How do they do it?

  • gymnewby1983

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    Jul 21, 2011 5:12 PM GMT
    You know those guys you often see and dream about. They always look put together, successful, smart and have that "almost-too-good-to-be-true" look to them.
    You see them on the street, looking sharp in a business suit, not a hair out of place or a wrinkle on the shirt. You see them at the gym, doing extremely crazy workouts without ever breaking a sweat.
    You have the feeling they could snap their fingers and get whatever they need (and sometimes they do).
    And you can only guess that in the relationship department, they're at the top of their game.

    Question 1 is: how do they do it?

    It seems effortless for them, while at the same time, the average man struggles to get stuff done and look presentable.

    Question 2 is: how do you get them?

    I am the kind of guy that gets motivation from his partners. Looking up to the one I'm with is a way for me to see how I can better myself.

    Am I the only one feeling that way ?
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    Jul 21, 2011 9:26 PM GMT
    Ahhh yes those people.... its called a really great haircut, a decent understanding of clothing and how it fits and looks on your body (or assistance from someone who does), a comprehension of how they interact with their spacial surroundings and they way in which they move in it, a little bit of that who knows what (something unique to the person and their personality), and a generous serving of charm, grace, character and understanding of how people function. They aren't perfect, they just leave a positive impression that slightly distorts the visual reality, especially when you recall their memory. The reason the average man falls slightly short is because they are less conscious about their complete image at all times, where as these individuals have done that to the point where it becomes second nature or it simply always has been.

    As for the suit... well a suit is a man's best friend if you can find the style that flatters you, your golden.

    As for getting one... I'm probably the worst person to ask so I'll leave that to another, but remember perception can be very different than the reality.
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    Jul 21, 2011 9:38 PM GMT
    1. genetics, and a bit of work.

    2. you don't, usually. unless you've also got genetics, and a bit of work.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jul 21, 2011 10:48 PM GMT
    No, I know not to put anyone on a pedestal. Everyone has their imperfections.
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    Jul 22, 2011 12:42 AM GMT
    It's all about self-discipline.
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    Jul 22, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
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  • gymnewby1983

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    Jul 22, 2011 5:05 PM GMT
    Dont get me wrong, I realize how silly the question is, but I was just wondering if I was the only one noticing that.
    I agree about the genetics. If I dare say so myself, I may not have "the perfect gene", but I have a pretty good base.
    Hard work? Yes, that too... I guess the harder you work the easier it gets.
    I'm pretty sure that the average guy can date "one of those"... I like a good challenge ;)
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    Jul 22, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    Remember that you are only seeing a sliver of their lives. I'm guessing there are a lot of pieces of imperfection missing from what you see.

    However, a guy who is confident about himself and his direction in life will give you the impression that he's on top of his game. I think it requires a positive outlook, some personal goal setting, and a lot of determination.
  • gymnewby1983

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    Jul 22, 2011 5:48 PM GMT
    yeahim40 saidI think it requires a positive outlook, some personal goal setting, and a lot of determination.


    I am working on that too... It's a tip I've seen given a lot.
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    Jul 23, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    gymnewby1983 saidYou know those guys you often see and dream about. They always look put together, successful, smart and have that "almost-too-good-to-be-true" look to them.
    You see them on the street, looking sharp in a business suit, not a hair out of place or a wrinkle on the shirt. You see them at the gym, doing extremely crazy workouts without ever breaking a sweat.
    You have the feeling they could snap their fingers and get whatever they need (and sometimes they do).
    And you can only guess that in the relationship department, they're at the top of their game.

    Question 1 is: how do they do it?

    It seems effortless for them, while at the same time, the average man struggles to get stuff done and look presentable.

    Question 2 is: how do you get them?

    I am the kind of guy that gets motivation from his partners. Looking up to the one I'm with is a way for me to see how I can better myself.

    Am I the only one feeling that way ?



    You know, out of the two, I'd prefer the average man. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 23, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    These "perfect" guys often call a mirror their best friend and typically aren't very good LTR material. Usually they've crossed the line between confidence and self-absorption over to the wrong side. Look but don't touch. icon_smile.gif They enjoy the attention but would rarely be good for more than a few romps in the sack before you're cast aside. You might envy the twink or trophy wife the guy shows off, but they're arm candy to him. Before long they'll be dumped for a younger and sexier replacement. These "Adonises" are proof positive that what's on the inside counts.

    In my high school class there was one of these guys. He had "model" looks (wavy chestnut hair, Roman nose, chiseled features, the works.) Not only that, he was a standout on the football team and looked DAMN good in a singlet during wrestling season. His dad and younger brother were also studs (the bro with a dazzling grin and eyes to die for.) The father had made a mint running a sporting-goods business AND was lucky enough to cash out before the national chains invaded. Needless to say, the classmate in question was spoken for by the cutest hottest blonde cheerleader in school. Fast forward a couple of decades, and guess who had the Buddha belly and cheap rug at the class reunion? Twice divorced and hitting the bottle hard too? I don't know what became of the cute brother. But when I was working in a department store during a college break one holiday season I helped a bombshell woman in her 20's select some shirts for her husband. She was as clueless as she was hot - didn't know how to measure neck size! icon_rolleyes.gif Turns out she was Wife Number At Least Three of those hotties' dad.

    What goes around comes around. Be careful what you wish for. [Insert third cliché here icon_wink.gif ]
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    Jul 23, 2011 4:21 PM GMT
    I remember when I interned at a daytime soap opera. My first day there, as I was being shown around, I saw this male model looking guy walking toward us. Suddenly he tripped and I thought "Thank you, God." And I said that because he is one of those guys you are talking about. The moral of the story is that these guys trip, fart, puke, say the wrong thing at the wrong time, etc. You are just not around them 24/7 to see it.
  • gymnewby1983

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    Jul 23, 2011 11:50 PM GMT
    So they ARE human after all ? icon_lol.gif

    I know those cliché stories are true... I've seen them happen myself (the all-star jock who became a failed sport teacher in my case).

    I guess it's just a question of how much confidence you can project, then how you handle things that make you a good man... with some bumps on the road.

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    Jul 23, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
  • gymnewby1983

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    Jul 24, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    MsclDrew : are you trying to say that guy I usually see at the gym looking pretty much like Christian Bale in this movie is a psychotic serial killer ?

    I KNEW IT !!!