Confused and in love

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    Jul 26, 2011 3:50 AM GMT
    So I met this guy a couple months ago from another site and he goes to my gym. We hit it off really well and we kissed and played around a bit. I'm one that feels that "spark" when I kiss and I thought that a match was made. Anyways we did a bit of that, went out to dinner, said to each other that we were attracted to one another. I went out of town for the weekend and I got endless texts from him claiming that he loves me and he's jealous that I'm in another town potentially with other guys. I did tell him I love him back on the 3rd day away and I was ready to go back home to what I thought was a relationship. So I come back and he drops that bomb on me and says he's been in a committed relationship for 6 years. Of course it frustrated me, but I was already head over heels in love with him. I told him I wanted to have sex with him, and I was turned down. I told him that I know he's going to hurt me, and he said he would never do that. Adding to that, I've become really good friends with him, but I'm a bad flirt and send him the signals all the time. He kissed me time to time, but then went away for a month. When he came back I loved him more. I've become friends with his boyfriend too, but I still love him. I keep insisting to myself that we were meant to be. Almost to a level of obsession. Over the weekend I asked him why he plays with my heart, he says he doesn't. It hurt me even more, I told him I loved him and only him. He said he loves me. I was left even more confused. I never had a guy make me feel this way and in some way I feel I need sexual closure to see if this thing is compatible to move on. I've dated other guys and been with other guys since, some of them were completely in love with me, but all I can think about is this guy. I need some advice from you guys, its all making me all emo and seemingly consuming my life!
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    Jul 26, 2011 4:00 AM GMT


    "Over the weekend I asked him why he plays with my heart, he says he doesn't. It hurt me even more, I told him I loved him and only him. He said he loves me."

    And this, I think, means he loves you as he would love anyone of importance to him, be it family or friend. It's not being in love; there's a huge difference. icon_wink.gif
  • danielvn

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    Jul 26, 2011 8:56 AM GMT
    That guy you're in love with, he's weird, I feel theres something wrong with him. You need to distance yourself from him. The more you stay with him, the more confused you'll get. You can do better than that. Why go for a guy whos been in a 6 yr relationship and keeps telling you he loves you. that is very messed up. Go find yourself a better guy. There are much better people out there. !
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    Jul 26, 2011 9:16 AM GMT


    You are not in love.

    You cannot be in love with someone who thinks that little of you, it is impossible.