Help! Serious thread about friendships and what to do , idk

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    Jul 18, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    Ok so here it comes.

    Lately i realized I have NO FRIENDS who share my interests at all. I am not talking about cars, thats a small part of me but just everything in general. Let me start off by giving you guys an insite into me.

    I have spent the whole weekend, the WHOLE weekend at the beaches in toronto. I love to be active, i love to bike and blade, though my bike will not fit in my car atm so i am sticking to rollerblades.I went blading, alone. Then I went to the beach to tan but couldnt help but notice jocks passing footballs, frizbees and etc around and i thought to myself god damn it, why don t i have friends like that? People who like to get out of the house on such a beautiful day and pass shit around, chill, hang, etc. I would love to have people to play with.

    I proceeded to go swimming afterwards, by myself , again, and as i observed people fucking around and doing cannonballs and shit it hit me again... wtf?


    When I arrived back to toronto i hung with my firends for a bit but they are not the active types at all and we haven t spoken in two weeks now...

    What the hell do I do? i am bored and lonely!
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    Jul 18, 2011 2:05 AM GMT
    There must be either sports leagues or clubs, straight or gay. Is there volleyball at the beaches in Toronto? If it's like So Calif, there are games you can join (not all though). Here all you have to do is see a game played at whatever level you're at, and ask it is open to newcomers.
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    Jul 18, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    Have you tried searching for a local sports team to join for whatever sports you are interested in?

    This forum is also a great place to meet active people. This is, after all, a fitness oriented site. See if you can get some people from Toronto to meet up for some activities (e.g., day at the beach, hiking, etc.).
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    Jul 18, 2011 2:11 AM GMT
    I haven t tried the sport clubs yet, but thats an idea. I am just so goddamn bored, I can t entertain myself like i used to
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    Jul 18, 2011 2:13 AM GMT
    I wish I could help you, but I am right there with you buddy. I used to have a bunch of friends.... and now they are all gone. I spent the entire weekend alone.

    I do have straight friends, but I am not out to everyone... and certainly not to my active straight friends. So while I would love to hang out with them, I have to watch what I say and what I reference when I am around them. That isn't any fun.

    Sorry, man... i am not much help but I can give you a hug and tell you I know exactly what you mean. Come to SC and let's hang out! I want to go outside and play, too!
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    Jul 18, 2011 2:22 AM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle saidI wish I could help you, but I am right there with you buddy. I used to have a bunch of friends.... and now they are all gone. I spent the entire weekend alone.

    I do have straight friends, but I am not out to everyone... and certainly not to my active straight friends. So while I would love to hang out with them, I have to watch what I say and what I reference when I am around them. That isn't any fun.

    Sorry, man... i am not much help but I can give you a hug and tell you I know exactly what you mean. Come to SC and let's hang out! I want to go outside and play, too!



    Thanks for the kind words Alpha, you nailed it for me too. I have some straight friends and its the same, I have to watch myself constantly. I should just get in the car and drive to SC, least i ll have someone to hang with!
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    Jul 18, 2011 2:23 AM GMT
    And now I am watching a movie, alone, anyone else see a pattern here? :S Im pathetic
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    Jul 18, 2011 3:36 AM GMT
    MrPolish saidAnd now I am watching a movie, alone, anyone else see a pattern here? :S Im pathetic


    I see the same thing in myself here in Vancouver, and it sucks. As well, most of my friends are straight and they are cool with me, but it is not the same. I have 2 years living here and is hard to think in a gay friend which i share same interests....

    I kinda know what i have to do to change the situation, but working and studying both full time is hard to make time for that.

    I think my post doesn't help at all, sorry
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    Jul 18, 2011 4:29 AM GMT
    You really do have to join some of the many gay sports clubs. There's baseball, bowling, skiing, god knows what else depending on the season. When I first moved to Calgary years and years and years ago that's how I met people,, on a ski trip to Panorama.
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    Jul 18, 2011 6:49 AM GMT
    MrPolish saidLately i realized I have NO FRIENDS who share my interests at all...
    I have spent the whole weekend, the WHOLE weekend at the beaches in toronto... Then I went to the beach to tan but couldnt help but notice jocks passing footballs, frizbees and etc around and i thought to myself god damn it, why don t i have friends like that?

    I guess the obvious answer would be to approach the guys who are tossing the football or Frisbee around and ask to join them. The worst they can say is "no." At best, you found new friends.
    If you want friends who do these activities, you need to introduce yourself to guys who do these activities.
    Best wishes.
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    Jul 18, 2011 5:36 PM GMT
    Not sure if i have the balls to just do that at the moment.
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    Jul 19, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    MrPolish saidNot sure if i have the balls to just do that at the moment.

    That or asking if newcomers are allowed to join a volleyball game, sometimes you need to get out of your comfort zone. In fact, much of personal growth comes about from doing just that.