Do a-holes tend to be in relationships more than nice guys?

  • trainhard2011

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    Jul 17, 2011 10:02 PM GMT
    I've often wondered, as I have seen that a-holes tend to be in relationships more than they are single. Maybe it's just my experience. But, am I the only one who has noticed this? Anybody here put it to the test and pretended to be an a-hole and found an increase in relationship prospects?
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    Jul 17, 2011 10:21 PM GMT
    Fuck no, ya fucking twat. icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 17, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    Many gay guys tend to love abuse and self-flagellation, so it makes sense. However, you cannot fake being an a-hole. You either are or are not.
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    Jul 17, 2011 11:51 PM GMT
    i have a straight friend who is a douche and he is totally in reltiionships more. however the quality and frequency of these relationships are questionable. ha i feel like you may be on to something here
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:04 AM GMT


    I tend to be a nice guy however I've had very very few relationships if any at the moment. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    No....unless they have substantial physical or financial equity.
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:15 AM GMT
    It's RIDICULOUS RITE?!?!?!
    SOO JEALOUS!
    ,,,,mayb it's telling us to be more assholes... icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:17 AM GMT
    Guys that are a-holes tend to have certain qualities that seems attractive. Everyone likes a bad boy. People who date them seem to like them more because there is something about them that is attractive and they get the right to say "he's not a bad guy once you know him".

    Nice guys just finish last. You never hear of an a-hole getting caught up in the crazy drama or treated badly like the nice guys do. Think about it.
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    yes.

    Nice guys take their time to find other nice guys, as opposed to taking the first shiny thing they see. icon_rolleyes.gif You just have to know that you'll end up better for it. You'll be happier, safer, and your guy will treat you as special as you really are (or at least he should unless you found yourself an "a-hole" lol)
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:24 AM GMT
    oh... I'm an arse hole!!!




    Fantastic!!!!!




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    Jul 18, 2011 12:28 AM GMT
    I'd rather go for an a-hole then a nice guy. Nice guys get too comfortable and too cutesy. They lack a certain quality. They never stand up for themselves and they get walked all over. They aren't challenging. An a-hole will keep you on your toes and doesn't allow to be walked over. They have backbone and moxy. Nice guys will go for the 1st person shows that them any kind of kindness without question whereas an a-hole will make you earn their respect and will make you think twice.

    With that being said I can be a dick so dealing with an a-hole suits me just fine. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:30 AM GMT
    Me thinks the OP has too much free time on his hands. lol

    Actually, I don't think jerks are more likely to have relationships and I certainly don't believe nice guys finish last. My partner and I are both nice guys and he is about the nicest you would ever meet. He will give the shirt off his back if someone needs it.

    I think the jerks tend to stand out more and that may be why you think they are in relationships more.
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:31 AM GMT
    I think so, more people tend to gravitate towards the a-holes because they like that "I don't give a shit" attitude.
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:41 AM GMT
    Guy101 saidI'd rather go for an a-hole then a nice guy. Nice guys get too comfortable and too cutesy. They lack a certain quality. They never stand up for themselves and they get walked all over.They aren't challenging. An a-hole will keep you on your toes and doesn't allow to be walked over. They have backbone and moxy. nice guys will go for the 1st person shows them any kind of kindness without question whereas an a-hole will make you earn their respect and will make you think twice.

    With that being said I can be a dick so dealing with an a-hole suits me just fine. icon_biggrin.gif


    Being nice doesn't always necessitate being walked of over and being spineless. Standing up for yourself and having a backbone doesn't mean you have to be an a-hole. The real difference is that people who know who they are and what they want can come off as a-holes to people who don't know any better because they have boundaries and stick to them. At the same time, there are definitely graceful ways of maintaining these boundaries without being an a-hole about it.
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    Jul 18, 2011 12:51 AM GMT
    I know more single nice guys than I do coupled nice guys. The not so nice guys that have that chip or attitude or just flat out anger all the time? No thanks. I can be miserable all by myself. icon_wink.gif
  • barriehomeboy

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    Jul 18, 2011 12:57 AM GMT
    I read relationships as a genderless question. I see lots of women in relationships that are abusive. Why do they stay? It's, in both cases, an issue of self esteem and no other options.
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    Jul 18, 2011 1:12 AM GMT
    Im an asshole and Im not in a relationship...
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    Jul 18, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    Chainers saidIm an asshole and Im not in a relationship...


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    Jul 18, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Im not an asshole and no one loves me. I think the theory is valid.
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    Jul 18, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    trainhard2011 saidI've often wondered, as I have seen that a-holes tend to be in relationships more than they are single. Maybe it's just my experience. But, am I the only one who has noticed this? Anybody here put it to the test and pretended to be an a-hole and found an increase in relationship prospects?



    No, I've noticed it too. It's absolutely true. I've often thought about treating guys like shit so I can find a boyfriend but it's just not my nature. icon_sad.gif
  • trainhard2011

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    Jul 18, 2011 3:49 AM GMT
    Why don't we all date? I will treat you like a king(s).

    I do have a lot of time on ny hands. I'm nice. Haha.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Jul 18, 2011 4:00 AM GMT
    i will have to say no. everyone i know is with pretty good hearted people. but then again everybody loves a bad boy or a guy with a edge
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    Jul 19, 2011 7:42 AM GMT
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    Guy101 saidWith that being said I can be a dick so dealing with an a-hole suits me just fine. icon_biggrin.gif

    Can be?


    LOL. You're right. I AM a dick. A big one too and a-holes love it. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 19, 2011 7:48 AM GMT
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    Guy101 saidI'd rather go for an a-hole then a nice guy. Nice guys get too comfortable and too cutesy. They lack a certain quality. They never stand up for themselves and they get walked all over.They aren't challenging. An a-hole will keep you on your toes and doesn't allow to be walked over. They have backbone and moxy. nice guys will go for the 1st person shows them any kind of kindness without question whereas an a-hole will make you earn their respect and will make you think twice.

    With that being said I can be a dick so dealing with an a-hole suits me just fine. icon_biggrin.gif


    Being nice doesn't always necessitate being walked of over and being spineless. Standing up for yourself and having a backbone doesn't mean you have to be an a-hole. The real difference is that people who know who they are and what they want can come off as a-holes to people who don't know any better because they have boundaries and stick to them. At the same time, there are definitely graceful ways of maintaining these boundaries without being an a-hole about it.


    Well when you are nice about standing up for yourself not too many people take you seriously and they tend to just brush you off and they do seem to walk over folks. Nice folk aren't assertive and they certainly aren't threatening otherwise they wouldn't be nice. I think you have being confident confused with being an a-hole.
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    Jul 19, 2011 7:59 AM GMT
    Since I had two great wonderful men love me at the same time, one for 11 years until his death; a Russian very strong and assertive. As well m American husband of 20 + years; a Yankee who is a conservative executive. I have to say no, because none of it would of come to pass, and lasted as long as they have and did if one was an arse hole.