What to do?

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    Jul 20, 2011 8:03 AM GMT
    So I have a really close friend and we are pretty much brothers. I'm not out and I assume he's straight. I was out hanging out with him one night and we were both drinking. I looked over at his phone seeing what he was doing and saw that he was on Grindr ( gay social app ). I first denied it and pretended I didnt see it until last night when I saw he was on it again. I didn't say anything of course and he has no idea i saw it, it seens like. But I feel like its so awkward because he has a "girlfriend" (never meet) and he always trys to hook me up with chicks. What am I suppose to do? I tried putting me on his spot and I personally wouldnt want anyone to just ask me if I wasnt ready or anything. But I also dont want this awkward vibe between us when we hang out because it can't be the same anymore.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jul 20, 2011 12:57 PM GMT
    If he was on grindr right in front of you, he put himself on the spot. Call him out on it.
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    Jul 20, 2011 1:02 PM GMT
    Just forget about it, there could be plenty of reasons why he was on there, no plausible ones come to mind though.

    His sexuality shouldn't change how you feel about him nor should it confuse you if you know what I mean icon_wink.gif

    There will be a time when you'll have the perfect oppurtunity to ask him the question of where he stands, just wait for it.
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    Jul 20, 2011 2:07 PM GMT
    You're so close that you don't even know his sexuality? That's pretty odd.
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    Jul 20, 2011 5:14 PM GMT
    Dude, maybe that's YOUR opening for coming out to him. I mean there is a very very VERY small chance he is on Grindr to bash on other gay dudes through small messages and shit, so I think he would be open to your sexuality.

    It should bring you guys closer together in my eyes, after you come out to him. That would show him that he really is a brother to you, because you'd be trusting him with something that big, ya know?

    And perhaps he will then trust you enough to do the same and possibly come out to you icon_smile.gif (or he might just admit he is on Grindr...either way, I don't see any negative consequences)

    Is there anything else you're worried about other than it being "awkward"?
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    Jul 20, 2011 5:17 PM GMT
    Meat him on Grindr...icon_idea.gif
  • wild_sky360

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    Jul 20, 2011 5:32 PM GMT
    You don't have a problem. You have a solution... to being closeted. You have your best friend to confide in now.

    Just cut him some slack for being bi, or curious. That's his business, not yours to judge; especially if you don't know the girl or girls.