Are you more prudish when you talk to a guy you really really like?

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    Jul 22, 2011 11:34 AM GMT
    Well, are you? I am in no way a prudish person, but I realized I am a total prude when I talk to this guy on RJ that I have a crush on. He just fits the image of my ideal BF so well, and I just keep feeling that there is something there between us. I dunno, but it could also be my imagination at work lol. The conversation has never crossed the line and has remained innocent. I am not sure if he likes me as well, or he's just being friendly with me.....

    Back to topic, let's discuss if you are more prudish and locks up your inner slut when you talk to a guy you really like.
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    Jul 22, 2011 11:36 AM GMT
    No,rather the reverse actually!
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    Jul 22, 2011 1:10 PM GMT
    Prudish, no... bashful, yes.
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    Jul 22, 2011 1:42 PM GMT
    When I was single and in "hunt mode" I approached each guy, and each situation, differently. I evaluated the guy, and decided what method to use: to be a little bashful & reserved; disinterested; friendly and open to chatting; or full-out aggressive.

    I did no differently approaching a guy I especially liked, except for being extra careful, and maybe studying him a little more intently, to make sure I didn't misread him and screw it up. I'll remain military until the day I die, a man of tactics & plans, very little spontaneous about me. And totally in control (well, almost totally) of most situations I encounter.
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    Jul 22, 2011 1:58 PM GMT
    Really depends on whatever rapport I have established (if any).

    Starting with zero familiarity, I'd approach with good manners and reserve.

    But if I know he is open to flirty/suggestive conversation, then "go and do likewise".
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    Jul 24, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    This is EXACTLY what happens to me.
    I don't know why, but I noticed that I really act reserved /prudish with guys I like icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 24, 2011 1:37 PM GMT
    Yes.

    Always have.

    I guess I can't help it. I become very "well behaved" and I measure my words (probably the only time I do so).

    I've found that it works a bit to try and gain someone's attention.

    But the situation changes after the first kiss. I'm a firm believer of passionate kisses. That's the time to let loose and say what crosses your mind and let your body do the work...

    OK, gotta go have ice cream now... Belgian Chocolate with fresh strawberries.
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    Jul 24, 2011 1:41 PM GMT
    sahem62896 saidPrudish, no... bashful, yes.


    That's exactly right! I get really bashful icon_redface.gif hehe.
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    Jul 24, 2011 1:51 PM GMT
    Yes! I am so glad this topic was brought up.

    I know I talk dirty shit on the forum, and I have no problem doing friendly bantering with other guys and making completely horndog comments. In my real life though I am not as outrageous as I am (well, unless I am hanging out with Jake like last night icon_lol.gif but hanging out with him always turns outrageous no matter what). But if I am really serious about this guy that I am talking to, I would talk about stuff like common interest, things he and I enjoy to do...you know, like totally vanilla talk. Usually the more prudish and/or bashful I am, that means the more I am really trying to make a good impression on this guy. Hopefully we are able to form a deeper connection from there, because for me, I think a meaningful relationship starts with (besides the very initial physical attraction) the strongest aphrodisiac of them all - the mind.

    Oh btw, I am a total romantic...wait, not sure how that applies to this topic though. icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 6:44 AM GMT
    sahem62896 saidPrudish, no... bashful, yes.

    This.
    I always want to take it slower since I like them. So I'll be more cute and do things that register as caring rather than jumping right at some things.
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    Jul 25, 2011 6:46 AM GMT
    Art_Deco saidWhen I was single and in "hunt mode" I approached each guy, and each situation, differently. I evaluated the guy, and decided what method to use: to be a little bashful & reserved; disinterested; friendly and open to chatting; or full-out aggressive.

    I did no differently approaching a guy I especially liked, except for being extra careful, and maybe studying him a little more intently, to make sure I didn't misread him and screw it up. I'll remain military until the day I die, a man of tactics & plans, very little spontaneous about me. And totally in control (well, almost totally) of most situations I encounter.


    Sheesh, what happened to just being yourself lol
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    Jul 25, 2011 6:46 AM GMT
    When I like someone, I wanna run and hide
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    Jul 25, 2011 7:25 AM GMT
    I am not prudish and in fact I've been accused of being a pig. As much as I hate to admit it I do try to figure out if a guy is overtly sexual. I can be conservative in conversation as well because when you get down to it, it's really the action that counts. If all he does is talk about sex I lose interest.