Messaging Guys Added to Hot List

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    Apr 28, 2008 10:55 PM GMT
    Maybe it is a Canadian thing - not wanting to be rude; but should someone that you add to your hotlist be contacted?!
    I have slowly been adding guys to my list and wonder if I am being rude in not telling them why I added them (ie. you have a great smile, your write up was hilarious, etc).
    Thanks!
    Mark
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    Apr 28, 2008 11:11 PM GMT
    teapimp saidMaybe it is a Canadian thing - not wanting to be rude; but should someone that you add to your hotlist be contacted?!
    I have slowly been adding guys to my list and wonder if I am being rude in not telling them why I added them (ie. you have a great smile, your write up was hilarious, etc).
    Thanks!
    Mark


    MARK...I just HOT-LUSTED YOU, Because you are HOT and seated in a really nice, inviting , open and reclined position in your chair. Hope that wasn't too rude! I don't think anyone on here is going to be offended to find out that someone else thinks they are attractive for whatever reason....Hotlist at will and if you feel the urge to "message them"...feel free to do that too!
    ENJOY!!! Give regards to your partner!icon_cool.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 12:03 AM GMT
    i dont think it's rude if you don't contact after deeming them hotlist-worthy. though if you feel like sending them a message anyway, go for it! it won't hurt anyone :-)

    *looks at my hot list* wow, there's a ton of people i would need to send a note to....icon_eek.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 1:25 AM GMT
    If they state in their profile, they want to be asked. Then One will ask, as this is the polite thing to do.

    I am sure most times, One will inform them, so they can say please don't. But this is yet to come to pass.

    But not everyone on my hot list. I wanna fuck with, or feel sexual attraction to. If they want to know why One has hot listed them. All they have to do is ask.

    Us Aussies are into politeness too. Not sure about those Australians tho?
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    Apr 29, 2008 2:33 AM GMT
    Recently, I've had a couple of guys add me as a buddy or (surprise!) to their hotlists, but I haven't had any previous interactions with them. I usually send a thank you email and ask how I deserved the honor. I figure it's just a way to get the conversation going.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Apr 29, 2008 2:37 AM GMT
    I think you should do whatever you are comfortable in doing. It certainly would make an impression if you took the time I'd assume.

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    Apr 29, 2008 2:45 AM GMT
    I get the little email notice that I have been hotlisted. To me, it feels like I've just been collected or something...and I have no control over it.

    I would appreciate being contacted...told why the person hotlisted me...and maybe even asked if I would mind! What a concept!

    The times that really creeps me out is when I find the guy has a list of over 300 people. Then I feel like I just got added to somebody's porn album.

    I think the email from RJ should be the option to accept or block being listed by someone.
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    Apr 29, 2008 2:52 AM GMT
    Caslon saidI get the little email notice that I have been hotlisted. To me, it feels like I've just been collected or something...and I have no control over it.




    God, its the perfect set up for a "Caslon chain yank".. but I'll be nice....icon_surprised.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 5:33 AM GMT
    I don't think there is any obligation to contact someone if you hotlist them. I mean the word "hotlist" speaks for itself.

    However, you being Canadian and all that goes with it, don't be upset if you don't get a reply! Just because you've hotlisted them and sent them a message doesn't obligate that person to reply.
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    Apr 29, 2008 5:57 AM GMT
    I don't hotlist many people. But I use it as a 'wink' or flirt. Also, I'd like to email these guys but I don't have time right when I see their pic, so hot listing them allows me to put them in my personal list, so I can contact them later. Then I don't have to memorize their handle.

    I don't agree with Caslon about getting approval to hot list someone. It's my hotlist. By putting yourself on this site, you're consenting to be 'collected' by whoever wants you.

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    Apr 29, 2008 6:05 AM GMT
    kryptonianadrian saidi dont think it's rude if you don't contact after deeming them hotlist-worthy. though if you feel like sending them a message anyway, go for it! it won't hurt anyone :-)

    *looks at my hot list* wow, there's a ton of people i would need to send a note to....icon_eek.gif


    Well, YOU are on my Hotlist Krypto !

    So here is my message to say you are a very attractive guy with a great smile!


    ---- Ron
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    Apr 29, 2008 6:10 AM GMT
    Sheesh, the least they can do is say thank you... so I would like to take this opportunity to check with all those who hotlisted me if you've all received your payment electronically in your respective bank accounts. Thank youicon_razz.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 8:45 AM GMT
    I dunno really. But when somebody adds me to their hotlist or buddylist, I take the time to message them and thank them.
  • GQjock

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    Apr 29, 2008 10:13 AM GMT
    Either - or is perfectly acceptable

    .. I've done both
    and for the most part if you look at my hotlist it's immediately understandable why they're there
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    Apr 29, 2008 12:46 PM GMT
    For a while, I thought the title read "Massaging Guys Added to Hot List" icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 12:50 PM GMT
    ides saidFor a while, I thought the title read "Massaging Guys Added to Hot List" icon_lol.gif


    That would be nice. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 1:11 PM GMT
    My hot list is empty because you are all HOT so l have no need to list you?
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    Apr 29, 2008 1:18 PM GMT
    I've never asked someone if I could add them to my hotlist... maybe I should.
    I do, however, always try to send a thank you to guys who have added me to their list. Nothing major... just want to let them know that I appreciate the compliment.
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    Apr 29, 2008 7:54 PM GMT
    TallGWMvballer said[quote][cite]kryptonianadrian said

    Well, YOU are on my Hotlist Krypto !

    So here is my message to say you are a very attractive guy with a great smile!


    ---- Ron


    Thanks Ron! That's really nice of you! i'm 3 kinds of flattered icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 30, 2008 7:59 PM GMT
    kryptonianadrian said[quote][cite]TallGWMvballer said[/cite][quote][cite]kryptonianadrian said

    Well, YOU are on my Hotlist Krypto !

    So here is my message to say you are a very attractive guy with a great smile!


    ---- Ron


    Thanks Ron! That's really nice of you! i'm 3 kinds of flattered icon_biggrin.gif[/quote]

    You are welcome... and what are those 3 kinds of flattered?

    Of course, I would hope I was on your hot list as well. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 30, 2008 10:35 PM GMT
    I did not realise my first post would garner such discussion, so many comments and views! Thanks for all the feedback! I guess I will go back and write the "hotlisted"!
    The forum was worth it, I got "hotlusted" by a member and viewed by more than I can check out in one evening!
    Thanks for replying and taking the time!
    Mark
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    Apr 30, 2008 10:55 PM GMT
    I don't use the hot list but I love being hot-listed. I take it as a compliment. I don't care if the guy writes me or not. Honestly, I can be forgetful about writing people back and then I feel guilty, so the less messages the better. icon_wink.gif