dude, its cool, you chose to be that way!

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    Jul 27, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    I was reading another thread on here about whether or not we as gay men chose to be this way. In my head, I did not. In fact for a while I did everything I could to fight it.

    I had more to say than that, so I decided I woudlnt hijack his thread, and instead start another. I have a few friends, five or ten, who I came out to and accepted me, because I chose to be this way. They say its my life, not theirs, and I should live it how I want. If I want to be gay, so be it.

    While I appreciate their acceptance, should I bother correcting them? Being gay is NOT a choice, at least for me. So far, I have just said "thanks bro" and said nothing else. But it bothers me that they think I chose this lifestyle. How would you handle this?
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    Jul 27, 2011 3:38 AM GMT
    Discuss it with them. I don't think they care though one way or the other; they're your friends.
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    Jul 27, 2011 3:40 AM GMT
    My read is that it's cool you chose to be out and actively gay, not closeted, rather than you chose to be gay.
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    Jul 27, 2011 3:44 AM GMT
    In reality, I guess it shouldn't matter to me what they think. The only thing that is important is they accept me. I guess it just urks me how much people still don't get gay people.