Oh! No. Not another list. Things your lover does to irritate you and you him. Why?

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    Jul 05, 2007 7:37 PM GMT
    I was waiting on my friend today and I was thinking of an email that I received from some one this site. I was also thinking about all the useless list on here and how I think some of you are just bored so you make these list and How Bored I am. So here is my list. I do not have a number in my head for the list so I keep it brief.

    What he does to me.


    1. Telling me you on your way and you will be there in 10 minutes and I know you have not even left yet and making me wait another 1/2 hour on you.

    2. Going out to Dinner and then not ordering anything cause you are not hungry any more and the only reason I went is so you could eat.

    3. Telling me that I do not respond to you when talk and then you do not remember that I told you something important that you needed to remember.

    As for what I do to him. I am perfect so I do not do anything to annoy him. (yeah right) LOL.
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    Jul 06, 2007 11:19 AM GMT
    I ask: What do you want to do (or go where, or eat what) and I get the response "I don't know, what do YOU want to do (go, eat, etc.) every time I ask.

    The other big thing is when an action of mine (particularly if repeated 3 or more times) goes from being appreciated to 'expected'.

    Me, on the other hand, have the unforgivable fault of answering all questions honestly. I have a problem with lying to spare feelings, or to be politically correct. I guess I expect someone to give me an honest answer. My Ex used to be honest with me in this regard only in relation to how I dressed. (I'd rather know the truth and then make the decision myself). I wouldn't ask if I didn't want an honest answer.

    I'm not perfect which is probably why I'm responding to this now.
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    Jul 06, 2007 12:41 PM GMT

    I only have this one.

    After 2 years of being a couple he stops saying please and thank you. After I cooked and cleaned on top of working a full 8 hour day!

    That ended rather quickly after I went on "STRIKE"

    I told him that my name is not "HAZEL"!!!

    Phoenix43
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    Jul 06, 2007 12:48 PM GMT
    Who's Hazel?

    Get a cleaner.
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    Jul 06, 2007 12:52 PM GMT
    He listens to ABBA.
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    Jul 06, 2007 1:01 PM GMT
    I dont have a lover now, so I tell you about my ex, when we use to be together.

    1. He a policemen, so he work late/ odd hour.I work 9 to 5.
    2. He too goodlooking. A lot of my gay friend or straight girl try to seduce him.
    3. He like to flirt, sometimes purposely to make me feel jealous.
    4. He 20 years younger then me, so sexually more demanding and physically more fitter than me. Sometimes I cant hardly keep up with him.
    5. He expected me to do things to him then another way around.
    6. Lastly, the one that end my obssesion with this guy, he cheat on me.
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    Jul 06, 2007 1:06 PM GMT
    "He listens to ABBA."

    That's why we have a large house with separate, sonically isolated listening environments.
  • Laurence

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    Jul 06, 2007 1:47 PM GMT
    The one thing that irritates me more than anything else about my man is that he sings at the drop of a hat, in public, in the house...you name it. He has a great voice, but sometimes I wish he'd just keep it buttoned.

    My irritating thing for him, is that unlike him I internalise things, keep things to myself and bury my head in the sand a little. He wants to discuss every part of his and my day in detail. He's had a lot of therapy and has lived in the states for 5 years, that's where I imagine he'd got this habit of 'sharring' from. I'm very English about things.

    Lozx
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    Jul 06, 2007 2:00 PM GMT
    My husband can't just let me vent about anything. He'll interrupt me while I'm telling my story, start to ask questions, and try to solve problems when all I really want him to do is listen and express some sympathy.

    And he puts my Shun knives in the dishwasher.
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    Jul 06, 2007 3:52 PM GMT
    Its simple my other half just don't appreciate things. He is studying for his brokers test and I am left with all the slack, but he don't appreciate it, instead he accused me of cheating and this morning left me with an ultimatum. Besides his scorpio like ways, he gets mad at me in the morning because I take to long to get ready and do things in the morning to clean up a bit, but we ultimately leave later than we should. Oh lets not forget how he don't listen to me, but he hears me. I've just decided I have relationship issues...
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    Jul 06, 2007 3:58 PM GMT
    Hazel! Name of the Maid in the 30's and 40's movies! You not be an American would not know that.
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    Jul 06, 2007 4:02 PM GMT
    My most reacent beau was AWESOME... except of course when something bothered me (i.e. fighting with my brother) he would asked me why he should care when I told him about it. This was of course followed up with him asking why he should care that he just pissed me off. Oh, and him having cybersex at 3am while I was sleeping 6ft away and woke up to him out of the room, message still up and his phone ringing...

