Working as a dancer at the local male entertainment club/ strip joint.

  • Osiris_Blade

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    Jul 23, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    Last night was my first night at a club called Chaser's. I had fun but my problem and question lies in some of the activities. I noticed some of the other boys letting the patrons touch and grope on them or even pay extra for some other "acts".
    When I was working in Savannah doing the same thing, it was never allowed for such things. So, I am not used it.
    Would I be wrong to tell someone that I don't do what those other boys "provide"? Or should I just go with the flow and let it happen?
    I don't want to seem like a prude or a dick but I am also not a piece of meat... Thoughts?
  • rnch

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    Jul 23, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    Kulai123 said.... don't want to seem like a prude or a dick but I am also not a piece of meat... Thoughts?


    as an "exotic dancer" at a club, you ARE a "piece of meat".

    if you cannot get over this fact of the universe; then you are in the wrong line of work.




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  • Osiris_Blade

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    Jul 23, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    Oh and a little side note: I am the only truly masculine dancer there. I am also the only one with any muscle. And I don't dance on the pole...
  • Osiris_Blade

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    Jul 23, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    rnch said
    Kulai123 said.... don't want to seem like a prude or a dick but I am also not a piece of meat... Thoughts?


    as an "exotic dancer" at a club, you ARE a "piece of meat".

    if you cannot get over this fact of the universe; then you are in the wrong line of work.




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    Well my definition of "piece of meat" is being groped, fondled and molested at my place of work. If I could scale all of that to being "eye candy", I would be more comfortable. Which is why I used the comparison of Savannah, where you could tip but not touch.
  • Osiris_Blade

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    Jul 23, 2011 4:00 PM GMT
    And before this thread gets too far. I realize "piece of meat" was a bad choice of words. I would like to replace that with "escort/prostitute/hustler".
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    Jul 23, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    i know chasers

    in my experience, HERE you don't see people making a difference between an exotic dancer and a hustler who is auditioning for work. people may like that you dance, but in that market, they are paying to get close to your body.

    there are other markets where go-go dancers are just eye candy. i've never run into it in charlotte.

  • rnch

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    Jul 23, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    kulai, up on a stage, wearing only a speedo (or less), with the way you look and are built....guys are going to want to be ALL OVER YOU.

    that's just another rule of the universe.

    in your chosen line of work; customers are going to assume you are "for hire"....unless you make it clear otherwise.
  • Osiris_Blade

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    Jul 23, 2011 4:20 PM GMT
    @rnch That is kinda what I was looking for. I wouldn't be wrong for laying down some ground rules or being up front and saying "I don't do those things..."?

    Like I have no problems with giving a hug or letting them put an arm around me. It is when they "tip" and attempt to give me a prostate exam that bothers me.
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    Jul 23, 2011 4:24 PM GMT
    Kulai123 saidWould I be wrong to tell someone that I don't do what those other boys "provide"? Or should I just go with the flow and let it happen?
    I don't want to seem like a prude or a dick but I am also not a piece of meat... Thoughts?


    My only experience is with the WeHo go-go scene, and it my understanding that being ogled, touched, and groped is part of the job...if you want tips.

    Sex acts are a different story; I've never seen that happen in WeHo.

    At any rate, you have to set your own boundaries. Just know that there may be consequences or benefits for your reputation, popularity, and potential for tips/future work based on those boundaries.

    Some trade-off work for some people, not so much for others. You'll need to figure out what you are and are not willing to do -- and what's realistic in terms of environment and behavior when dancing almost naked for drunk gay guys.

    Surely it doesn't help that many in your profession are major sluts. You just have to make clear that's not who you are.
  • rnch

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    Jul 23, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    Kulai123 said@rnch That is kinda what I was looking for. I wouldn't be wrong for laying down some ground rules or being up front and saying "I don't do those things..."?

    Like I have no problems with giving a hug or letting them put an arm around me. It is when they "tip" and attempt to give me a prostate exam that bothers me.





    perhaps living here in one of the great gay cities of the world (new orleans), and knowing more than a couple of cute "exotic gay dancers" and what they go thru at work, i can sympathise with you more than other guys here....

    what you want to do is. ..possible...but i suspect you will be facing an uphill battle with your expectations. most customers in a gay dance/strip club are going to expect the worst of you....and try to get it from you.

    some clubs (and it's patrons) are more "high class" than others....you may want to consider another job location after you get some stage experience?
  • Osiris_Blade

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    Jul 23, 2011 4:37 PM GMT
    Like I have gotten the "sex interview" from numerous guys. I always tell them that there are certain questions I will not answer because I know that they will get an idea about me. I am trying to stay as anonymous as possible. I will tell them my name(stage), age, and where I am from. Once the questions dip into my sex preference, position preference or any of the like; I usually don't talk to them long after that.