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    Jul 18, 2011 12:47 AM GMT
    so ive known this guy for 8 months and we met right after i got out of a relationship. hes an amazing guy and he had a crush on me a while back but i said i didnt feel anything for him. now im the one who has a crush and he said he not into me like he was. what should i do? i really dont know what to do
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    Jul 18, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    Two things you can do...one ask Ur self why U have a crush on him. Some times men fall in this "I want everything I can't have" stage and especially when it comes to maters of the heart, sort of speak. Second, just be his friend. I know it is going to be really hard to separated lust (and I use this term loosely) from friendship. He might find him self falling for U as he once did and hopefully true love can blossom or U both will just realize that Ur friendship is much more rewording than a crush. All in all just show him Ur true feelings and be true to Ur self. Hope this helps U =)
  • Mikeylikesit

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    Jul 18, 2011 3:16 AM GMT
    Move on...LOL plenty of other fish in the sea....icon_eek.gificon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 18, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    You need to move on. He is being honest with you. You cant make him feel something that isnt there. Its just a waste of your time. I am sure a handsome guy like you will not have a problem finding someone who loves you as much as you love them.
  • John6311

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    Jul 18, 2011 3:34 AM GMT
    Sorry - but you both sounds like drama queens. He wants you, you don't want him. You want him, he doesn't want you.

    Man up!
  • mybud

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    Jul 18, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    Well first.... don't chase him...if you do you'll look desperate and he'll run....Step back and think intently on why your feelings have changed for this guy?....Try to pinpoint the reasoning...Was it because he showed a gentle side of himself.?...Was it the sex?...What?...You might find you have lust for the guy but no love...Lust has a shelf life...after a length of time it spoils....Hope this helps....BUD
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    Jul 18, 2011 4:41 AM GMT
    You blew it. Move on.
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    Jul 18, 2011 4:51 AM GMT

    I think that this, "now im the one who has a crush" means just a crush and if he isn't there on the same page anymore he just isn't.
    What made you change your mind?


    -Doug
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    Jul 18, 2011 5:02 AM GMT
    If possible, it's good to stay friends with guys in this situation - you might get to keep a good potential friend or one day you'll both be on the same page. At first staying friends was difficult for me (hurt pride boo hoo) but in most cases it worked out and we are all good buddies. Once two of them started dating each other - arghhh was that hard to swallow, but eventually I worked through it.
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    Jul 18, 2011 6:01 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    I think that this, "now im the one who has a crush" means just a crush and if he isn't there on the same page anymore he just isn't.
    What made you change your mind?


    -Doug
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    Jul 18, 2011 6:16 AM GMT
    Remember when you turned him down a while back?

    Sounds like he took it well and probably didn't keep pressing you. You stayed friends because he knew how to ease off.

    You need to do the same for him now.
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    Jul 18, 2011 8:59 AM GMT
    GVJoe90 saidso ive known this guy for 8 months and we met right after i got out of a relationship. hes an amazing guy and he had a crush on me a while back but i said i didnt feel anything for him. now im the one who has a crush and he said he not into me like he was. what should i do? i really dont know what to do


    Move on. You are young. And cute. Lots of fun to be had. Go out and enjoy!
  • ohioguy12

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    Jul 18, 2011 11:35 AM GMT
    Seems like you were playing hard to get and he was turned off by that. I hate when guys play games like that.
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    Jul 18, 2011 11:43 AM GMT
    Try seducing him - if it really doesn't work, don't push it or you'll look like a desperate slapper.