    Although, it never really bothered me that he would get drunk and yell at me, usually it was in public and I just laughed at people laughing at him for being a drunken mess.

    I have no faults, besides being opinionated, talkative, slightly offensive, and tend to burn one down from time to time.
  • atxclimber

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    Jul 06, 2007 4:23 PM GMT
    > And he puts my Shun knives in the dishwasher.

    Oh my God, that's inexcusable. You haven't broken up with him?

    I don't have Shun, I have Global and Wusthof, but if I dated a guy who insisted on putting them in the dishwasher I would escalate that argument until he stopped... or we broke up. :)
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    Jul 06, 2007 6:56 PM GMT
    ATX, how funny! I've got Global and Wustof as well--he cut himself washing the Global so he stays away from it now. And we've struck a simple compromise--I do the cutting boards, knives, and most of the All-Clad, and he loads the dishwasher when I'm done. :)
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    Jul 06, 2007 9:13 PM GMT
    Oh, I just missed the "you him" part. That was a Freudian slip. I tend to leave glassware lying around the kitchen counter, and I travel too much for work, and I overbook our social calendar.
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    Jul 07, 2007 1:15 AM GMT
    Well me and my hubby have been together for almost 4 years. We are 6 years apart in age. I am trying to think of the stuff that he does that bothers me. One is he loves to keep asking questions about stuff. He will even ask the same thing multiple times. That gets on my nerves but i live with it. As far as i go. I hate to clean but i work two jobs so we have to compromise on that.
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    Jul 08, 2007 12:16 AM GMT
    I have probably the most unconditionally loving partner on earth, so few complaints from me. I'm the one with all the faults. ;-) If anything, he doesn't open up to me enough, whereas I wear my heart on my sleeve. I'm the quintessential TMI guy.
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    Jul 08, 2007 6:50 PM GMT
    bgcat57> I ask: What do you want to do (or go where, or eat what) and I get the response "I don't know, what do YOU want to do

    I'm like that, but I have my reasons. My partner is much more particular about eating, in many ways. First, I don't care if I eat the same thing 5 days in a row. He practically won't eat leftovers because he had "that" (whatever it was) yesterday. So if he's had pasta in the last 24 or 48 hours and I suggest an Italian restaurant he'll shoot it down. Likewise, if I suggest a particular restaurant but he's eaten there "too recently", then it won't fly. So it's just easier for him to choose because I'll be happy wherever we end up.

    A friend has another method: 1 person suggests a short list (say 3 places) and the other picks from that list.


    hemanstudI've just decided I have relationship issues...

    We all do. I'm pretty sure none of us live a fairy tail life. Not for longer than 3 weeks or so.

    The question isn't if a couple has "relationship issues" but rather how you deal with them. You need to learn to identify, discuss and work on them. Many issues won't be resolved, just moderated.


    Matt is too anal retentive - but only when he wants to be. So if I leave a cereal bowl in the sink, he'll growl. Then he'll make himself some eggs and a shake... and leave the sink full of dishes. I think in his mind one dish in an otherwise clean kitchen is an abomination, but a pile of dishes in a now unclean kitchen is natural.

    Similarly he'll focus on my mess (OK, I admit it, I'm the messier of us). So he'll constantly put away things I leave out (even if it's the utility bill that I don't want to forget to pay)... while his pile of stuff on the staircase can sit there for weeks or months at a time (even after I point this out).

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    Jul 08, 2007 6:57 PM GMT

    Yeah well all have relationship problems. I think it is from not being able to have a dating relationships when we are younger.

    God Being in Kuwait is really destroying my english. Please excuse my
    grammar.


    Ruckus,

    What is a TMI guy?
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    Jul 08, 2007 9:32 PM GMT
    TMI = Too Much Information
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    Jul 11, 2007 6:45 AM GMT
    Thank you, Paradox, and thanks guys for all the responses so far.

    Ruckus, I hear you. Sometimes it is like I am the only one talking and then he will say something and I do not respond to him and he will get mad.