Is it common for gay guys to get curious?

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    Jul 21, 2011 7:54 PM GMT
    I think I’m bi curious. Anyone else ever dealt with this? A gay guy who realized he may be curious about chicks?

    I knew I liked boys at age 5, but had a small portion of my life, age 7 and 8, where I had crushes on girls. I had the biggest crush on a girl in 3rd grade that was so bad I got nervous around her and would even leave her anonymous love notes. Then, at age 9, it was all about boys.
    Still despite it being all about boys I had an extreme fascination with breast, and have always been blown away by beautiful women. I always felt like it was an artistic appreciation of the female form, because there was nothing sexual about it.

    I stop and think on things though, little things, like the fact that I have always masturbated to the thought of a guy sleeping with a woman. Its always been a big turn on for me and still to this day I am more attracted to a guy who has been with a woman, because it gives me something to fantasize about. I would have my ex tell me stories about girls he’d been with and would imagine what it felt like and how much fun it must have been for him.

    Lately I have weird dreams of me telling some of my best female friends that I would marry them if I wasn’t gay. Lately when I chat with them I feel this odd passion, like I want to hold on to them very tightly and closely and not let them go. They look so beautiful; so grown up; so radiant and I am just drawn to it.

    It’s just different and weird and I’m afraid to even acknowledge it because I have one time to act on it and see that I like it and it will change my life forever. Simply writing it has already done damage lol.
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    Jul 21, 2011 8:54 PM GMT
    I know two "gay" guys who ended up flipping completely, and now have long term relationships with women. One even has a kid now; dad, mom and toddler are doing great. They were not under pressure from anyone to do so. In fact, one has been ostracized by his gay friends. This whole gay/straight box thing is pretty new in human culture. For thousands of years before the 20th century people just "did it" and did not worry about the boxes. Be glad you don't fit into a box. Maybe you're not homosexual or heterosexual. You're just sexual.

    Have fun exploring icon_biggrin.gif

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    Jul 21, 2011 9:23 PM GMT
    No its not common. Dont you remember checking the box of "I want to be gay/discriminated against" when you turned 13?

    Sarcasm off.

    Just do whatever man who cares what people think. We are who we are.
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    Jul 21, 2011 9:44 PM GMT
    I knew I was gay since I can remember, but when I was 25, I started having all of these sex dreams about women. Not long after, I was at a party with some friends, met a girl (who knew I was gay) and we hung out the whole night and were having the best time and skipping to the end, we had sex.

    For me, it was fun and physically it felt good. The difference was that I didn't have an emotional connection or desire to date her, like I would have if she were a man.

    Sometimes, I still fantasize about that night and having sex with women, but emotionally, I'm just not built that way.

    Exploring your sexuality (among consenting adults) is a healthy thing to do, IMHO.
  • brendanmuscle...

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    Jul 21, 2011 9:57 PM GMT
    i dont know... the only women ive ever been curious about are really beefed up women who have arms at least 17" (solid) with muscular and big bodies..

    women that most straight guys would find hot do nothing for me at all and never have.
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    Jul 21, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    i'm actually curious at a purely intellectual level.
  • austex85

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    Jul 21, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    i make out with women all the time (to the envy of my straight friends)
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    Jul 21, 2011 10:40 PM GMT
    I've always been curious about chicks. More specifically, I'm curious as to why they're incapable of asexual reproduction. Because that would be awesome to have all males be gay, and all women just reproduce more males...and enough females to keep the species going, of course.
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    Jul 21, 2011 10:49 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI've always been curious about chicks. More specifically, I'm curious as to why they're incapable of asexual reproduction. Because that would be awesome to have all males be gay, and all women just reproduce more males...and enough females to keep the species going, of course.


    In Universe #436-35770B Timeline 162-theta, men and woke live in gender separated villages, where the women have cultivated a warrior culture and the men just spend most of their time working out and cruising each other in steam room temples at the centre of their settlements.

    Occasionally the Amazons will raid the male villages and plunder the rare 10% or so men who are exclusively attracted to women, and bring them back as sex slaves.

    Every third year, young males are released into a field outside the male village to become prey either for the wolves or for them other wolves.
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 21, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    In my experience,no.It`s usually the other way round.All the bi guys I`ve met have come there from being straight.I`ve never met a gay guy who developed an interest in women aged fourty two,having been pure gay before.
    I`m as gay as a guy can be.I`ve never been sexually attracted to women...ever,never wanted a woman,never fantasised/masturbated about a woman.I have had plenty of chances,though,as I seem to unconsciously attract them and make them feel safe(even though they don`t know I`m gay).Why I don`t know.
    I`m not turned on by a man and woman together,but I am turned on by straight/bi men,especially those who are partnered/married.I can`t explain why.Is a guy a woman agrees to marry got something going for him?
    Does a straight married guy I find attractive come trailing the merest hint of woman,thus appealing to an unknown hint of heterosexuality in me?Am I actually just a little,little bit bi?
    Halfstep,you have set me wondering.....icon_question.gif
  • rebelbeard

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    Jul 21, 2011 11:05 PM GMT
    Boy I can totally relate to this thread! I have had several bi-curious feelings/thoughts/dreams. I've always believed that sexuality is fluid so I just roll with it.

