Hotlisting Guys?

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    Apr 24, 2008 3:31 AM GMT
    I hope this is the right place for this question.

    I'm new to this forum and my initial approach to the option of hotlisting guys was to see if I would find someone who thinks the way I do, or in a compatible way, or otherwise moves me on a fairly profound psychological level.

    A few days later, I wondered if that might not take too long and thought about going to what seems the opposite extreme and hotlisting guys who I think are cute based on their picture.

    Can one or more of you experienced hands give me a little insight into how you exercise the hotlisting option?

    Charlie
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    Apr 24, 2008 3:37 AM GMT
    I dont list 300+ hotties. To me, that sort of put one's purpose for being here questionable.
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    Apr 24, 2008 6:10 AM GMT
    Hotlist away...look at the profiles, decide if you like their look, their personality, their ears, and click. You're not being judged by your choices...you're the judge.

    Some guys are all-inclusive. Some guys are particular. It's your thing, and there's no shame in having 5 or 500.
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    Apr 24, 2008 6:13 AM GMT
    i don't hotlist at all - just feel like it's pointless ego-boosting; and if i find someone REALLY intriguing, i'll just shoot them a message :0)
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    Apr 24, 2008 6:14 AM GMT
    It's a good whay of indicating how shallow some people are without even having to type a word to them.

    I can't narrow my list down to a certain type of guy thou :S
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    Apr 24, 2008 6:20 AM GMT
    I hot list for multiple reasons actually.

    1: I like something a guy said in his profile and want to come back to it easly later.(I suck with names so this makes it easy)

    2: I find that I want to try to talk to someone but am WAAAAAY to shy to think of something to say.

    3: Yes I do hotlist guys I'm attracted to physically.

    4: Haven't decided if I want to buddy list them or not yet.
  • shoelessj

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    Apr 24, 2008 6:45 AM GMT
    jackoz wrote:
    i don't hotlist at all - just feel like it's pointless ego-boosting; and if i find someone REALLY intriguing, i'll just shoot them a message :0)

    i don't think there's anything all that wrong with ego-boosting someone. i hotlist a lot, i guess, but when i do, it's not as a way to indicate 'hey, let's hookup,' it's more like giving a wink to someone. i actually kind of feel that shooting someone a note to say, 'hey, you're hot' is a little weird,' if that's all you say. (and yeah, when ever i get a message that says, 'you're hot' or 'arrff' or grrrrr,' or whatever, i do think it's a little creepy.

    (i do sometimes wish that when i shoot a message to someone to compliment them on their body or workout regimen and ask how they do it, there would be a box you could check along with the message that said something like, 'not interested in getting naked with you' or 'actually wants workout tips.') icon_wink.gif


  • RSportsguy

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    Apr 24, 2008 9:21 AM GMT
    I hot list guys for different reasons.

    A) If I find something physically attractive about their pics. It does not have to be just a nice body, but I have hot listed guys with nice eyes, beautiful smiles, etc.

    B) If I read something I like in someone's profile I will hot list.

    C) If I read something that they post on the forums that I really like.

    Most of the guys I hot list, I probably will not have the opportunity to chat with. I have hot listed guys all around this country and beyond. The odds of meeting some of these guys are not very good, so I don't think that anyone should have the idea that I am looking for a quick hook up if I hot list a guy.So, this is a long winded way of me saying to hot list away!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 24, 2008 9:31 AM GMT
    RSportsguy said
    A) If I find something physically attractive about their pics.

    B) If I read something I like in someone's profile I will hot list.

    C) If I read something that they post on the forums that I really like.



    I hotlist for very similar reasons. I've only been hotlisted a couple of times myself, but I think it feels great! I hope the people who I have hot-listed get a boost from it too.
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    Apr 24, 2008 9:32 AM GMT
    I will add someone to my hot list if they are attractive, I like what they say and obviously put some thought into their profile. These are my favorite.

    Others I just add if I say "wow" (or any other word with the same meaning) when I see their pics. If the profile is blank or I have not chatted with them it's strictly just an eye-candy thing.

    Some I just wish that I looked like them! lol =)
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    Apr 24, 2008 11:18 AM GMT
    Didn't we just have this thread a week or so ago?

    I'll just reiterate what I feel about hotlisting guys on here: I do it if I find 'em physically attractive, or if theres something in the profile I find fun or funny or witty or just damn fascinating.

