Compliments and positive feedback during sex What non verbals do you communicate?

  • HndsmKansan

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    Jul 26, 2011 5:30 PM GMT
    Let me say, I love passionate sex. You know when you are the right wavelength and the chemistry is awesome. For me it's far more than about looks. It's what is said and done during sex that elevates the experience. It can build or crash (and I haven't had many crash). I've always been a "pleaser".. you think about the other guy and am always aware to make it as absolutely great as I can. Maybe part of the reason my bf keeps me around... lol

    I've had some really nice compliments during sex... amazing.. god, "your beautiful" (that was a little over the top). The smiles. The stunned looks.
    I love to smile and tell him how awesome he is or how cute (if appropriate).
    Love to talk and give plenty of feedback.

    But a friend of mine was giving me the "he wouldn't even kiss" thing and basically wanted to fuck. That would have been the worst.
    So what about you? Are you into "feedback"? Are you complimentary?
    Just curious.
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  • dabcrt

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    Jul 27, 2011 1:13 AM GMT
    Amen................
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:21 AM GMT
    Ahem......

    Well, my guy is noisy, and I'm not. I throw in a few "ARGHHs...." in there for his benefit 'cause I know he likes that.....icon_wink.gif

    He's a great big sexy guy...and I let him know often how much I Love Him..but not too often or else he becomes unruly.....l.o.l........
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    I squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:27 AM GMT
    I was raised a good Protestant, I don't make a sound.
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:29 AM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidLet me say, I love passionate sex. You know when you are the right wavelength and the chemistry is awesome. For me it's far more than about looks. It's what is said and done during sex that elevates the experience. It can build or crash (and I haven't had many crash). I've always been a "pleaser".. you think about the other guy and am always aware to make it as absolutely great as I can. Maybe part of the reason my bf keeps me around... lol

    I've had some really nice compliments during sex... amazing.. god, "your beautiful" (that was a little over the top). The smiles. The stunned looks.
    I love to smile and tell him how awesome he is or how cute (if appropriate).
    Love to talk and give plenty of feedback.

    But a friend of mine was giving me the "he wouldn't even kiss" thing and basically wanted to fuck. That would have been the worst.
    So what about you? Are you into "feedback"? Are you complimentary?
    Just curious.
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    I like people-pleasers. They're always an awesome fuck.
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."


    you so disgusting......what's your phone number?
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
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    Ariodante saidI squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."


    you so disgusting......what's your phone number?


    1-900-RIMBOY

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    Jul 27, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."


    LOL. Do you like hand prints on that ass along with a tongue?

    You Dirty Boy

    I want you so bad.
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:36 AM GMT
    oh f**k you...I want the friends and family rate!!!!!
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:37 AM GMT
    turbobilly saidoh f**k you...I want the friends and family rate!!!!!


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    Jul 27, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    Guy101 said
    Ariodante saidI squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."


    LOL. Do you like hand prints on that ass along with a tongue?

    You Dirty Boy

    I want you so bad.


    I'll make low guttural noises to answer that. Better figure out if it means yes or no =o
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    Cha ching...spread 'em!!!!!
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    Jul 27, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Guy101 said
    Ariodante saidI squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."


    LOL. Do you like hand prints on that ass along with a tongue?

    You Dirty Boy

    I want you so bad.


    I'll make low guttural noises to answer that. Better figure out if it means yes or no =o



    I will hurt you the good way. You clearly deserve it you. icon_twisted.gif

    As for the OP's question I'm both a verbal and non verbal communicator depending on my partner. If my shrills of joy, sexy verbal taunts or low moans and groans aren't tipping you off then it's an intense look with eyes like daggers set to kill and my body spazzing out like I'm having multiple seizures Let's not forget some back clawing either.

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    Jul 27, 2011 9:02 AM GMT
    Non-verbals during sex?
    Depending on the position, there's the eye contact (or rolling my eyes in the back of my head), hand squeezing, toe-curling, back arching, and running my fingers or nails down his body (chest, side, back, etc).
    Yes, (good) kissing is very important. If I had to choose, I would probably pick a good kisser and meh sex over good sex and a meh kisser.

    Verbally, my repertoire is limited during good sex. I think the blood flow is effectively diverted from my brain to.. well, elsewhere. I don't think I say more than "oh yeah," "I like that" or "I like when you do that," "oh God," or "your ____ is ______."
    I don't necessarily need a moaner or a lot of sex talk as long as my partner isn't doing pantomime. The other thing I don't like is when I say that I like what the guy is doing and he thinks it's an invitation to start a conversation, particularly if what I liked was something that he was doing with his mouth and he stops what he was doing for some call and response sermon. If I said I liked what you were doing, then please keep doing it. Do not stop to deliver a monologue.
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    Jul 27, 2011 9:05 AM GMT
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    Jul 27, 2011 11:05 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."


