It's late in the night, I was stricken by lonliness...

  • Ciao

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    Jul 23, 2011 5:56 PM GMT
    I was wandering in another forum just now, reading the posts concerning relationship experiences. Again, i was lost. I've not yet been involved in any romance 'cause i have not even tried(dare not, maybe). How long will this last? Now I still need some courage to get rid of singleness. So HOW did you get to know your partners?
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    Jul 23, 2011 7:13 PM GMT
    Just decide that you are going to try and give a relationship a chance.
    Expect it to be the best and start going on dates and do not read too
    much these kind of forum about relationship drama... start clean
    with positive expectations ... you know what and who can make you
    feel good. :-)
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    Jul 24, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    Well you know being in a 20+ year relationship, it's been such a long time since I had to start over agin, or start agin. Building foundations on friendship first, and not lust. No I do not root one the first many dates no matter how much I want to. because to me the other needs to have controle over his dick too, as I have witnessed so much damage in my life from guys putting their dick first, even before an others well being.

    The 20+ year relationship I am in is with a Yankee, and the other one I had was with a Russian, and it was so natural the flow just happend, and we stared to bond on our very first meeting.

    I don't make it happen, it just did.
  • Ciao

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    Jul 25, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    I knew this won't help much, but thank you guys, thank you all the same!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 25, 2011 12:45 PM GMT
    I think you need to converse wtih some others on sites like this one. Approach it strictly from the standpoint of friendship. As you visit with others, you will gain confidence to sometime, meet somebody. A guy who intrigues you. It might just be a friend, but maybe.

    The point is, you will have made an effort... you will not have put yourself "out there", but gradually. I'm confident if you take and invest time, you will be successful in developing a variety of relationships...... including a romantic relationship with another man.
  • Ciao

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    Jul 27, 2011 9:29 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidI think you need to converse wtih some others on sites like this one. Approach it strictly from the standpoint of friendship. As you visit with others, you will gain confidence to sometime, meet somebody. A guy who intrigues you. It might just be a friend, but maybe.

    The point is, you will have made an effort... you will not have put yourself "out there", but gradually. I'm confident if you take and invest time, you will be successful in developing a variety of relationships...... including a romantic relationship with another man.



    The truth is, there is few chance for me to develop a romantic relationship with someone in everyday life. I'm afraid that i can only start with a bar, gym or website.
    I used to stand still there and expect that one day 'the one' will be right there . How ridiculous!

    Anyhow, it is also a relief to chat with you guys here!icon_biggrin.gif