Guys in relationships: Do you jack off, if so, how much, and does your partner know or care?

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    Jul 27, 2011 1:00 AM GMT
    Just wondering if it bothers a partner, and makes him feel he isn't satisfying you..............
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    Jul 27, 2011 3:26 AM GMT
    For me its a turn on to have my guy watch me jack....he likes to watch...hell sometimes it leads to some hot good sweaty sex.....
  • Scriven

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    Jul 27, 2011 6:38 AM GMT
    I have been banned from masturbating. My boy doesn't want me having an orgasm unless he gives it to me
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    Jul 27, 2011 3:42 PM GMT
    We just do everything with / and for each other. If he wanted to jack, I'd be willing and happy to make it a whole lot more interesting!

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    Jul 27, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    I think it's a bit weird to forbid someone to express themselves sexually on their own. Sometimes you just want to do it, and that should be fine in my opinion. I don't believe a couple should do everything together, and that includes orgasms!

    Now, if one guy was always masturbating without the partner and they were replacing a regular sex life with masturbation alone, I think that's an issue.

    I find it quite horny when my man tells me he's had a hot wank, personally, especially if he tells me or shows me what porn he was getting off to!
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    Jul 27, 2011 4:13 PM GMT
    Not that I know shit... but I would guess that I'd be okay with a bf masturbating, but if I was there, I would want to lick his nuts at least. Something to help.
  • Scriven

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    Jul 29, 2011 4:32 AM GMT
    Pure saidI think it's a bit weird to forbid someone to express themselves sexually on their own. Sometimes you just want to do it, and that should be fine in my opinion. I don't believe a couple should do everything together, and that includes orgasms!!


    yeah, I know, its weird. I'm not saying it's healthy, but I've never dated a boy this assertive before and I seem to really like it
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    Jul 29, 2011 3:33 PM GMT
    I used to do it when I was dating, and I was fine if he did it, too. It's not cheating.
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    Jul 29, 2011 3:37 PM GMT
    Scriven saidI have been banned from masturbating. My boy doesn't want me having an orgasm unless he gives it to me
    I'd be like "see ya" the moment some guy asked that of me.
  • Scriven

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    Jul 29, 2011 5:26 PM GMT
    There are other "warning signs" I guess, but my boy has an assertive streak a mile long. That said, he takes such incredibly good care of me I don't need to jack off. He's the first guy I've been with who can keep me sated.
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    Aug 11, 2011 11:42 AM GMT
    My guy always gets first crack at it. If he's not up for it, then I take matters into my own hands. No hard feelings either way.
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    Aug 11, 2011 1:29 PM GMT
    It doesn't bother my boyfriend. We do not live together and see each other a few times a week, although we talk on the phone every day. Because of this, he doesn't mind if I jerk off and I don't mind if he does. He once told me "I hope you're thinking about me when you jerk off," and I have to admit that I usually am. I did once do a Skype jerk off show for him and it was pretty hot for the both of us. icon_cool.gif

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    I usually jack off about once a day.
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    Aug 11, 2011 1:48 PM GMT
    I think it a little unrealistic to expect your partner to always been 'in the mood' when you are. A little self play takes the pressure to perform off. There have been times when I've been in the mood and Bill wasn't, and times when he's been in the mood and I wasn't.

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    Aug 11, 2011 2:06 PM GMT
    Scriven said
    yeah, I know, its weird. I'm not saying it's healthy, but I've never dated a boy this assertive before and I seem to really like it


    What's not healthy about it? If you're aware and consenting to that kind of control from your partner, go for it!! If he's dominating you in a non-consensual way, that's a different thing, but from the tone of your post, it seems like you're okay with it.

    I say keep at it. There's nothing wrong with admitting and expressing some submissive qualities, right?
  • rnch

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    Aug 11, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    Jockbod48 saidWe just do everything with / and for each other. If he wanted to jack, I'd be willing and happy to make it a whole lot more interesting!

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    he and I rub off in private, rub each other off, finish up going anal by jacking sometimes....

    solo sex and sex with my man are two different things.

    sex with my man is an emotional, soul satisfying, intimate expression of the love/lust/pleasure we feel for each other.

    solo sex is merely pipe cleaning and a way to go to sleep without sleeping pills.

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    Aug 11, 2011 3:55 PM GMT
    Since we aren't together 24/7, it's nearly impossible for us to handle each and every sexual need.

    Do you ever find yourself at the office around 11:15am and you cannot think of anything but two ripped guys going at it?

    It's times like those where I'm glad to use a bathroom stall and my right hand.
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    Aug 16, 2011 7:49 AM GMT
    as long as we are open about it, and about what we jacked off too (cam4 or whatnot), and as long as it doesnt affect our sex life, then neither of us have a problem with the other jacking off. its only been the most natural thing to do since puburty icon_smile.gif plus there is always the thrill that he might come home early, walk in on me, and then have his way with me icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 22, 2011 6:41 PM GMT
    Scriven saidI have been banned from masturbating. My boy doesn't want me having an orgasm unless he gives it to me


    Scary control issues. I'd be outta there in a hot minute if my man told me I'm not allowed to stroke it.
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    Aug 22, 2011 7:01 PM GMT
    LVmotoJock said
    Scriven saidI have been banned from masturbating. My boy doesn't want me having an orgasm unless he gives it to me


    Scary control issues. I'd be outta there in a hot minute if my man told me I'm not allowed to stroke it.


    Depends doesnt it? I mean, if its jerk off all the time yea that would scare me, but if its a hot thing like him fucking me in the ass and not letting me jerk myself off cause he wants to do it, or wants to control my pleasure etc, FUCKING HAWT!
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    Aug 22, 2011 7:17 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Scriven saidI have been banned from masturbating. My boy doesn't want me having an orgasm unless he gives it to me
    I'd be like "see ya" the moment some guy asked that of me.


    I agree with you, but is that your answer to everything?
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    Aug 25, 2011 7:45 AM GMT
    Simurgh said
    LVmotoJock said
    Scriven saidI have been banned from masturbating. My boy doesn't want me having an orgasm unless he gives it to me


    Scary control issues. I'd be outta there in a hot minute if my man told me I'm not allowed to stroke it.


    Depends doesnt it? I mean, if its jerk off all the time yea that would scare me, but if its a hot thing like him fucking me in the ass and not letting me jerk myself off cause he wants to do it, or wants to control my pleasure etc, FUCKING HAWT!


    OK, I suppose I get that, but I don't bottom icon_neutral.gif