Moving Tomorrow with my best friend!

  • mizu5

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    Jul 24, 2011 6:51 PM GMT
    SO my best friend and I go to UBC, in Vancouver. We grew up in Toronto. Known each other 7 years.

    Tomorrow at 730 am we fly out to vancouver, to move in together, and never come back here.

    SO tell me stories, good ones, bad ones. whatever. Any hints? tricks? Living with a bestfreind or roommate? Looking for apartments? give me life lessons boys, for I am 20 and need the wisdom of those who came before. And because I don't wanna fuck shit up too bad.

    So hit me with your knowledge baby ; D
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    Jul 24, 2011 7:00 PM GMT
    I moved in with my best friend of 20 years in 2008 when he moved to Chicago to go to graduate school. We only lived together 4 months. I wanted to kill him at the end of those 4 months. We're ok now that we don't live together.
  • mizu5

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    Jul 24, 2011 7:09 PM GMT
    Ahaha I see. Why?

    She and I have spent a lot of time living together at my house in Toronto, so I know that'll be fine, our habits work together.
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    Jul 24, 2011 7:44 PM GMT
    I have never lived with a best friend, but based on my experience with living with strangers and knowing a few people who have lived with their friends, I can tell you that this is one of those 50-50 situations. You are going to come out of this either bonding even more with your best friend or developing resentment towards her.

    This can be really unpredictable if you did not actually live with your best friend for more than a few weeks or months. At first or for a short period of time, it seems like a fun idea since living together would be like having a sleepover with your best friend for every night. But when you live together with someone under a year contract or so, you guys have to depend on each other to be responsible and respectful, which obviously is not as easy to do as it may sound.

    Well, anyways, good luck with the whole moving in thing - I really hope it works out.
  • Jerebear

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    Jul 24, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    mizu5 saidSO my best friend and I go to UBC, in Vancouver. We grew up in Toronto. Known each other 7 years.

    Tomorrow at 730 am we fly out to vancouver, to move in together, and never come back here.

    SO tell me stories, good ones, bad ones. whatever. Any hints? tricks? Living with a bestfreind or roommate? Looking for apartments? give me life lessons boys, for I am 20 and need the wisdom of those who came before. And because I don't wanna fuck shit up too bad.

    So hit me with your knowledge baby ; D


    I've lived with a few friends over the years, and when it worked out (which was most of the time, fortunately) we became extremely close, closer than family almost.

    Girls tend to want to control the space, even if they are relaxed about cleanliness and that sort of thing, they tend to want things their way, so as the guy you are more likely to have to be flexible and give in to that. But thats a generalization, that might not be true in your case. It just happened to be true in mine. Fortunately I dont give a shit if that chair goes in that corner or the other one, for example.

    Its good to be conscious of the fact that bitchiness can happen and dont take it personally. She may just need some space, and its not you, its her.

    If you are looking for apartments in Vancouver the thing I've found that works best is simply picking the area you want to live in and walk up and down the streets calling numbers on the building if they say vacancy. That way you are looking purpose-built apartments only. So many of the ads in craigslist and the like are people with investment condos, and if you rent a condo then not only are dealing with your landlord, you are dealing with a strata council, and EVERY strata council in Van has an old coot with too much time on his/her hands. I would avoid that situation. There's plenty to rent around here despite what people think, you just have to go physically look for it, rather than looking for it online.

    Just some ideas...hope that helps....
  • Jerebear

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    Jul 24, 2011 7:56 PM GMT
    oh yeah, and if its the west end you are looking at, ask any random person you see while you are in the building about bed bugs.
  • mizu5

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    Jul 24, 2011 9:18 PM GMT
    Ahaha I am looking west end! icon_razz.gif oh shitt
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    Jul 24, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidI moved in with my best friend of 20 years in 2008 when he moved to Chicago to go to graduate school. We only lived together 4 months. I wanted to kill him at the end of those 4 months. We're ok now that we don't live together.


    Did he have an aversion to Bacon and Cookies?
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    Jul 25, 2011 2:19 AM GMT
    Friends and roommates generally don't mix in my experience.

    My best friend and I have lived together on different occasions, but then it turns into this Will and Grace episode that won't end.
    It's nice now she lives at least in the same time zone, but far enough away to be safe.
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    Jul 25, 2011 2:21 AM GMT
    I've never moved in with a best friend, but I've become best friends with some roommates, so it goes both ways.
  • Syphon

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    Jul 25, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    I moved with my best friend to Vancouver two years ago when I was 19, it was the best experience of my life.

    Also we lived in Burnaby because it's cheap and quiet and there are a lot of really beautiful parks that we spent a lot of time smoking weed in. icon_smile.gif But since you're going to UBC, it's not worth the hour transit trip.

    I had to come home for university though. Lame.

    Probably should have found a place before you moved. I hope you at least have a job lined up because Vancouver is pretty much the shittiest place for finding jobs, much less a job that pays anything half decent.
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    Jul 25, 2011 3:23 AM GMT
    Can't say it will be a bad thing to move in with your best friend, can't say it is good. One thing I think is scary is to find out she walks around naked in the apartment icon_eek.gif. Anyways good luck with y'all moving and hope it works out icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 3:37 AM GMT
    In most cases you'd be better off moving in with a stranger; but there's one occasion when my best friend as a roomy for 6 months. It was great the whole time...hated to see him leave but knew he had to.
  • mizu5

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    Jul 25, 2011 5:21 AM GMT
    navi_saiyan2 saidCan't say it will be a bad thing to move in with your best friend, can't say it is good. One thing I think is scary is to find out she walks around naked in the apartment icon_eek.gif. Anyways good luck with y'all moving and hope it works out icon_razz.gif
    we will both be naked.in underwear a lot. thank god shes hot.

    and ahah to the burnaby comment. but yes, love parks and weed and sorry you had to go home icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 7:58 AM GMT
    Y U NEVER COME BACK TO TORONTO? icon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gificon_cry.gif