing to good lately. I'm trying to figure things out.


    Sounds ominous. I would suggest you find someone to talk to about it.
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    Jul 18, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    My grandmother did when I was 8, my parents told she just died , I learned how just a few years ago, drove to a grocery store and shot herself, she also suffered from depression
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jul 18, 2011 4:37 AM GMT
    no not personally but i knew of a few kids that had did it in high school