personally, i just kinda want what my parents had/have- marriage out of college that gets better every year. i want to love and be loved, and know it'll last, or at least have faith it will. seems kinda empty and pointless (and unnecessarily painful) to put oneself through drama after drama with serial dating or worse. its the exception, i know; most of my friends parents are divorced- but i know it can work with the right person, empathy, and communication.
maybe for the rest of our generation, its a kind of a desperate hope that our parent's generation was just a messed up exception in human history, with all it's divorces, and that humans really are meant to mate for life. i can't speak for those who want kids, cause i kinda don't (s'up in the air, for the distant future.. who knows?) but as far as the marriage thing goes.. i donno it could also be a cultural backlash against the impersonal turn inter-personal relationships have taken due to new technologies- like, everyone's craving a deeper connection than what one can find from states or countries away on a site like this one lol. it's illegal here too- that could be another factor; and we all want what we can't have- there's always the excitement of taboo. another thought: why do young gays seem to tend to throw themselves so quickly and wholly into relationships (i know i've been guilty as charged)? probably 'cause the dating pool, statistically (especially in many regions of the country- specifically everywhere that isn't California, NYC, Miami, Texas), is so thin and disparaging that when we find someone really worth our time, we throw ourselves at it. sometimes, the object of affection in question isn't even worth our time and effort, but we're just that desperate lol. whatever the case, i get the feeling the cause is one of cultural dis-ease, but the result is respectable enough.