Is it cheating to not know what real suffering is?

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    Jul 20, 2011 6:08 AM GMT
    I’m told that trauma builds character. I’ve heard that what really makes a man is how he acts in times of hardship. I’ve heard of parents threatening their own children if they ever bring a man home.

    Heard, but never had the dread of going through it myself. When I came out I didn’t even have to worry about my family being displeased. As thankful as I am for that I also can’t help but feel like I’ve cheated everyone who has had to hide their true selves from others.

    I know it’s unbelievably stupid and I’m probably making myself sound like an ass, but I just can’t help but ask myself why others have to suffer when I get off without a scratch. I just don’t think it’s fair that others have to endure such torture while others live their lives care free. What’s more is that I feel like there’s nothing I can do to help them. How I’d give every blessing up if only I could make someones life easier…

    I’m sorry, I know I’m sounding like a martyr, if not a full blown douche, I’ve just been really gloomy lately. One particular reason as you can guess is that I’ve been hearing more and more stories, fictional and factual, of the suffering of good people because the love someone of the same gender. It’s just really disheartening to read these and feel powerless to help them or even be able to see from their perspective. Like I’m less of a man and a being for not having known true pain like so many others…

    Again I’m sorry for the vent and will just go now.
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    Jul 20, 2011 6:23 AM GMT
    Everyone knows pain. People just experience it in different ways.
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    Jul 20, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
    if you haven't suffered yet, you will
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    Jul 20, 2011 7:41 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidEveryone knows pain. People just experience it in different ways.


    Severity is also a key element here.

    I'm quite envious of those of us whom have supporting loving families.
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    Jul 20, 2011 11:29 AM GMT
    Sometimes I think pain and happiness are relative in that whatever your situation has been, you will adapt and be able to feel happy/sad neutral no matter who you are.

    Examples: people in third world countries have no internet, no bottled water, no Nintendo Wii, but they're just as capable of being happy there. People throughout history in any country had it harder than us now, but I bet they all were just as happy as people now because that was their normal.

    So what I'm saying is that it doesn't matter where your baseline is, it's the highs and the lows from there that define your pain and joys. You're normal.
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    Jul 20, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
    Vee have vays of making you suffer......icon_twisted.gif
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    Jul 20, 2011 12:55 PM GMT
    I'm actually happy you recognize it.
    Some guy go thru life thinking they are protected like the pope mobile. I hope you don't have to suffer, but when you do, just be strong about it and face it head on.