How To Hate Someone

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    Apr 26, 2008 1:34 AM GMT
    'k, that is pretty strong statement but it got your attentionicon_biggrin.gif. Actually, I need to find a way to hate this guy I just met so I don't have to fall for him - which I think I am starting to. How does one go about to accomplish it?
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    Apr 26, 2008 12:44 PM GMT
    erm... why?! icon_neutral.gif

    You can still avoid falling for him without hating him.






























    okay okay! Just ask him if he finds you attractive, and if he hems and haws, hate him for hating you because you're beautiful! icon_cool.gif
  • GQjock

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    Apr 27, 2008 11:24 AM GMT
    Why the evil intent?

    Ask the dude out...
    and if he says no or gives you some kinda excuse

    ...then you have an excuse to hate him all you want icon_evil.gif
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 27, 2008 12:48 PM GMT
    The word "hate" is overused. It should rarely be exercised.

    The reality here is you want to see this guy with some negative light so you won't be encouraged to ask him out... isn't that about it?

    I agree with Sedative and GQ. Maybe he will be fun and a good date, someone you might want to fall for. If he treats you unfairly, then you have a good reason to look at him with some negativism.
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    Apr 28, 2008 3:05 AM GMT
    Kansman, you're right and very insightful. I just want to find something negative about him so I can convince myself he's not right for me. I am new to this game - gay dating, that is. I think it's karma. When I was dating girls for some inexplicable reason they would fall for me so easily, couldn't figure out why? Now I know: they want what they can't have. Is it the same for guys? I think this dude is playing me. He said he would call to have dinner the next day. The dude texted me at 6:30pm to say hi (noted he didn't say anything about dinner). I was expecting he'd call much earlier. Anyway, I texted back to say I was having dinner (he said he was drinking at the time). I called and left message for him that night wishing him a good trip since he was to fly out the next day for a week. And that was it. He never called me back. What the hell does it mean? Should I wait for him to make the next move? Or should I find something negative about him to hate - like his drinking - so I can move on? I need to learn how to decode this stupid gay dating game.
  • PRDGUY

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    Apr 28, 2008 8:40 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidThe word "hate" is overused. It should rarely be exercised.

    The reality here is you want to see this guy with some negative light so you won't be encouraged to ask him out... isn't that about it?

    I agree with Sedative and GQ. Maybe he will be fun and a good date, someone you might want to fall for. If he treats you unfairly, then you have a good reason to look at him with some negativism.



    Very true,
    as i fell so deeply in love, it seems like i wanna destroy the best thing that ever has happened to me!

    I look back and the best/only reason i can cum up with is very simple, pure and easy:

    "I am so scared, yes, of being truly hurt, that i look for a reason, [not to say there are sum]." But when he always says in the middle of the worst fight 'I Love You, always will, and nothing will ever change that NO MATTER WHAT!'

    Which of course makes me more insecure.... i swear that if i shot him he'd apologize for 'getting in the way of the bullet' LOL!!! So I luv him unconditionally forever despite that lingering fear.

    A WISE PERSON ONCE SAID THAT IN ORDER TO HATE ONE MUST LOVE.
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    Apr 28, 2008 9:55 AM GMT
    I have never heard anyone ask how to hate someone! This is one for the books. I don't hate easily. Unfortunately I don't love easily either.

    Life is full of risks. But the biggest risk is not taking any risks and always playing it safe. Go on a date, maybe you will fall for him and he will fall for you, and you will look back on how you nearly screwed it up by not wanting to be hurt.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 28, 2008 12:18 PM GMT
    espada saidKansan, you're right and very insightful. I just want to find something negative about him so I can convince myself he's not right for me.



    I don't think you need to drag up negativism all the time to make you act a certain way.

    To me, the issue is control.. control of your emotions and your behavior. I don't allow other men to jerk my emotions unless I trust them to do so... until they reach that point they aren't allowed to do that.
    Go on about your business. Call him once and say hello, but don't EVER hang around, wait or base your actions on his. He hasn't earned that.
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    Apr 29, 2008 3:34 AM GMT
    You all are right. It is really is the question of control and I am afraid to hand someone over that much power over me. The problem is I am a total newbie. I wonder if I am interested in him because he sorta gave the signal that he's interested in me first - we met at this 3-day event and he kept hanging around talking to me. He gave me his phone number when we parted and asked me to call him to make sure I arrive home safely - kinda cool, I thought. Said he would call the next day to setup a dinner and the rest you all know. So, is this guy jerking me around? BTW, thanks for all your input.
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    Apr 30, 2008 5:01 AM GMT
    To hate somebody you merely have to dis like them to a greater degree. This is relatively easy. Especially those who torment you. I do not surrgest physical violence,contraty to popular belief not a good way to find a BF just something to do that will have them lose the things that they love.

    Words to live by, "Lust is to other Passions what the Nervous fulid is to life, it supports them all, lends strenght to them all, ambition, cruelty, acarice, Reveenge are all founded on LUST. " Therefore think of hate as a lust for the negative or DARK SIDE BTW the quote is from Marquis de Sade.