GETTING THE "CHECK OUT" AT THE GROCERY STORE

  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 25, 2008 12:47 PM GMT
    We all talk about where and how gay men check each other out.. bars and the gym are at the top. Certainly the mall ranks as well.. probably anyplace.

    I'd always heard (and just sort of dismissed) the grocery "check out". I certainly don't now. I'm pretty focused when I'm in there (especially with prices these days). There can be interesting things that can happen.

    Let me say I do get looks and comments occasionally from gay men I don't know, partially because I advertise my professional services occasionally in a local gay newspaper and I'm a supporter (via show bill) with the Wichita Gay Men's Chorus.

    So here I was in Dillons, shopping, staring at food and consulting my coupons when a gay couple walks by, big smiles and they say.... "Wow and he even does coupons".
    I just said, "Well I always try and be thorough".... they kind of chuckled and said something I won't repeat here. It was interesting.

    I'm sure many of you have had intriguing "grocery store experiences".icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 25, 2008 2:43 PM GMT
    You can spot other "family" when you're in a grocery (or other) store. Gay singles and couples I see are usually better put together than straights - not always - but usually.

    Gay or bi guys will look at you or speak to you with an upbeat, cheerful aura about them, where straight guys might tend to just glance at you and then make themselves look away quickly. Gay or bi guys will often give each other the "3 second appreciative stare" and speak in stores - which is cool. Sometimes I notice gay couples shopping together - and dressed similarly - not my thing, really - but perfectly o.k.

    The good thing is I'm seeing a whole lot more of "us" out and about and on the whole, we're looking damn good - usually better than many of our straight brothers.
  • GettingFitter

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    Apr 25, 2008 2:47 PM GMT
    In the same vein, how can you tell if a cashier is checking you out and not just being friendly for customer service sake ? There is this 'kid' at my local grocery store, who has to be still in high school, who is often very friendly and smiles at me when I go through his check out. I've caught him looking at me too when I go in there on some days if only to just buy the newspaper, and he always seems to want to make eye contact with me. I'm a bit weirded out by it actually and was wondering how I would approach such an issue. I am not interested in him at all, just confused if I am reading his signals wrong.
  • jarhead5536

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    Apr 25, 2008 3:39 PM GMT
    When I lived in DC years ago, there was a small Safeway grocery store on 17th Ave NW - the "Fag Tag" off the "Fruit Loop" of DuPont Circle, at Corcoran I think, that was referred to as the "Soviet Safeway" (long lines, very expensive, always out of everything). It was the cruisiest place ever on Saturday mornings.

    Or was Q Street the Fag Tag? I can't remember anymore...
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    Apr 25, 2008 10:52 PM GMT
    In San Francisco, it is the Marina Safeway. You go in there looking buff and pumped - smile when you see a hot guy - be open, friendly, make sincere eye contact. I've had guys come up to me and ask a question about a vegetable, for instance.... or just some question they thought up to break the ice and get things started. Marina Safeway has long been known as "the" grocery store to meet quality guys.

    Here in AZ there is AJ's Market - four locations near me - and quality guys are there for the finding!
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    Apr 25, 2008 11:08 PM GMT
    lol, AH your mention of Dupont Circle in DC, brings back amusing memories. At least in DC you had an idea of what the hell was going on. Here in South Dakota, its a potentially dangerous guess.

    Although even here the occassional grocery store dance happens. I was recently walking through a Hy-Vee, and I was wearing a concert T-shirt from one of my favorite bands, and there is this hot young guy in the peanut butter isle. As I am walking past he says nice shirt, with that twinkle in his eye. Not expecting this sort of thing here, I am initially shocked, but manage to reply with something along the lines "of hell yeah bro, thanks man. He asked me something about if I was a hard core fan or just liked the new disc, to which I responded in brief detail about being a fanatical fan and how much I enjoyed the latest concert in Minneapolis. To which he asked another question regarding my favorite album, and I told him, and he responded that this was also his favorite. Next he asked me about other musical interests of the same genre.

