I seem to attract older guys but rarely guys my own age

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    Jul 25, 2011 5:13 PM GMT
    Hi all

    Anyone else had this issue? I have ALWAYS struggled with my peer group, and seem to attract men in the late 30s early 40s and upwards.

    I generally find them more mature and less full of that bullshit but Im also wondering if Im really attractive to guys my age.

    I guess I just feel intimidated, cos Im generally not a party aniumal, creative etc and like chats etc of depth etc...

    is this something to be concerned about???
  • nubScotty

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    Jul 25, 2011 6:29 PM GMT
    Eh I'm in a similar boat lately dating guys 30+, I'm 23. Don't see anything wrong with it, or you for that matter, not exactly your age but find you attractive so no reason guys in your age group shouldn't.
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    Jul 25, 2011 6:30 PM GMT
    SoCalScotty saidEh I'm in a similar boat lately dating guys 30+, I'm 23. Don't see anything wrong with it, or you for that matter, not exactly your age but find you attractive so no reason guys in your age group shouldn't.


    I am too but that is because I seek out the 30+. I find them much hotter than the youngings that are out there myself.

    They seem to like me for some reason...
  • nicehottie24

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    Jul 25, 2011 8:24 PM GMT
    Same here, I'm 23 and I always seem to attract older people in their 30 or 40 and even early 50. I don't know why, it feels like either people my age aren't mature enough, or either they aren't into getting in a relationship at all. or maybe people our age are more shy to hit on other people their age, I don't know about that. Anyway, I have to say, even thought I wish I could date someone around my age, I'm starting to have a preference for older guys since they are mostly the ones who are hitting on me.
  • ohioguy12

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    Jul 25, 2011 8:26 PM GMT
    I agree, I think the younger guys are just more shy to approach people most the time
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    Jul 25, 2011 8:33 PM GMT
    M friend is 42 and just started dating a 23 year old. I hung out with the
    And it's a litte weird
  • cookingitswee...

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    Jul 25, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    That's perfectly fine. My boyfriend is in his 50s and I love him so much. We've been dating almost two months and he's the mest amazing guy <3
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    Jul 25, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 saidM friend is 42 and just started dating a 23 year old. I hung out with the
    And it's a litte weird


    Well this is the thing with people in their forthy, they come to their midlife crisis, so to test themselves just to see if they are still attractive they try to date with younger guys. If your friend and his new boyfriend both think that their relationship can work, then I don't see a problem with that.
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    Jul 25, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    You're 35. What's wrong with "men in their late 30s and early 40s"?

    Don't get me wrong, you're good looking, and I'm sure there are many people in their 20s who would give chase, bit I'm not surprised you're getting so much attention from this particular age group.
  • wild_sky360

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    Jul 25, 2011 8:53 PM GMT
    I think the older you get, the less age matters. As long as you are mutually attracted to the older guys, then there isn't any need for concern. I also think that physically, you would be equally attractive to both younger and older. There must be other factors leading to your association with older men. It may even be circumstantial, since you implied you're not traveling in the same social circles as the younger guys.

    In my case, I can't figure it out...why it's always younger guys that are attracted to me....considerably younger.
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    Jul 25, 2011 9:11 PM GMT
    Yes I seem to always have this issue. I actually haven't dated anyone that is my age or age group ever. I have only dated guys in their 30s-late 40s. I'm not sure why but I also attract older guys. It's not a problem for me but I'm also curious why guys my age never try to flirt or go out with me.
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    Jul 25, 2011 9:21 PM GMT
    I tend to attract the older guy crowd as well. Which is weird. I like older guys, don't get me wrong, they are way more mature and the kind of guys I sometimes like to have conversations with. Just wish I attracted guys closer to my age. One drawback to that is, guys my age are hot, but 9 times out of 10 when they open their mouths it always a let down. Horny little devils and all they want is sex. Granted I'm just as horny but damn is that all people my age think about?
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    Jul 25, 2011 9:27 PM GMT
    navy314 saidI tend to attract the older guy crowd as well. Which is weird. I like older guys, don't get me wrong, they are way more mature and the kind of guys I sometimes like to have conversations with. Just wish I attracted guys closer to my age. One drawback to that is, guys my age are hot, but 9 times out of 10 when they open their mouths it always a let down. Horny little devils and all they want is sex. Granted I'm just as horny but damn is that all people my age think about?


    haha that is the same question I ask myself all the time
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    Jul 25, 2011 10:58 PM GMT
    nicehottie23 said
    Dallasfan824 saidMy friend is 42 and just started dating a 23 year old. I hung out with them, and it's a litte weird...


