Words of wisdom...

  • DrobUA

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    Jul 29, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    So I've come across this situation several times online. To those of you that don't understand the fact that there is no chance of a positive reaction, here is why.

    A message that was sent to me by a picture-less profile:

    Him: Morning man.. hey ur very hansom and yet sexy.. ever thought about modeling? Here are my pics..

    (attached was 2 pictures, nothing dirty just normal pictures)

    Me: Thanks but I'm not really model material

    Him: Did you get my pic?

    Me: In the message? yea

    Him: What do u think of me, I'm i too ugly?

    Me: ummm.... what?


    Now I don't think it's weird to send pics in a message especially if you don't have any in your profile, I assumed they were just showing me they were an actual person rather than an internet phantom.

    That being said, anyone that thinks they are going to get a positive reaction by asking a stranger if they think you are ugly is severely mistaken. Even if they did find you attractive, asking if they think you are ugly is going to make you sound insecure and sound like you are desperately fishing for compliments which is not in the least bit attractive. If you are fishing for compliments, feel free to do so by sending pics to whomever you like but if the bait is not taken, don't push it.

    If this were an isolated incident I wouldn't bring it up but the number of times I've come across this situation is well into the double digits leading me to believe that people don't understand the reaction they are getting. If you would like to fish for compliments feel free to start a forum post full of pictures of yourself and I'm sure you will have a better chance of getting the reaction you were hoping for.

    Sincerely,
    21 year old with limited life experience and small doses of common sense
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    Jul 29, 2011 1:19 AM GMT
    Sounds like you have mega doses of common sense. Hard to imagine the behavior of some nut cases on the net. Maybe they think they can manipulate you because of your age and innocent appearance.
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    Jul 29, 2011 1:25 AM GMT
    or just ignore the message & messenger, that always help...
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    Jul 29, 2011 1:26 AM GMT
    i_VAN saidor just ignore the message & messenger, that always help...

    I totally agree with the OP but I usually take this approach.
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    Jul 29, 2011 1:33 AM GMT
    Contact a [real] photographer in your area who specializes in male physique. Have him do some professional shots of you. Get reproduction/usage rights to your favorite 2-3 pics. Put them in your profile.

    That will scare off a lot (but not all) of the fauxtographers.
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    Jul 29, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
    Never happened to me, but I think this guy thinks you are hot and is coming on to you. By not showing any interest in him and his pics, you force his hand asking the "ugly"-question. After the 'um what' he gives up.
  • DrobUA

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    Jul 29, 2011 5:40 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidContact a [real] photographer in your area who specializes in male physique. Have him do some professional shots of you. Get reproduction/usage rights to your favorite 2-3 pics. Put them in your profile.

    That will scare off a lot (but not all) of the fauxtographers.


    Haha... I don't think he wanted to photograph me.. I think that was just his way of hitting on me. Who need photographers when you have an Imac with photobooth ; )