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  • Quadzilla

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    Jul 20, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    how many of u guys aren't out?
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    Jul 21, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    ha this was a trap right? so they would out themselves by not being out....
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    Jul 21, 2011 10:49 PM GMT
    i_VAN saidha this was a trap right? so they would out themselves by not being out....


    uhh i think just being on realjock outs you
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    Jul 21, 2011 10:50 PM GMT
    Where we goin' out to?
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    Jul 21, 2011 10:50 PM GMT
    I dont think being on RJ outs you if you are another headless horseman......


    I am out, sorry.... does that mean I shouldn't have replied? lol
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    Jul 21, 2011 11:07 PM GMT

    Oh, cool.... an "I'm not out, but I have a profile on a gay website" get together!!
    Where is it gonna be...what time...drinks first, or dinner???....icon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gificon_rolleyes.gif
  • Quadzilla

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    Jul 30, 2011 6:37 AM GMT
    haha i was just really curious, sorry
  • DrobUA

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    Jul 30, 2011 6:41 AM GMT
    There are many of them on here... I don't think they read the forums though. Most just looking for a dl "bud"
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    Jul 30, 2011 6:46 AM GMT
    Im not out. Ive actually been thinking about how to come out to a couple of my friends. But Im not sure I can come out to my family yet. But Im working on it.
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    Jul 30, 2011 6:52 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidThere are many of them on here... I don't think they read the forums though. Most just looking for a dl "bud"


    I am one of "them", I read the forums, and am not on the search for a dl "bud". But that's gonna change soon, the not being out, not the search for dl buds.
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    Jul 30, 2011 7:07 AM GMT
    I'm out to a few people from college. Right now I'm not out to all of the people I see on a daily basis. I'm more comfortable with my sexuality now so next semester I won't make it an issue to hide who I am. Should be nice.

    EDIT: Oh and I'm not out to my family as yet. They're the only group of people who I want to tell but can't at the moment.
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    Jul 30, 2011 8:05 AM GMT
    A profile on a site such as this, especially one without a picture or face, doesn't out someone.

    Which just goes to show that there are different levels of "out".

    Typically, people first come out to a friend or two, then perhaps a small circle of friends, closer or more understanding family members, etc.

    I went that route a few decades ago. I laugh as I think back to my first visit to the local gay bar. First I was worried who might see me walking in, then I was worried about who might see me inside (this when the crowd was 95% gay).

    But I never went back to tell people I knew before. Like classmates. A few weeks ago I took Matt to my high school reunion. So now I'm pretty much out there. Made it that much less awkward when I worked the OutLoud Chorus information table at the Art Fair last week. (Saw 3 people: a visiting professor from Greece, a client and someone from high school.)

    Not that I talk openly in front of clients or some other circles (e.g. my straight football team), but if anyone looks they'll see a spectrum stripe on my car's bumper. And an HRC sticker on my suitcase (makes it much easier to spot on the conveyor belt).
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    Jul 30, 2011 8:12 AM GMT
    navy314 saidIm not out. Ive actually been thinking about how to come out to a couple of my friends. But Im not sure I can come out to my family yet. But Im working on it.


    ^ Same here
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    Jul 30, 2011 8:12 AM GMT
    It should be obvious by my public pictures that i am not out and i am not here looking for the dl bud. But I actually found this site because i found an old classmate from high school that i didn't know was gay here. He is no longer an active member though.
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    Jul 30, 2011 9:19 AM GMT
    Not out, but it hasn't become an issue yet. I suppose I'll do it when it's necessary and only for those who need to know.

    Who I chose to have sex with doesn't define me as a man. Straight people don't wave flags proclaiming their sexuality, why should I?
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    Jul 30, 2011 9:46 AM GMT
    Out to the family. On the DL with everyone else
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    Jul 30, 2011 10:43 AM GMT
    My parent knows already that I am BI. So I am out…but not to everyone I know. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 30, 2011 10:54 AM GMT
    out to mother and one of my sisters, and a couple of cousins I grew up with, not out to my father (he has a pretty good idea but we have an arrangement similar to DADT), and yeah don't tell other people (its none of their business) unless someone asks me directly and I feel like telling them...
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    Jul 30, 2011 11:55 AM GMT
    Well the answer would depend on the definition of out. Am not out to family and friends back home, but am obviously out to the new friendship circle I have in Frankfurt, besides the friends from work that I have. They really need not to know...
  • mybud

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    Aug 04, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    I gave up smellin moth balls years ago....cause it's hard to part their legs ....tiny fuckers they be
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    Aug 04, 2011 7:15 AM GMT
    I'm actually surprised by the amount of people on here who aren't out. I'm out to my friends, people I meet for the first time, and my brother and his family. I'm not out to my parents, my extended family, or my coworkers.
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    Aug 04, 2011 7:20 AM GMT
    Completely out and honest with anyone that asks. Though my sexuality isn't an immediate, defining characteristic. A least I don't think it is.
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    Aug 04, 2011 7:22 AM GMT
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    ....baby steps....
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    Aug 04, 2011 7:23 AM GMT
    Completely out. I don't advertise but I'm not afraid to talk about it.
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    Aug 04, 2011 7:23 AM GMT
    rattristare said<----------- GUILTY (ish) icon_neutral.gif


    I support you.