    This one through me for quite a loop as to what the deal was with this kid. Was he simply a fellow ardent music lover, or was this kid making a hell of an effort. A few things stuck out, he was fine as hell, that usually is a good indication there is more going on then music. The hotter the guy, the greater the chance he plays for our team. Second, this was not a simple passing great shirt thing, but this was a lot of questions and conversation for a straight guy. To this day, I am not totally sure. But if I had to put money on it, I would say he was scoping things out to see where I was at.

    As far as the kids in the supermarket...I would just see how far the conversation goes and take it how it comes. Just be careful of the age. I am pretty sure this kid was legal, and I would have gladly continued it outside of the store. However, I still suffer from on the spot stupidity and forget everything I should do and say when the moment actually comes up, so I miss more chances then I should...what can you do...I should be whipped for blowing some of these opps.

  • Lucky4LfClovr

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    Apr 25, 2008 11:25 PM GMT
    YngHungSFSD said However, I still suffer from on the spot stupidity and forget everything I should do and say when the moment actually comes up, so I miss more chances then I should...what can you do...I should be whipped for blowing some of these opps.



    I can definately identify with you here. I'm a manager for a local supermarket and I've been flirted with on more than one occasion. Unfortunately I never realized it until too late. So I definately suffer from "on the spot stupidity" lol. Hopefully one day I'll get it right.
  • badtouch

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    Apr 26, 2008 12:01 AM GMT
    i should really pay more attention.

    terse even with friends, this quality amplifies in the presence of strangers, particularly hot ones. i flutter and stutter like an idiot, dart my eyes around and calculate gains on various egress strategems. i become so confused that i never stop to think about intention. later on, though, it might occur to me -- eureka! o, drat!

    either that or i assume they're drunk or otherwise incapacitated. haha
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    Apr 26, 2008 12:17 AM GMT
    I work in a grocery store, and haven't really notice men hitting on men, but there are times I have wondered. I do know from watching straight men that I work with, they will follow around any hot girl they see, I just kinda laugh and keep on working.

  • GQjock

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    Apr 26, 2008 12:22 AM GMT
    Whenever I go away to some place suburban or rural for awhile
    and then come back home....

    it's so nice to walk on the Streets down here again and have gay guys check you out

    It's so nice.... it almost brings a tear to your eye
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    Apr 26, 2008 12:24 AM GMT
    One of the funniest things happened to me at the grocery store once.

    The grocery clerk (who is a cute guy) asked if I needed help out to the car with my groceries. I said no thanks, I've got it and he said, No, really let me help. So I said ok.

    We chatted a little on the way out to my car and when the groceries where all in my car, he asked me out. I said sure. He wanted me to go to a party the following weekend with me. So I gave him my number and told him to get the details to me.

    So a couple days later I was in the store again and the same thing happened. As we were walking out to the car he said, "I saw your daughter at school today". I said or, are you a teacher too? And he said, "no I'm a student".

    I was taken back a bit and asked how old he was, he said, "how old do you want me to be?"

    Needless to say, we didn't go out. But we did laugh everytime we ran into each other at the store.
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    Apr 26, 2008 12:52 AM GMT
    I recently got hit on at my local grocery store... Meijer (a classier, cleaner, organized version of Wal-mart for you non-midwesterners).

    I am wondering what tipped him off... he must of had great gaydar... or maybe it was me stocking up on organic black beans... you never know!

    It is flattering... yet creepy.
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    Apr 26, 2008 4:04 AM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidYou can spot other "family" when you're in a grocery (or other) store. Gay singles and couples I see are usually better put together than straights - not always - but usually.

    Gay or bi guys will look at you or speak to you with an upbeat, cheerful aura about them, where straight guys might tend to just glance at you and then make themselves look away quickly. Gay or bi guys will often give each other the "3 second appreciative stare" and speak in stores - which is cool. Sometimes I notice gay couples shopping together - and dressed similarly - not my thing, really - but perfectly o.k.

    The good thing is I'm seeing a whole lot more of "us" out and about and on the whole, we're looking damn good - usually better than many of our straight brothers.


    I thought I wasn't giving off any signals, I guess I was wrong. lol