I think I like this guy, does he like me? UPDATE: success!

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    Jul 27, 2011 8:26 AM GMT
    OK, here's the deal. I met this guy through a mutual friend. The three of us were hanging one day. About 2-3 days later the guy randomly calls me.. I didn't give him my number so he got it from my friend. He doesn't know I like guys and neither does my friend.
    He says he wants to hang out and thinks I'm a cool guy. Wants to stay in contact. Normal, because we both play instruments and he says he wants to jam out with me. He calls quite often over the next few weeks, I get busy and kinda ignore him. He still calls...
    So I come across some concert tickets and invite him. We meet up and go in the concert.. the entire time this dude stays very close to me. (Outdoor concert, so no seats and plenty eldow room). Hes standing so close at times that my forearm hits his inner hip or pelvis or whatever. Constant physical contact. Arms rubbing against each other. Taps for attention, basically could be misconstrued for light flirting. This last the entire show. He is talking to me more than watching the show.
    We get some grub after the show. I'm ready to head home but its a decent drive. He suggests I crash @ his place. I do. Next morning we go play basketball and it starts raining. (Well it starts before we start playing but we shoot around in the rain anyway). We get back in his house and he has a dry shirt for me. I strip my shirt in front of him on purpose (I have a nice body :-) ) and I see him check me out. Then he does the same.
    Dry clothes now, we start watching random shit on the internet. But were hanging in his bedroom on his bed. Again VERY close. Like, too close for two str8 guys to be sitting on a bed together.
    Soon after his father and brother come home and almost immediately I notice he makes some huge seperation. Now he has moved to the other side of the bed as if he didn't want them to see us sitting so close. Am I reaching or is this guy making moves or just a close talker.. ?
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    Jul 27, 2011 12:16 PM GMT
    Didn't I see this scene play out on As The World Turns? icon_confused.gif
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    Jul 27, 2011 2:02 PM GMT
    And what happened?
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    Jul 27, 2011 2:41 PM GMT
    alittlecurious saidAnd what happened?


    Yes-tell us more!
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    Jul 27, 2011 2:54 PM GMT
    First it sounds like his gaydar went off with you. Then it sounds like he was trying to make it obvious that he enjoys your company with the hopes of getting a reaction from you to confirm his suspicions. Third, it sounds like he is not out to his family and therefore wanted to ensure that no one suspected that you were there other than purely 'friends hanging out'.

    If you like this guy then you need to keep in touch, drop subtle hints that you're gay, accept and act on his casual touches and closeness. The worse thing that could happen is that he makes it clear he's not into 'that' and you move on. The best thing is that he is and you both come out with each other and then work on coming out and living your lives as the persons you are rather than in some secret fashion that will only drive you nuts and create dishonestly in the long run.
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    Aug 13, 2011 8:37 PM GMT
    2 weeks later here's the follow up:
    His folks went out of town and he invited me up to come kick it with him for a couple days while they were gone . So I did. We hit some bars, hung out, pretty much the same thing happened as last time. I'm still confused, its a little frustrating... i need some help what should i do? can I speed up this process?
    was this my chance to make a move??


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    Aug 13, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidFirst it sounds like his gaydar went off with you. Then it sounds like he was trying to make it obvious that he enjoys your company with the hopes of getting a reaction from you to confirm his suspicions. Third, it sounds like he is not out to his family and therefore wanted to ensure that no one suspected that you were there other than purely 'friends hanging out'.

    If you like this guy then you need to keep in touch, drop subtle hints that you're gay, accept and act on his casual touches and closeness. The worse thing that could happen is that he makes it clear he's not into 'that' and you move on. The best thing is that he is and you both come out with each other and then work on coming out and living your lives as the persons you are rather than in some secret fashion that will only drive you nuts and create dishonestly in the long run.


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    Aug 13, 2011 8:41 PM GMT
    eb925guy saidFirst it sounds like his gaydar went off with you. Then it sounds like he was trying to make it obvious that he enjoys your company with the hopes of getting a reaction from you to confirm his suspicions. Third, it sounds like he is not out to his family and therefore wanted to ensure that no one suspected that you were there other than purely 'friends hanging out'.

    If you like this guy then you need to keep in touch, drop subtle hints that you're gay, accept and act on his casual touches and closeness. The worse thing that could happen is that he makes it clear he's not into 'that' and you move on. The best thing is that he is and you both come out with each other and then work on coming out and living your lives as the persons you are rather than in some secret fashion that will only drive you nuts and create dishonestly in the long run.


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  • Pepsic0la

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    Aug 13, 2011 8:44 PM GMT
    As a bi (not out) guy let me tell you what exactly you need to do.

