Do only ugly gays get married?

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    Jul 26, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    My bf asked me this last night. Anyone who picked up the AM New York this morning was probably horrified that they plastered the fugliest group of homos you could find across the front page. The NYTimes barely did any better. It makes one wonder?

    Now on the flip side, here on RJ, every day there is a post about how superficial gays are and how someone is being judged for being too muscular, not muscular enough, too asian, black, white, old, young... whatever.

    I'm wondering, do ugly guys get married because they can't do any better, OR maybe people who get married just don't have the superficial values that so many other gay guys do? Do you have to give up some amount of superficiality (if that's a word) to get married? Are the guys who are smokin hot, just too shallow to commit to a serious relationship?
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    /facepalm
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:17 AM GMT
    JeremiahSmith saidMy bf asked me this last night. Anyone who picked up the AM New York this morning was probably horrified that they plastered the fugliest group of homos you could find across the front page. The NYTimes barely did any better. It makes one wonder?

    Now on the flip side, here on RJ, every day there is a post about how superficial gays are and how someone is being judged for being too muscular, not muscular enough, too asian, black, white, old, young... whatever.

    I'm wondering, do ugly guys get married because they can't do any better, OR maybe people who get married just don't have the superficial values that so many other gay guys do? Do you have to give up some amount of superficiality (if that's a word) to get married? Are the guys who are smokin hot, just too shallow to commit to a serious relationship?


    Right. That would apply to your question.
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:18 AM GMT
    I don't know why I am not shocked by the original post. Nevermind the fact that gay people got the right to marry in New York, but oh the horrors that the beautiful gays weren't sought out for the photo-op. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:19 AM GMT
    So you're wondering why if you take a random cross section of the population in America they don't end up all being TV pretty? Very few people in the grand scheme of any demographic, even gays, are "magazine" attractive.
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidSo you're wondering why if you take a random cross section of the population in America they don't end up all being TV pretty? Very few people in the grand scheme of any demographic, even gays, are "magazine" attractive.


    This pretty much sums up my thoughts, to the letter.
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    Jul 26, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    JeremiahSmith saidMy bf asked me this last night.


    I misinterprated this part as him asking you to get married. Then I assumed this post would be you ranting about him indirectly calling you ugly. icon_lol.gif
  • JP85257

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    Jul 26, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    Uh....I saw that couple of "ladies" that got married at Niagara at the stroke of midnight and thought this myself....Then I kinda felt bad. Kinda.....

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    Jul 26, 2011 4:19 AM GMT
    ummm, be honest...its true.
  • danisnotstr8

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    Jul 26, 2011 4:20 AM GMT
    I don't agree with generalizations like this. But I must admit, I almost spit out my ice cream I mean salad when I read the title of your post.
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    Interesting, I think I have made the same observation subconsciously but until you mentioned it I was not aware that I say to
    myself when I see a gay married couple," No wonder why they are married". You can add fat to the ugly part.
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:33 AM GMT
    wow...and you're 31...interesting....:i
  • NerdLifter

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    Jul 26, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidSo you're wondering why if you take a random cross section of the population in America they don't end up all being TV pretty? Very few people in the grand scheme of any demographic, even gays, are "magazine" attractive.

    Ariodante took the words right out of my mouth.
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:36 AM GMT
    Do only ugly gay guys ask stupid questions? Well of COURSE they don't!!!
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:37 AM GMT
    Well I actually consider myself both ugly (by my own standards, not by what flatterers tell me) and marriage material, so I would say so yes
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:37 AM GMT
    Almost everybody lets themselves go downhill physically once they've been with the same person a long time. Why should "we" be any different?
    I think a point's being missed here - some of these people who are getting trashed for their not being GQ gorgeous have stayed partnered for decades. So "making it legal" was an even bigger deal for them.
  • shawn06

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    Jul 26, 2011 4:38 AM GMT
    I saw some hot husbands at a bar the other day. Was kinda surprised to see young in shape men married. However what I think the honest truth is superficial attractive men don't get married cause they are always looking for "better" even if it is not out there. So that might be why you don't see as many attractive guys getting married.
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:38 AM GMT

    facepalm.jpg


    It's about how they see each other, not how you see them. icon_wink.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
    ^ I only see beautiful people...in love. icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:42 AM GMT
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  • Musicman91

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    Jul 26, 2011 4:44 AM GMT
    Love is blind and after a while looks don't matter as much as personality and how well you get along with the person.

    Pretty sad this is a big moment for gays everywhere and all some people can think of is "Oh only ugly people are getting married." icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
    Maybe we are looking at it the wrong way and the real question should be, 'Why do so many of the beautiful people spend their lives single?'
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:47 AM GMT
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    hahahaha... Perfect.
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:48 AM GMT
    funny post icon_lol.gif
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:49 AM GMT
    HAHAHA -this thread cheered me up