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    Jul 25, 2011 11:45 PM GMT
    Well that leaves this thread open to a lot of interpretation, and I'm guessing most of it would be taken as "that you are gay," but I'm wondering more of, "Do your friends know about your account on here?"

    Last night, I was talking to my friend, and the discussion went to something that I read on one of the forums. When she asked where it came from, I just said "A site meant for athletes, but more specifically gay athletes, since there is an added stigma." I know that this site is a LOT more than that, but even though I love this site, I feel awkward admitting to my friends that it is also a site for guys to meet other guys.
    What are your guys' stories/thoughts about the subject? If there are any.
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    Jul 26, 2011 12:12 AM GMT
    Yes. I have no problem telling my friends about the websites I troll.
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    Jul 26, 2011 12:20 AM GMT
    I have brought a few of my friends on board to RJ since I joined.

    If you are ashamed of talking about what you are doing - you should not be doing it. That includes registering accounts and posting on forums.

    So sayeth the SomethingAwful & Fark.com alumni icon_biggrin.gif

    RJ is probably the least embarrassing thing I do online. The rightclick-saveas of LOLcats could probably derail any future political aspirations I might have once had -.-
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    Jul 26, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    spaghettimonster saidI have brought a few of my friends on board to RJ since I joined.

    If you are ashamed of talking about what you are doing - you should not be doing it. That includes registering accounts and posting on forums.

    So sayeth the SomethingAwful & Fark.com alumni icon_biggrin.gif

    RJ is probably the least embarrassing thing I do online. The rightclick-saveas of LOLcats could probably derail any future political aspirations I might have once had -.-


    Thoroughly agree with that post! I only joined today, but I've been watching the forums for a few weeks now, and I'll have no problem telling my friends. They've all been amazing, ever since I came out last year, so what's the point of hiding something so harmless?
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    Jul 26, 2011 1:07 AM GMT
    One friend knows that I go here a lot but she is not aware of the website's name etc. I plan to actually show another friend RJ when I return to campus next semester.
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    Jul 26, 2011 1:14 AM GMT
    F*** NO then they'd come on here and give me a hard time (most of my friends are straight). The gay ones well don't really talk to them that often so it's just mainly general info stuff hey how are you and junk icon_razz.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    The reason I don't like talking to my friends about it is the same as above, they would give me shit about going on a site that can even be seen as a dating site, even if that isn't its primary purpose. My friend spent half an hour going through all of the gay websites she could find, as I was telling her to cut it out, because she wanted to get a rise out of me. I don't know what the hell was wrong with her, but it definitely made me not want her to know even more.
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    Jul 26, 2011 1:31 AM GMT
    No one I know would know what 'RJ' means or is about.
    Many of the people I interact with regularly are gay but
    the subject, like the word, never comes up. I can hardly
    believe that most people wouldn't guess I might be gay,
    but many apparently don't, and I'm never asked. Those
    that knew are now ghosts. Suits me just fine these days.
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    Jul 26, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    I guess I got really lucky, but my close friends have been nothing but supportive. My straight guy friends, who I was most worried about telling, have also been some of the most supportive and amazing out of the entire group.
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    Jul 26, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    No reason to tell them, actually. I wouldn't mind some friend knowing, however forum post haven't been a great source of conversation pieces for me.
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    Jul 26, 2011 2:01 AM GMT
    TakoTaiko saidNo reason to tell them, actually. I wouldn't mind some friend knowing, however forum post haven't been a great source of conversation pieces for me.


    Really? I'm bringing stuff up from the forums all the time..

    Anyone that knows I'm gay knows I visit realjock - if not by name then as "the gay fitness forum"

    I've introduced a lot of good tips and diet plans/recipes to my friends from realjock. Gotta give credit for that kind of thing icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 2:08 AM GMT
    Nope, I have no backbone friends don't know. And to my knowledge they don't even suspect it.
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    You people are my friends icon_sad.gif

    I don't actually have friends where I live here anymore. I see my "longer time" time friends a couple times a year at max, 3 are women so this place is irrelevant and the one male, who does happen to be gay, I've commented to about this place only in passing. The newer IRL friends I've made have been from here.
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:22 AM GMT
    yea they do, no one cares.....

    they give me more shit about grindr than anything else
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:35 AM GMT
    I have no problem telling them about it, but it's funnier when they see the logo, read it, they're like, "WHAT IS THIS!?"

    And then they bitch at me and ask me why so many gay men are so attractive. Hahaha.
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:10 AM GMT
    I talk up this site, and share some of the funny threads.
  • shawn06

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    Jul 26, 2011 4:16 AM GMT
    Yea I dont tell people about this site, only person was my ex and he made one after I told him about it.
  • DrobUA

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    Jul 26, 2011 4:22 AM GMT
    Depends on the friends... Straight friends, no I don't think they'd really care but gay health and fitness doesn't really come up in convo. As for gay friends some do and some don't. I have a few that are or were members and a few that I've told about it. My roommates thinks it's retarded because he always makes fun of me for being a "bro". He says I'm a hypocrite because I give him shit for being on sites such as manhunt and he says it's the same thing (there is no explaining to him the difference. he thinks any websites for gay guys is intended to get laid.)
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:24 AM GMT
    I have no friends...

    other than the voices in my head...and to be honest, I haven't told them yet.icon_neutral.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidYou people are my friends icon_sad.gif

    I don't actually have friends where I live here anymore. I see my "longer time" time friends a couple times a year at max, 3 are women so this place is irrelevant and the one male, who does happen to be gay, I've commented to about this place only in passing. The newer IRL friends I've made have been from here.


    Aww icon_smile.gif