    You keep hanging with him and you do little flirts with him just like he does you - "accidentally" touching him, let him catch you looking at him etc....the tension between you two will get to a boiling point!

    Also it seems he may, as you seem, be shy. If you guys are old enough - well at least above 18 in my book - have some drinks with him. Get tipsy, if he wants you he'll take you.
  • waccamatt

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    Aug 13, 2011 9:23 PM GMT
    Of course he's flirting with you - there's little doubt. Make a move, either verbally or physically. Go for it.
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    Oct 02, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    Been a while and a long time coming but I have an update ..and its a good one!

    My suspicions have been confirmed and for the better!! It is what I thought it was!

    Without going too much into detail lets just say tensions and attractions finally came to a point where they couldn't be hidden anymore. I feel like i just opened a new chapter!

    So to let you know, sometimes your "straight friend" your into could be into you just as much icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 02, 2011 1:58 AM GMT
    alittlecurious saidBeen a while and a long time coming but I have an update ..and its a good one!

    My suspicions have been confirmed and for the better!! It is what I thought it was!

    Without going too much into detail lets just say tensions and attractions finally came to a point where they couldn't be hidden anymore. I feel like i just opened a new chapter!

    So to let you know, sometimes your "straight friend" your into could be into you just as much icon_smile.gif


    what happend tell us, i like this stories dramasicon_biggrin.gif
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    Oct 02, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    Well heres a quick sum up of the story. I went to hang with him and a buddy he had visiting in town. We went out had some fun, not too many drinks involved but everybody had a good time. We get back to his place and due to lack of beds or places to crash me and his friend end up sharing a bed (its pretty big so no touching or invading space anything like that) and he takes the floor. Nothing happens everybody goes right to sleep.

    Now, the next morning things get kinda interesting. By the time I wake up they're both hanging in the living room watching TV. I join them for a sec then still felt a little tired so I went back to the bed to lay down for a while. Not too long after my friend comes in the room and says he wants to take a nap too.

    Now its just me and him laying in the bed. I think nothing of it, in my mind Im just thinking Ill make sure to stay on my side cause I don't want to weird things up. I fall asleep only to be waken up by his leg slightly touching mine. I look over and he's laying on his back with the biggest 'tent' you could imagine. wow.
    So now Im like ok he's touching me and he's obviously excited and must want me to see he's excited. So I'm like, why not? Have some balls and make a move. I do.

    I start rubbing my leg on his. A little at first to see what he'll do. By the way his 'tent' jumped a little when I did that I knew he liked it. So I did it more. (btw I still have the image in my head.. crazy hot!..) We continued like this for maybe the next half hour or so, feeling each other up under the guise of us both 'sleep' . Neither of us were sleep. haha.

    It didn't go much further than this tho. Mainly because his friend who was wide awake and walking around the house could easily walk in the room at any given moment, and he did, a cpl times. Then it was time for his friend to drop me at home.

    With all that said, I seen what I needed to see to confirm my thoughts and Im sure he did to. It could not be mistaken for anything other than what it was. The line was definitely crossed into new territory. Now lets see what happens next... Im satisfied to take it slow as long as its progress.

    To tell you the truth my mind is still racing because this is a guy I met not thru some website or at a gay bar(I never been to one) or anything like that. I was instantly attracted to him but never considered the thought. Most people would think he's 110% straight. I kinda did. Plus, he is ridiculously hot. I have NEVER been anywhere with him were he doesn't turn heads of every woman in the room. And to make it even better we got real close as friends first and now we confide in each other. So this could be the start of something very great. What a day, happy bday to me. It feels like a dream Im wide awake for. icon_smile.gif
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    Oct 02, 2011 3:32 PM GMT
    You still owe us another update! I want to know when something more happens, or when you two discuss what has happened so far! I am so intrigued!
  • justarunner

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    Oct 02, 2011 3:35 PM GMT
    Keep us posted,eh. *Fingers crossed*
  • sbwlguy

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    Oct 02, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    Enjoy it. Always fun if something like that happens.
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    Oct 02, 2011 4:50 PM GMT
    such a hot fairy tale. keep us posted
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    Nov 09, 2011 4:12 PM GMT
    I guess its time for another update so here it is:

