Coming out online to everyone as a military man

  • metta

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    Jul 20, 2011 6:33 AM GMT
    Coming out online to everyone as a military man

    He is coming out as the end of DADT comes into full effect.



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    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R6U-Ocm3Nq0
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    Jul 20, 2011 8:44 AM GMT
    This is freakin COOL! Go gay USA icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 20, 2011 9:14 AM GMT
    Yeah I found this video on YouTube as well. Good for him!
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 20, 2011 9:55 AM GMT
    Agree with the above.It was a process for me to come out,I couldn`t just tell everyone,so I completely sympathize with him.I wish the guy all the best!
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    Jul 20, 2011 12:06 PM GMT
    I just watched this video to make sure I hadn't slept with him, ROFL, I've slept with my share of soldiers, I'm a sucker for men in uniform but good for him, DIE, DADT, DIE!
  • ohioguy12

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    Jul 20, 2011 1:04 PM GMT
    Honestly the whole 100 subscribers and 1000 views thing just makes him seem like an attention whore.
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    Jul 20, 2011 1:39 PM GMT
    Maybe he just wants to help others? Not often we get to go on a journey of coming out as it happens, so that will be nice for a lot of men to follow.
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    Jul 20, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidHonestly the whole 100 subscribers and 1000 views thing just makes him seem like an attention whore.
    I've put up videos that got over 1000 views in the first day. icon_wink.gif
  • groundcombat

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    Jul 20, 2011 2:29 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidHonestly the whole 100 subscribers and 1000 views thing just makes him seem like an attention whore.


    +1

    But either way I hope he stays safe and thank him for serving! ;-)
  • zenmonkie

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    Jul 20, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
    Coming out anonymously is NOT coming out. Seriously what is the point? I understand this is a first step and he doesn't want to get in trouble, and I'm sure it's very therapeutic and makes him feel better about himself, but why bother?
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    Jul 20, 2011 3:49 PM GMT
    That was rather...boring, weak, and lame.

    I agree with Awesome Hat; coming out anonymously? Does that even make sense?


    Some people are destined to live at the weakest point of the human psyche.
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    Jul 23, 2011 3:07 AM GMT
    The fact that he has a girlfriend and hasn't broken up with her yet says a lot about him in my opinion- nothing good.
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    Jul 23, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    zenmonkie saidComing out anonymously is NOT coming out. Seriously what is the point? I understand this is a first step and he doesn't want to get in trouble, and I'm sure it's very therapeutic and makes him feel better about himself, but why bother?
    That's why.

    Everyone has their own method of coming out. I applaud him for making his first step.
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    Jul 23, 2011 4:18 AM GMT
    I know A LOT of gay people in the military from living in Norfolk and most of them say that the people important to them already know and they don't see a need to flaunt it around.

    They just take comfort in being seen as equal and also that they aren't going to get in trouble for bonin dudes icon_razz.gif
  • mybud

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    Jul 23, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    We have this young kid coming out as others continue to live in the shadows..there's strength in visible numbers..just sayin...BUD
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    Jul 23, 2011 4:56 AM GMT
    mybud saidWe have this young kid coming out as others continue to live in the shadows..there's strength in visible numbers..just sayin...BUD


    I agree with this to some extent. I used to think, "I don't expect people to run up and tell me they're straight, why do I have to tell them I'm gay." But more and more I feel the need to let all of my friends know for the visibility factor and to change perceptions... All my friends from high school know and are totally cool with it to my face (they still invite me to hang out, go to bars, etc.), I don't know what they say when I'm not there and a gay issue comes up, but my hope is that if someone goes on some gay bashing rant about homos they can say (out loud, or in their mind atleast) "Its not like that, one of my friends is gay and he's totally cool," or if it comes up in the news they can understand that it affects some one they know and should give a shit about that issue.

    So I think visibility is key to gaining equality, but maybe gay pride parades, while also having the goal of increasing visibility, can have a polarizing or alienating effect... (I personally have nothing against the parades, don't flame me bro!)

    And yeah, how the hell can you have a gf and expect to be taken seriously with this (unless he's coming out as bi)
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    Jul 24, 2011 10:47 PM GMT
    ohioguy12 saidHonestly the whole 100 subscribers and 1000 views thing just makes him seem like an attention whore.


    Yea for real.

    I mean coming out in the army is hard...But he's probably going to feel a lot more backlash then he wants to hear. I know when I was that closeted the last thing I wanted to hear was a bunch of douchebags on the internet giving me shit for being a gay soldier lol.
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    Jul 25, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    I have much respect to any military guy who has the BALLS to come out. Even with the DADT stuff going on I still think it's a gamble. Over time I think it will get better and more acceptable once the you get all them old heads out and replaced (overtime) by a more accepting generation.
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    Jul 25, 2011 2:58 PM GMT
    A good beginning step.... I can understand the anxiety but at the same time... if you are coming out, YOU are coming out. Including your face.

    It will be fine, he will eventually get the guts to do it. Like he said, it may take a year.
  • metta

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    Sep 20, 2011 7:06 AM GMT
    Coming Out To His Dad

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    Sep 20, 2011 7:14 AM GMT
    Not only did it take guts to do that, but to then post it on youtube...

    Regardless, its a great day already.
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    Sep 20, 2011 7:31 AM GMT
    Inspirational. Truly inspirational. Hope he can visit RJ to see the support he has.
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    Sep 20, 2011 7:50 AM GMT
    His girlfriend won't think much of him if he comes out like this.

    This is even worse than an ugly Christmas dinner announcement.

    Edit: The second video made me tear up too. What a brave guy and what a great Dad. I remember the heart beating feeling, and I remember the relief afterwards. It was nice to watch from outside.
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    Sep 20, 2011 7:57 AM GMT
    "I will always love you, and I will always be proud of you."
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    Sep 20, 2011 8:10 AM GMT
    It's one of several reasons I decided not to attend officer candidate school.

    My first bf of one year was Navy enlisted.