I was hooking up with a guy I met on grindr and we had anal for about ten seconds

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    Jul 28, 2011 6:27 AM GMT
    Before I knew what was happening, my penis was inside and he was going up down. It lasted literally ten seconds before I told him to put a condom on because I never do that without a condom, and never have before. So...in those ten seconds, how possible is it that I got HIV?

    He also told me he had been tested two months ago and was negative and that I had nothing to worry about, but if he was willing to put my penis inside of him without knowing me, I don't know how many people he's done it with. So...ten seconds, likely? unlikely? I know I have to wait three months to conclusively find out, but I was just wondering if anyone that's well versed in the topic could help me ease my mind
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    Jul 28, 2011 6:47 AM GMT
    dexterboi123 saidBefore I knew what was happening, my penis was inside and he was going up down. It lasted literally ten seconds before I told him to put a condom on because I never do that without a condom, and never have before. So...in those ten seconds, how possible is it that I got HIV?

    He also told me he had been tested two months ago and was negative and that I had nothing to worry about, but if he was willing to put my penis inside of him without knowing me, I don't know how many people he's done it with. So...ten seconds, likely? unlikely? I know I have to wait three months to conclusively find out, but I was just wondering if anyone that's well versed in the topic could help me ease my mind


    OP is anon66

    Negative on HIV, positive on the afrAIDS.
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    Jul 28, 2011 6:48 AM GMT
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    dexterboi123 saidBefore I knew what was happening, my penis was inside and he was going up down. It lasted literally ten seconds before I told him to put a condom on because I never do that without a condom, and never have before. So...in those ten seconds, how possible is it that I got HIV?

    He also told me he had been tested two months ago and was negative and that I had nothing to worry about, but if he was willing to put my penis inside of him without knowing me, I don't know how many people he's done it with. So...ten seconds, likely? unlikely? I know I have to wait three months to conclusively find out, but I was just wondering if anyone that's well versed in the topic could help me ease my mind


    OP is anon66

    Negative on HIV, positive on the afrAIDS.


    anon66?
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    Jul 28, 2011 6:58 AM GMT
    dexterboi123 said
    FrostedFlakes said
    OP is anon66

    Negative on HIV, positive on the afrAIDS.


    anon66?


    You.
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    Jul 28, 2011 7:00 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes said
    dexterboi123 said
    FrostedFlakes said
    OP is anon66

    Negative on HIV, positive on the afrAIDS.


    anon66?


    You.


    Okay. Are you serious about thinking I'm negative on HIV, or is that a clever way (that I can't seem to understand) way of trying to say something else?
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    Jul 28, 2011 7:01 AM GMT
    dexterboi123 said
    FrostedFlakes said
    dexterboi123 said
    FrostedFlakes said
    OP is anon66

    Negative on HIV, positive on the afrAIDS.


    anon66?


    You.


    Okay. Are you serious about thinking I'm negative on HIV, or is that a clever way (that I can't seem to understand) way of trying to say something else?


    You are a known troll who has pulled this stunt before, I am simply calling you out on it.
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    Jul 28, 2011 7:04 AM GMT
    From what I know, HIV exists in all liquids of the body of whom is infected; although some are more purified than others, for example sweat is processed and so is urine, and saliva inhibits the HIV. So blood and sperm are the things to look after.

    There are some way these transfer from body to body. One is of course through open wounds; if infected blood or sperm is in direct contact with non-infected blood through a wound there is a risk of transfering HIV. Another method is through the mucous membranes which naturally absorb substances for different purposes, for example the ones in your intenstines absorb nourishment and the one's in our throat can transport particles to your longues. Regardless, when they absorb these into your system, there is a risk of HIV transfering as well.

    I've heard some people say that HIV is more likely to transfer when you're the recepting part. If you think about that the mucous membrane is much larger area in the intenstine, and that if precum/cum enters that are as well the fact that wounds more easily open up there, there is a certain truth to it. But you can't rationalize and think that tops can't get HIV though. There is a mucous membrane on genitalia as well, so if the penetration was rough there is a risk that it could've teared up a wound which can cause a risk for transference of HIV even for the top.