    I had a very vivid dream where I hooked up with this woman and it was so hot! I actually got off to it when I woke up because it was that stimulating. I embrace my bi-curiosity. I think it's really hot to be attracted to both sexes.
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    Jul 21, 2011 11:07 PM GMT
    Nivek saidI know two "gay" guys who ended up flipping completely, and now have long term relationships with women. One even has a kid now; dad, mom and toddler are doing great. They were not under pressure from anyone to do so. In fact, one has been ostracized by his gay friends. This whole gay/straight box thing is pretty new in human culture. For thousands of years before the 20th century people just "did it" and did not worry about the boxes. Be glad you don't fit into a box. Maybe you're not homosexual or heterosexual. You're just sexual.

    Have fun exploring icon_biggrin.gif



    I believe the term is "pansexual"? Or bisexual.
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    Jul 21, 2011 11:27 PM GMT
    Well yeah- why not? I mean- Patty Cakes will tell you that it doesn't make you a true gold card gay, but don't listen to him. He's just been trying to outgay everybody for years.
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    Jul 21, 2011 11:28 PM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos saidWell yeah- why not? I mean- Patty Cakes will tell you that it doesn't make you a true gold card gay, but don't listen to him. He's just been trying to outgay everybody for years.


    Because, you know, if your a gay man whos had sex with a girl your worthless...
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    Jul 21, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    I always knew I liked guys, but lately I've been more interested in girls. It's just being human.
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    Jul 21, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    Bullwinklemoos saidWell yeah- why not? I mean- Patty Cakes will tell you that it doesn't make you a true gold card gay, but don't listen to him. He's just been trying to outgay everybody for years.


    Because, you know, if your a gay man whos had sex with a girl your worthless...


    Testy, testy, my dear. I didn't mean that he's worthless at all. =/
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    Jul 21, 2011 11:49 PM GMT
    Nivek said... This whole gay/straight box thing is pretty new in human culture. For thousands of years before the 20th century people just "did it" and did not worry about the boxes. Be glad you don't fit into a box. Maybe you're not homosexual or heterosexual. You're just sexual.

    Have fun exploring icon_biggrin.gif




    I'm glad I'm not the only one out there that thinks this way! Fuck labels, boxes and pigeon-holes. Do what you like, don't worry about how it fits into one category or another.
  • MercuryMax

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    Jul 21, 2011 11:53 PM GMT
    I've never been curious about girls. As a matter of fact I, now, consider myself a Misogynist. Its strange tho, a guy from the hip hop group im managing asked me if I've ever been with a girl, it was weird saying no to him. Especially since he didn't admit to knowing that I'm gay. He still hasn't.
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    Jul 21, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    Bullwinklemoos said
    Chainers said
    Bullwinklemoos saidWell yeah- why not? I mean- Patty Cakes will tell you that it doesn't make you a true gold card gay, but don't listen to him. He's just been trying to outgay everybody for years.


    Because, you know, if your a gay man whos had sex with a girl your worthless...


    Testy, testy, my dear. I didn't mean that he's worthless at all. =/


    Sorry I was making fun of patty cakes not you icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 22, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    In my experience most guys who go on about how much they admire the female form or appreciate a womens raw feminine power are gay as they come...

    The straight guys are the ones thinking..."Me like titties...or maaaaaaan wanna nail that bitch"
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    Jul 22, 2011 12:22 AM GMT
    http://www.amazon.com/Sexual-Behavior-Human-Alfred-Kinsey/dp/0253334128/ref=sr_1_5?ie=UTF8&qid=1311294069&sr=8-5
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    Jul 22, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    im like the exact same way as the original poster...except i liked girls first.
    now i prefer guys but i'd totally still fuck a girl
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    Jul 22, 2011 4:43 AM GMT

    Halfstep, if you get a boner over a chick, you'd be bi, seeing as how you already get boners over guys, right? icon_wink.gif

    -Doug
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    Jul 22, 2011 5:43 AM GMT
    First I want to say thanks for all of the responses.

    I have truly NEVER heard of any other gay guys who thought they may be bi curious so I felt like a complete freak. So its a huge relief to know that I'm not the only one who has ever dealt with this.

    I'm almost certain if I tried it I would enjoy myself, and not just on the sexual level either, but believe deep downside I'd be happy with a strong man to hold me at night. I don't think it would be right to use a woman for my own experiment.

    I don't know....

    In all honesty, its not about what everyone else would think. A situation like this is truly what everyone in my family has been hoping for. Its just me.Its like I've created this identity for myself and I'm afraid to have to change it, which is stupid and pointless, but I feel conflicted is all lol.

    I guess anyone who has ever been bi curious understands what I mean.
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    Jul 22, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    From my experience, if you tell a chick you're bi and not looking for a relationship you'll get laid for sure. Then you'd have some idea of what its like. You need not tell your family. Just do it for you, if that is what you want.