    Im falling head over heals for this guy and i cant even stop. It appears Cupid took a cheap shot at me when I wasnt looking, now im love woozy. He has become the only guy of my desire. (sorry guys, i might flirt but its nothing more)
    As far as our relationship with each other, its GREAT. We have become great friends and developed some sort of 'bromance'. We get along like soda and ice or somthing crazy like that. Its almost as if we're dating, which i have no problem with cause hook-ups are 'like, so last year' haha jk. But in all seriousness everytime we hang we go a little further sexually. We have not 'done the deed' yet but we have done some things. (For those that want to know i would say hes bottom because if spooning i would be the spooner and he would be the spoonee) The crazy thing about all this is we have never mentioned or discussed the sexual things we have done. I never bring it up and neither does he. It sorta just happens and the next day were just cool like its some unspoken bond.
    He has told me that he loves me on numerous occasions.. his exact words "I love u bro" which i have returned the sentiment. He has also told me that i really mean a lot to him and hes glad he has me, which again, i returned the sentiment. So now i just take it a day at a time and find excuses for us to hang out just like he does. Im kinda scared to put this into words to him because i dont want to put any labels on anything and possibly ruin what we have or scare him away. But, thru my actions, im sure he more than knows how much im into him.
    So I guess this is what it feels like when you find somebody you really care about. This is all new to me because Im one of those people with a real tough shell but soft on the inside.. I dont let to many people get to the inside and somehow he has broke thru, but thats my boy i really like him.
    So to sum it up kiddies you too can have what you desire if you just go after it.
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    Nov 09, 2011 4:19 PM GMT
    Glad to see that this relationship of yours is blossoming. I envy you icon_smile.gif
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    Nov 09, 2011 4:24 PM GMT
    I think you may be reading too much into this but I could be wrong. Keep us posted
    well after reading the thread thoroughly i feel like a idiot for my previous statement. i guess it was something there. well i wish you luck and i hope you two workout something more.
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    Nov 09, 2011 4:25 PM GMT
    alittlecurious saidI guess its time for another update so here it is:

    Im falling head over heals for this guy and i cant even stop. It appears Cupid took a cheap shot at me when I wasnt looking, now im love woozy. He has become the only guy of my desire. (sorry guys, i might flirt but its nothing more)
    As far as our relationship with each other, its GREAT. We have become great friends and developed some sort of 'bromance'. We get along like soda and ice or somthing crazy like that. Its almost as if we're dating, which i have no problem with cause hook-ups are 'like, so last year' haha jk. But in all seriousness everytime we hang we go a little further sexually. We have not 'done the deed' yet but we have done some things. (For those that want to know i would say hes bottom because if spooning i would be the spooner and he would be the spoonee) The crazy thing about all this is we have never mentioned or discussed the sexual things we have done. I never bring it up and neither does he. It sorta just happens and the next day were just cool like its some unspoken bond.
    He has told me that he loves me on numerous occasions.. his exact words "I love u bro" which i have returned the sentiment. He has also told me that i really mean a lot to him and hes glad he has me, which again, i returned the sentiment. So now i just take it a day at a time and find excuses for us to hang out just like he does. Im kinda scared to put this into words to him because i dont want to put any labels on anything and possibly ruin what we have or scare him away. But, thru my actions, im sure he more than knows how much im into him.
    So I guess this is what it feels like when you find somebody you really care about. This is all new to me because Im one of those people with a real tough shell but soft on the inside.. I dont let to many people get to the inside and somehow he has broke thru, but thats my boy i really like him.
    So to sum it up kiddies you too can have what you desire if you just go after it.


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    Nov 09, 2011 4:33 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidI think you may be reading too much into this but I could be wrong. Keep us posted


    i dunno, we have done some things that 'str8' guys dont do.. but either way i dont care hes still a great friend so im cool with that anyway.
    but elaborate please... how do you come to this conclusion?
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    Nov 09, 2011 4:34 PM GMT
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    alittlecurious saidI guess its time for another update so here it is:

    Im falling head over heals for this guy and i cant even stop. It appears Cupid took a cheap shot at me when I wasnt looking, now im love woozy. He has become the only guy of my desire. (sorry guys, i might flirt but its nothing more)
    As far as our relationship with each other, its GREAT. We have become great friends and developed some sort of 'bromance'. We get along like soda and ice or somthing crazy like that. Its almost as if we're dating, which i have no problem with cause hook-ups are 'like, so last year' haha jk. But in all seriousness everytime we hang we go a little further sexually. We have not 'done the deed' yet but we have done some things. (For those that want to know i would say hes bottom...


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    Nov 09, 2011 4:44 PM GMT
    alittlecurious said
    tuffguyndc saidI think you may be reading too much into this but I could be wrong. Keep us posted


    i dunno, we have done some things that 'str8' guys dont do.. but either way i dont care hes still a great friend so im cool with that anyway.
    but elaborate please... how do you come to this conclusion?
    well i came to that conclusion because sometimes straight guys do a lot of things that most think is not normal or that can be misconstruded as gay but actually it is normal and it is male bonding. but since guys do not really do a lot of it or come in contact or experience it. when it happens to them they think is more. anyhow, i hope things work out
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    Nov 17, 2011 10:08 PM GMT
    Why can't I have this?!
    Life is so unfair... icon_neutral.gif