    Overall I don't think you should be that worried, but keep in mind that a small risk is still a risk and I think it'd be wise to get it checked up; but you seem to have thought of taking a test after three months anyway so that sounds good icon_smile.gif
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    Jul 28, 2011 7:05 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes said
    dexterboi123 said
    FrostedFlakes said
    dexterboi123 said
    FrostedFlakes said
    OP is anon66

    Negative on HIV, positive on the afrAIDS.


    anon66?


    You.


    Okay. Are you serious about thinking I'm negative on HIV, or is that a clever way (that I can't seem to understand) way of trying to say something else?


    You are a known troll who has pulled this stunt before, I am simply calling you out on it.


    Sigh. Okay, any other website where I feel like I could ask for advice charges money for doctor's advice or bs like that, so I thought I could come on here and ask for advice. I don't know who anon66 is (and unless you have a way of finding my IP, you have no way of proving your unsubstantiated claim), and I believe that there's probably been trolls like that, but the fact is that I'm simply not him.
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    Jul 28, 2011 7:08 AM GMT
    buddha_the_god saidFrom what I know, HIV exists in all liquids of the body of whom is infected; although some are more purified than others, for example sweat is processed and so is urine, and saliva inhibits the HIV. So blood and sperm are the things to look after.

    There are some way these transfer from body to body. One is of course through open wounds; if infected blood or sperm is in direct contact with non-infected blood through a wound there is a risk of transfering HIV. Another method is through the mucous membranes which naturally absorb substances for different purposes, for example the ones in your intenstines absorb nourishment and the one's in our throat can transport particles to your longues. Regardless, when they absorb these into your system, there is a risk of HIV transfering as well.

    I've heard some people say that HIV is more likely to transfer when you're the recepting part. If you think about that the mucous membrane is much larger area in the intenstine, and that if precum/cum enters that are as well the fact that wounds more easily open up there, there is a certain truth to it. But you can't rationalize and think that tops can't get HIV though. There is a mucous membrane on genitalia as well, so if the penetration was rough there is a risk that it could've teared up a wound which can cause a risk for transference of HIV even for the top.

    Overall I don't think you should be that worried, but keep in mind that a small risk is still a risk and I think it'd be wise to get it checked up; but you seem to have thought of taking a test after three months anyway so that sounds good icon_smile.gif


    It was gentle and only for a few seconds, so I guess I should be okay. I don't want to get too confident though, because I feel as it would make it much more shocking if I do end up having HIV. I also find that worrying about it makes me less likely to have casual sex for a while, which I think would be good for me right now. I don't want to think that I've been so careful and that these ten seconds could have ended up ruining my life.
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    Jul 28, 2011 7:53 AM GMT
    I just realized there's an HIV/AIDs section on here. Now is when I ask: should I try find a way to have my thread moved there or just make a new topic there?
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    Jul 28, 2011 9:02 AM GMT
    Stop worrying.
    Wait around 20 days without sex and get tested. You are not going to solve anything being worry, and none of us can tell you for sure if you are negative or positive.
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    Jul 28, 2011 11:18 PM GMT
    20 days? How fast does your body produce antibodies?
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    Jul 29, 2011 7:36 AM GMT
    That's what my doctor told me, 20 days is enough to have an accurate result of a conventional test.

    There is another one, that you can see the result at the moment, it is like a pregnant test but with blood, but for that you have to wait at least 30 or 35 days... but don't believe me, ask your doctor for more and more accurate info.
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    Jul 29, 2011 3:31 PM GMT
    What about the 3 month window period?

    I'd still get tested just in case. Tests aren't always fool-proof.
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    Aug 21, 2011 3:16 PM GMT
    Celcious69 saidStop worrying.
    Wait around 20 days without sex and get tested. You are not going to solve anything being worry, and none of us can tell you for sure if you are negative or positive.


    It can take up to SIX MONTHS OR LONGER before you'll show up positive.
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    Aug 24, 2011 10:11 AM GMT
    I had an identical experience some years ago, was worried sick but after 3 months tested negative. Did lots of research while waiting all that time, from which the consensus view was that for the insertive partner in just a few seconds' contact - the time to realise what's happening and pull out - the risk is tiny.

    Not zero, but tiny. I forget what the actual probability was, but I came to the conclusion that the only cases of infection must be so few that they could well be the ones where some other factor not mentioned had been the real cause. There are always one or two people who don't tell the truth and they get included in statistics.