How much should you show someone that you are really into them without scaring them away??

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    Jul 29, 2011 5:29 AM GMT
    Okay, so I met this guy online, and he is totally hot and definitely my type. I sent him an email, thinking he wouldn't respond. Instead, he replied, and he replied not with just a hello. He said he thought I was hot and then proceeded to tell me how are very compatible. I am Capricorn and he is a Cancer.

    My question is how should I proceed in letting him know that I really dig him, without going overboard.

    Recently, I started dating this guy that I met at a bar, and he showed me lots of affection towards me from the start. Initially, I liked it, but very quickly, it made me less interested. It was just too much for me, too soon.

    Now, I find myself completely bonkers over this guy, but I don't want to become like the other guy.

    I don't want to play "games", but I don't think I can be completely act on the emotions I am feeling.

    hmmmm....I need advice!
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    Jul 29, 2011 11:57 AM GMT
    So what are your intentions with this guy? Just a one night thing? To date casually? Or a LTR?

    Depending on what you're wanting, your strategy of approaching this will also be different.

    btw I don't think judging compatibility based on your sign is the best gauge Do you guys share common interests? Do you have guys have similar hobbies? Do you enjoy doing the similar activities? Those are probably better indicators if compatibility. Just saying.
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    Jul 29, 2011 12:03 PM GMT
    Hold a regular conversation and just let things happen naturally. You've already got his attention and he did reply with a lengthy response indicating that he seems interested so just keep it simple and play it cool.

    I don't think your emotions are the problem here and if they are then you need to check yourself and them. You just started talking to this dude so don't let your emotions run amok.
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    Jul 29, 2011 12:06 PM GMT
    Someone replies to you and you fall head over hills in love? icon_lol.gif

    I feel sorry for that dude.
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    Jul 29, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    Meet him in person... then decide if you're bonkers...
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    Jul 29, 2011 2:42 PM GMT
    Scattering rose petals before him as he walks has recently been deemed overdone.
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    Jul 29, 2011 2:47 PM GMT
    Be true to your self and do what makes you feel good. If you scare him away because you're showing your true, unvarnished emotions, perhaps he's not the right person for you. In any event, you'll never know until you try.
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    Jul 29, 2011 2:50 PM GMT
    Tell bobby you like this guy, and to tell sally..sally will relay it to marsha and then tell diane because she's got a big mouth...diane is supposed to be friends with his sister and maybe will then mention it to them...then maybe we can all go to the jr. high dance and not talk to each other..it'll be awesome...wicked wicked awesome...

    i'm not usually like that..but really?
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    Jul 29, 2011 2:52 PM GMT
    garycally saidTell bobby you like this guy, and to tell sally..sally will relay it to marsha and then tell diane because she's got a big mouth...diane is supposed to be friends with his sister and maybe will then mention it to them...then maybe we can all go to the jr. high dance and not talk to each other..it'll be awesome...wicked wicked awesome...


    A note is faster:

    "I like you. Do you like me, too?

    ____ Yes

    ____ No


    <3"
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    Jul 29, 2011 2:59 PM GMT
    Alpha_Muscle said
    garycally saidTell bobby you like this guy, and to tell sally..sally will relay it to marsha and then tell diane because she's got a big mouth...diane is supposed to be friends with his sister and maybe will then mention it to them...then maybe we can all go to the jr. high dance and not talk to each other..it'll be awesome...wicked wicked awesome...


    A note is faster:

    "I like you. Do you like me, too?

    ____ Yes

    ____ No


    <3"

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    Jul 29, 2011 3:08 PM GMT
    Stuff the note, there's one sentence you need to ask and it works wonders:

    'Would you like to have dinner/coffee with me sometime/on Friday/Saturday?'

    If you haven't even messaged back, at least ask about his interests, or reply to something he mentioned. Then, when you want to show your interest, move things along and ask that question above ;)

    If it's a yes - whoo !
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    Jul 29, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    kangourou saidStuff the note, there's one sentence you need to ask and it works wonders:

    'Would you like to have dinner/coffee with me sometime/on Friday/Saturday?'

    If you haven't even messaged back, at least ask about his interests, or reply to something he mentioned. Then, when you want to show your interest, move things along and ask that question above ;)

    If it's a yes - whoo !


    I have to agree with this. Meet in person casually and then decide how you feel and if it's still mutual. Through email and even on the phone it's easy to create a connection that doesn't equate to chemistry in person.
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    Jul 29, 2011 3:17 PM GMT
    swimguychicago saidScattering rose petals before him as he walks has recently been deemed overdone.
    Well I have rose petals in one bucket, and assorted nails in the other.
    Take your pick. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Jul 29, 2011 3:23 PM GMT
    dude, i think you answered your question. u had a guy who was interested in you and you cut him go. now you are in the same boat. i say take it slow dude and just go with the flow. be yourself and if it is not good enough than so be it