Would you change your last name if you got married?

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    Jul 25, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    Curious question.

    Would you hyphenate it? So it'd be yourlast-hislast
    Keep your own?
    Or change both to one of yours?
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    Jul 25, 2011 7:23 AM GMT
    I wouldn't. Not for some long drawn-out anti-romantic reason, but for the mere practicalities of everything that's already registered under my name. In today's world you need relationships to be as practical as possible, and the name changing part just seems like one of the more outdated hetero-normative carryovers from the traditional marriage mold.
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    Jul 25, 2011 7:26 AM GMT
    Also now that I think about it the name change belies the uber outdated supposition that man is superior to woman, thus her life and identity are defined by the man she marries. /feminazi
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    Jul 25, 2011 7:27 AM GMT
    AND ALSO...nah I'm just fucking around. I'm bored and ronery =(
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    Jul 25, 2011 8:51 AM GMT
    Depends on his last name. I'd probably just add it to the end of my name, so I would be "Andrew mylast hislast".
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    Jul 25, 2011 10:05 AM GMT
    Depends if his last name is focker than... I'd keep mine icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 10:13 AM GMT
    No, because the hypenated version would be a huge mouthful and I wouldn't take his name because it's too generic.

    Not sure what our (possible) kids would be called though...that's a tough one!
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    Jul 25, 2011 11:11 AM GMT
    Yes.

    It think it's romantic, call me old fashioned... but only if both guys change (actually ADD) each other"s names.

    Mine would be a mouthful! icon_eek.gif
  • Lincsbear

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    Jul 25, 2011 11:12 AM GMT
    No,I value it too much.
  • BardBear

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    Jul 25, 2011 12:27 PM GMT
    I have a hideous name to begin with (it's the same name of someone who started a vicious cult), so when I got married, I was totally gung-ho to change it. I ended up going with a hyphenate, which is great for when I write. Makes me sound all Britishy and formal.

    PM me and I can elaborate more.

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  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 25, 2011 12:33 PM GMT
    I'd probably seriously consider it. However, which name appears first... and last might be a disagreement of its own....
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    Jul 25, 2011 12:37 PM GMT
    probably not, my first name is long, my last name is short, so they balance each other out...unless i really liked my partner's last name, that'd probably be the only reason id change mine.
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    Jul 25, 2011 12:44 PM GMT
    If he has a good last name, yes.

    I've never been a fan of hyphenations. It just seems like you couldn't make your mind up so decided to include both, much to the inconvenience of just about everyone.

    Also, I've found people with hyphenated names end up adopting one or the other anyway.
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    Jul 25, 2011 12:45 PM GMT
    It depends on what Ariodante's last name is and whether it'd suit me icon_razz.gif
  • Iakona

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    Jul 25, 2011 1:24 PM GMT
    I hyphenated my last name with my husband.
  • thisguy023

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    Jul 25, 2011 1:30 PM GMT
    When we got married we thought about it, for a second. Hyphens are clumsy, my first name with his last sounded funny and his first name with my last name was weird because he would have the exact same name as my brother. That creeped me out. So, we both kept our own.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jul 25, 2011 1:34 PM GMT
    I think one person changing their last name isnot just a formality, but also a sign of commitment. I'm not sure if I'd change my last name or he would, but we would work it out.
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    Jul 25, 2011 1:35 PM GMT
    I would keep mine and not change it.
  • masculumpedes

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    Jul 25, 2011 2:11 PM GMT
    I would probably not change it as I already have a hyphenated last name.icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    I like my middle name but, I guess if I were to have to ad/ change something I would use that. Not a fan of hyphenated names
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    Jul 25, 2011 2:35 PM GMT
    That's an interesting question. So if guy A's name is Adam Robinson and guy B's name is Steve Brown. After they married:

    Guy A becomes Adam Robinson-Brown.

    Guy B becomes Steve Brown-Robinson.

    That's how I would like to have it.

    But then what happens to the kids' last name? Will it be Robinson-Brown, or Brown-Robinson? Flip a coin to decide, I guess??


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    Jul 25, 2011 2:38 PM GMT
    So going to take his name, it starts with an 'A'...love being called first.
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    Jul 25, 2011 7:49 PM GMT
    killer_pj saidIt depends on what Ariodante's last name is and whether it'd suit me icon_razz.gif


    Mine's already long and hyphenated, I don't think you'd want it icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    Yes, but it wouldn't be his last name or a hyphenated version of mine and his. I'd change it to 'Kardashian'.
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    Jul 25, 2011 7:53 PM GMT
    I would change it to Rockefeller-Vanderbilt-Hearst wether I got married or not.