    LMAO!!

    My bf commented a couple of weeks ago that when he was rimming me I was "moaning like Britney." I had to slap him for that one!

    I think my positive feedback is generally all moans and grunts, maybe the odd "yeah, oh yeah" or "oooh, uuhhhh", "mmmmm" and things like "c'mon, c'mon! uh, yeah, fuck!" I'm probably noisier getting fucked than when I'm fucking but possibly because it's not something I do that much so the sensations are not as familiar.

    I'm not over-the-top with vocals but I usually am a bit loud at orgasm because I basically just let go and whatever comes out, comes out. It makes me laugh when sometimes afterwards he'll ask me whether it was good and I just say, "Uhh, can't you tell?"
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    Jul 27, 2011 12:41 PM GMT
    Like all Mediterranians, I am very verbal. everybody here is just like that, silence is the abnormal rarity here! (they don't call us "the hot blooded, tempered people for nothing)

    Noticed the same with men from allover the mediterranean that I had slept with, French, Italian, Greek, Spanish, Portuguese and of course Egyptians.
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    Jul 27, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    I give (and appreciate getting) good verbal and non verbal feedback. This is no time to just lay there and take it. If you're into what's happening - let it be known somehow!

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    Jul 27, 2011 10:29 PM GMT
    Ariodante saidI squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."


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    Jul 28, 2011 9:17 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidI squeal like a pig. I think it succinctly communicates the messages "your tongue in my ass feels most pleasurable. If possible, please jam it in further. Thank you."



    Hahaha Exactly, same for me, I mean, I don't talk to much in the middle of the action. I find also a turn off when the other is "do you like it? tell me you like it, tell me" I mean, I have my eyes big open, I'm scratching your back and moaning like a pig, and you still need an answer???
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    Jul 28, 2011 10:25 AM GMT
    When I used to get fucked I was really vocal... "fuck me harder", "you like that tight ass?" and would moan and "uhh" like the little bitch I was. With one guy all I had to do was talk dirty like that, and he'd come really quickly.

    Non verbal, would be when I'm really enjoying it, my legs would spasm and lock in place. The guys would know that my orgasm would be intense.

    Now that I only top,I do kinda like the guys that moan, and "uhh". With one fuckbuddy, I'd slap their face while fucking them (not too hard) and call him my little bitch. Also if their not sucking me off right, I'd give a slap and tell them "wrap those lips tighter" and I'd grab the back of their head and force them down on me. I'm not at all big, and none of them gag when deepthroating me, but I just like the control. I'd also grab a fistfull of their hair when fucking doggystyle, or I'd grab both arms so he doesn't jerk off when I fuck him. Really aggressive sex.

    What I find is the biggest problem during sex, is where to cum. I'm not big on cumming on guys faces, but usually it's been their chest or I roll over and cum on my stomach. One time I was getting rimmed and getting a really hot toungue bath on my balls that I accientally came all over his face. I haven't heard back from him since. And trust me I've been trying to get back into his bed for a long time now. Last week (with a diff guy) I shot it all over the guys balls, I was hoping for his chest. With all the diff supp's and diff meds I've been on over the years I def have some plumbing problems. Again, haven't heard back from him. (he was more into dry humping than actual sex, and I really wanted that tight ass of his).

    I truly think "relationship sex" is different than "fuckbuddy sex" where real feelings are involved. In relationships, it was all very loving and alot of eye contact, and "i love you's", "are you okay?", "do you want to try a different position?" and not at all rough.
  • Vaughn

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    Jul 28, 2011 11:35 AM GMT
    Sometimes I play dead.
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    Jul 29, 2011 7:44 AM GMT
    Vaughn saidSometimes I play dead.



    Hahaha that remind me long time ago that I pretended be way to drunk and sleep just to not have sex with a guy... and it worked lol

    at that moment it just came to my mind Discovery channel where some animals pretend to be dead, so the predators lose interest in them lol
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    Jul 29, 2011 8:08 AM GMT
    When I was younger, shy, self-conscious, inexperienced and naive, I really didn't say much, or make much noise except for the obligatory moan when warranted.

    As I've gotten older and less shy and less self-conscious, I have gotten more verbal, and complimenting when due. I like whoever I'm with to be the same way. Sex should be dynamic and fun. If we can talk and laugh during sex, it was a great time! Of course,when things get hot and heavy, grunting and moaning is definitely acceptable icon_twisted.gif