    Well this is the thing with people in their forties, they come to their midlife crisis, so to test themselves just to see if they are still attractive they try to date with younger guys. If your friend and his new boyfriend both think that their relationship can work, then I don't see a problem with that.


    I dont think its the midlife crisis theory, thats too easy.
    I attract guys of different ages, but lately it has been the guys older than me who are attracted. But then lately also i have been looking to hook up with younger guys, not because i want to test if they like me back.
    I just wanna fuck 'em, lol! icon_twisted.gif

    And as for Dallasfan, i think i know who youre talking about; hes always attracted to older guys, never to guys his age.
    To each his own.
  • Spiritreaver

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    Jul 25, 2011 11:27 PM GMT
    Same for me, in fact most guys my age ignore/reject me. Just gonna take what I can get. If young guys wanna play games, they can play games. I'll go get someone serious and worth having around.
  • laxdude25

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    Jul 25, 2011 11:30 PM GMT
    I have been fortunate in being able to be pretty age indifferent in terms of guys., right now, I'm connecting more with younger guys, not for any weird father/son or other dynamic, but just because we share something like soccer or surfing or skiing or something else in common, and it turns out we also have hot sex and like to hang out. no complaints. btw, recently I have connected with guys from as young as 21 or up to 42, and it's worked just fine.
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    Jul 25, 2011 11:33 PM GMT
    blactor saidHi all

    Anyone else had this issue? I have ALWAYS struggled with my peer group, and seem to attract men in the late 30s early 40s and upwards.

    I generally find them more mature and less full of that bullshit but Im also wondering if Im really attractive to guys my age.

    I guess I just feel intimidated, cos Im generally not a party aniumal, creative etc and like chats etc of depth etc...

    is this something to be concerned about???




    THIS from the guy who started a "Chronically Lonely" thread? icon_rolleyes.gif

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/1705112/
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    Jul 25, 2011 11:40 PM GMT
    Spiritreaver saidSame for me, in fact most guys my age ignore/reject me. If young guys wanna play games, they can play games. I'll go get someone serious and worth having around.


    OOOOH HE SAID!!!!icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    same with me and i HATE it because i dont want to have a guy the same age as my dad fucking me! Its totally disgusting to me i want my OWN age range to have fun with! icon_sad.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    Early 30's is the perfect blend of youth and maturity. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 25, 2011 11:59 PM GMT
    learn to make lemons out of lemonade..........I mean..........lol........icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 12:02 AM GMT
    Spiritreaver saidSame for me, in fact most guys my age ignore/reject me. Just gonna take what I can get. If young guys wanna play games, they can play games. I'll go get someone serious and worth having around.



    Same dude. If only young guys learned the importance of maturity all my probs would be solved. But enough for wishful thinking. I'll accept what I can get.
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    Jul 26, 2011 12:05 AM GMT
    I'm 33 and I've almost always dated guys my own age and it usually ends up being too much drama to deal with. I recently met an amazing man, in many ways. When it got down to me asking his age, he reluctantly told me he was 51 and I was also surprised because he doesn't look it at all. We had such a connection on many different levels which transcends age. It's just a number. So what if he'd biologically old enough to be my father? I try not to think about that, because he's nothing like my father. more like my long lost best friend icon_biggrin.gif

    IMHO - Go with your gut.
  • Spiritreaver

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    Jul 26, 2011 12:07 AM GMT
    navy314 said
    Spiritreaver saidSame for me, in fact most guys my age ignore/reject me. Just gonna take what I can get. If young guys wanna play games, they can play games. I'll go get someone serious and worth having around.



    Same dude. If only young guys learned the importance of maturity all my probs would be solved. But enough for wishful thinking. I'll accept what I can get.
    Funny, as I've just made this post I hit up the guy I had just started seeing before I left OKC for my AZ vacation. He's my age. Anyway, he's already seeing someone else and gave me the "we can still be friends" speech. It's totally cool, but I wish he had just told me lol.
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    Jul 26, 2011 12:16 AM GMT
    At least it's better than me.

    I tend to attract douchebags. The day that I can attract a genuine, sweet, and tender guy (who preferably has something equally impressive in the looks department) who sees me for the person who I really am, will be the day that I cry from joy and thank the universe that I am alive.

    I am still waiting patiently for that day. Oh joyous day, please come to me!!