    Why are alot of guys so down on hotlisting? If I have 300+ guys hotlisted out of the 20,000 on this site... why is that a bad thing? there are a ton of guys on here that are very hot all for various reasons

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 24, 2008 12:06 PM GMT
    I think if you think someone is hot and you like them, put them on your hotlist.
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    Apr 24, 2008 12:37 PM GMT
    If the guy has the qualities I find attractive AND CARES TO REPLY to my messages, then TADAH!!! I do, but there are other exceptional cases too... like I meet someone who looks like him or even DREAMT of him... he he ...you know who you are!!! xx
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    Apr 24, 2008 12:41 PM GMT
    I use it to show who my bf is and will remain that way until they offer a "partner list" LOL. I use my buddy list as my hotlist as well but I do talk to all them on occasion. Hotlisting requires more than just looking good for me and I base my friends on an overall basis.
  • bradsmith

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    Apr 24, 2008 12:47 PM GMT
    I think you guys are putting WAY too much thought into this particular topic...which is, in its own way, instructive...
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    Apr 24, 2008 12:48 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI think if you think someone is hot and you like them, put them on your hotlist.

    That pretty much says it all; someone you find attractive, whether physically or personally. It doesn't necessarily mean, "I do you doggy style long time." Buddy lists are for people you consider friends.
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    Apr 24, 2008 5:28 PM GMT
    jackozmodernlife saidi don't hotlist at all - just feel like it's pointless ego-boosting; and if i find someone REALLY intriguing, i'll just shoot them a message :0)

    Hotlisting you now...
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    Apr 24, 2008 6:09 PM GMT
    Thanks, guys!

    Looks like hotlisting someone can mean anything from "I think you have a cute smile" to "if you're interested, and we live in the same hemisphere let's meet, date, 'do it,' etc."

    Charlie
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    Apr 24, 2008 6:18 PM GMT
    CarlosGringo saidI hope this is the right place for this question.

    I'm new to this forum and my initial approach to the option of hotlisting guys was to see if I would find someone who thinks the way I do, or in a compatible way, or otherwise moves me on a fairly profound psychological level.

    A few days later, I wondered if that might not take too long and thought about going to what seems the opposite extreme and hotlisting guys who I think are cute based on their picture.

    Can one or more of you experienced hands give me a little insight into how you exercise the hotlisting option?

    Charlie


    It's quite simple really. I see a guy and if he's hot in the ways I like, then I add to my hot list. Not too difficult; though it's like splitting hairs sometimes... but it comes down to how the person portrays themselves overall.
  • TallGWMvballe...

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    Apr 24, 2008 6:20 PM GMT
    Hotlisting for me is my way of showing what kind of guys I find physically attractive and see other qualities that got my attention.
    I rarely write to anyone hoping for a date, but rather for a specific topic, perhaps something they posted.
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    Apr 24, 2008 9:41 PM GMT
    jackozmodernlife saidi don't hotlist at all - just feel like it's pointless ego-boosting; and if i find someone REALLY intriguing, i'll just shoot them a message :0)


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    but I am curious to know how you are utilizing "intriguing" in determining whether or not you send a message. Do you send a message when you find someone physically intriguing, mentally intriguing, a combination of both, etc...?

  • jeepguySD

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    Apr 24, 2008 9:46 PM GMT
    I keep my hotlist very short. I see that a more sincere compliment to the few who are on my hotlist.
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    Apr 24, 2008 11:00 PM GMT
    I hotlist for several reasons:

    1. Someone I find physically attractive and someone who is the sort of person I could talk/relate with.

    2. Someone who is an animal lover and has dogs in their profile. I'm a dog owner.

    3. Someone who has particular hobbies I'm interested in that I can bounce questions/compliments off of i.e. home renovations.

    4. Someone who is a cyclist/duathlete that I could get advice and talk to about the sport.

    5. Someone who has a great playlist of the music that I wouldn't mind coming back to. Someone who has the same music interests as me.

    Just my $.02 icon_wink.gif

    Bill
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    Apr 27, 2008 10:42 PM GMT
    jackozmodernlife saidi don't hotlist at all - just feel like it's pointless ego-boosting; and if i find someone REALLY intriguing, i'll just shoot them a message :0)


    I think ego-boosting is great; we should do it more often. Getting hotlisted just keeps me motivated.
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    Apr 27, 2008 10:44 PM GMT
    USMmmm saidI think ego-boosting is great; we should do it more often. Getting hotlisted just keeps me motivated.


    Well, whatever you're doing, it's working. You look great.