how long will u wait?

  • itiscool

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    Jul 18, 2011 7:06 PM GMT
    After you getting the name of the person you are interested from your gym and talked with him a couple times (just casual talk), how long will you wait before you ask him out for a drink or coffee? Do you need to wait for a certain sign or signal from him before you ask to meet him out side of the gym? icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 18, 2011 7:20 PM GMT
    I usually wait till after sex before asking someone out to dinner.
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    Jul 18, 2011 7:38 PM GMT
    LOL oh Paul you crack me up.

    To OP, I would talk to him at the gym to find out about his common interest and stuff. Like if he likes to go rock climbing, you can chime in, "oooh I know this great spot at...". If he's interested he will jump in and suggest things like, "yeah let's so sometimes". You can do the same thing with hiking, river rafting etc. Guys for some reason bond better DOING STUFF TOGETHER, whereas girls bond by talking about their feelings.

    I dunno if that applies to gay guys though. Wait....I'm sure it does, because, gay guys bond in doing bedroom activities together. Yep, it applies to gay guys. Good luck and have fun!
  • mybud

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    Jul 18, 2011 9:47 PM GMT
    Ask him now but don't expect nothing...you have talked to him casually....Does he even know you're gay?????Don't let this be some contrived plan to try to seduce a straight guy...You might return home a couple of teeth short.....
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    Jul 18, 2011 10:44 PM GMT
    mybud saidAsk him now but don't expect nothing...you have talked to him casually....Does he even know you're gay?????Don't let this be some contrived plan to try to seduce a straight guy...You might return home a couple of teeth short.....


    i hear u there on this one.make sure he is gay before u say anything at all.
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    Jul 18, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    I don't wait. I will ask a guy out when I want to. If I meet a guy and get his number one night, I text or call him the next day (just wait until noon or so to make sure he isn't sleeping). I hate games so I don't play any. If I like you, you will know. But that is just me...

    EDIT: I didn't think about the possibility of him being straight. I approach it a bit more cautiously sometimes if I am not sure. Then again, I try to be fairly clear that I am flirting when we first meet.
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    Jul 18, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
    KSUOWL saidI don't wait. I will ask a guy out when I want to. If I meet a guy and get his number one night, I text or call him the next day (just wait until noon or so to make sure he isn't sleeping). I hate games so I don't play any. If I like you, you will know. But that is just me...


    Even if he's straight, apparently icon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_razz.gif

    I kid! I kid! I'm glad that your story had a good ending icon_smile.gif
  • monet

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    Jul 18, 2011 10:59 PM GMT
    I wait until he gives me a blow job in the shower before asking a guy out for a drink.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jul 18, 2011 11:08 PM GMT
    I've hung out with guys I met at the gym. I think it always starts with knowing their common interests, then asking if they wanna see a ball game or something. I don't think there is really a specific timetable.
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    Jul 18, 2011 11:11 PM GMT
    I never go to the gym looking for love or sex. So never.
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    Jul 18, 2011 11:12 PM GMT
    just wait till he asks you out.
  • itiscool

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    Jul 19, 2011 7:26 PM GMT
    i guess i will wait for him to take the first step.
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    Jul 19, 2011 7:30 PM GMT
    [quote][cite]KSUOWL said[/cite]I don't wait. I will ask a guy out when I want to. If I meet a guy and get his number one night, I text or call him the next day (just wait until noon or so to make sure he isn't sleeping). I hate games so I don't play any. If I like you, you will know. But that is just me...

    +1 Love this icon_smile.gif.
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    Jul 19, 2011 7:45 PM GMT
    Pistons saidjust wait till he asks you out.


    The thing I love about gay men is if everyone followed this rule, no one would get asked out :-)
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    Jul 19, 2011 7:57 PM GMT
    I usually give it a day or two. Even if I'm swamped with work or whatever I can find a minute to send a short text saying that it was good to meet him or something, just to stay connected.
    People put too much thought into how everything will be interpreted. Whether or not some guy feels that calling "too soon" is wierd or desperate is beyond my control.
    Having the balls to act honestly and being confident in yourself is a turn on.
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    Jul 19, 2011 8:10 PM GMT
    jawrhed saidI usually give it a day or two. Even if I'm swamped with work or whatever I can find a minute to send a short text saying that it was good to meet him or something, just to stay connected.
    People put too much thought into how everything will be interpreted. Whether or not some guy feels that calling "too soon" is wierd or desperate is beyond my control.
    Having the balls to act honestly and being confident in yourself is a turn on.


    THIS!

    I'm the most obvious man on earth when I want something. Like "stand in the street with a hard on" obvious. If I want it, you know it. Although I know it's not always true, I assume the reverse is true as well. If you're not showing interest, I'm not going to magically try and invent it in my head. I'll move on. That's the joy of dating MEN....grown men.
  • sumkindoflife

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    Jul 19, 2011 8:11 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI usually wait till after sex before asking someone out to dinner.



    LOVE.
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