Sharpening my gaydar in the 21st Century: How do you send out signals these days?

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    Apr 29, 2008 6:24 AM GMT
    Maybe I've been hanging out a lot in regular bars, pubs and clubs (well due to lack of "gay" spots here), but I noticed that most RJ members, if I see them in person, I would NOT even know they're gay! How do you send out signals these days? e.g. when you have your eye on someone or like someone back? ENLIGHTEN ZIM, PLEASE!
  • EricLA

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    Apr 29, 2008 6:47 AM GMT
    Smoke signals.
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    Apr 29, 2008 7:18 AM GMT
    I just give em a smile, and look right into their eyes, and hold it. But hay I went to Safeway's once, to get some cleaning products, but ended up at some guys home, having a root.

    I noticed him looking at me, so I gave him a smile, and a wink. next thing I know, he is asking me advice on some cleaning product, he did not want. From that, I got a root. icon_redface.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 7:18 AM GMT
    The Cigarettes and Lighter Thing...

    WHATIZIT?!

    LOL. It wasn't in my "How to be Gay" handbook and not in my "Homosexuality for Dummies" either. Is it seriously a kind of signal?

    From what I've noticed in the movies, one guy sticks a cigarette in his mouth, then if the other guy gets a lighter and lights it up... it automatically means they're having hot gay sex later. LOL

    So is it really being done? Have you picked up a guy this way before?
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    Apr 29, 2008 7:26 AM GMT
    Sedative saidThe Cigarettes and Lighter Thing...

    So is it really being done? Have you picked up a guy this way before?


    It's done here in SF, and I've had guys hit on me with their lighters. Unfortunately none of them have been anyone I've wanted to take home. I don't use this technique tho, cause I don't smoke enuf. I have bummed cigarettes off cute guys tho, but I seem to have better luck with women doing this. Sigh.

    (OK, I'm outed as an occasional social smoker).

    As to Zim's question, I'm all about the eye contact. Eyes can say a LOT.

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    Apr 29, 2008 7:30 AM GMT
    Hi! I'm Eric. I'm a Smoker.

    (Everybody say 'HI ERIC')

    P.S. I am planning to quit! Don't hate me! icon_lol.gif

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    Apr 29, 2008 7:30 AM GMT
    Sedative saidThe Cigarettes and Lighter Thing...

    WHATIZIT?!

    LOL. It wasn't in my "How to be Gay" handbook and not in my "Homosexuality for Dummies" either. Is it seriously a kind of signal?

    From what I've noticed in the movies, one guy sticks a cigarette in his mouth, then if the other guy gets a lighter and lights it up... it automatically means they're having hot gay sex later. LOL

    So is it really being done? Have you picked up a guy this way before?


    how about we go suck a fag, all the way to it's butt....
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    Apr 29, 2008 7:39 AM GMT
    Pattison said[quote]

    how about we go suck a fag, all the way to it's butt....


    LOL. Now that's disturbing innuendo. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 7:49 AM GMT
    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!! I've an idea: how about "Hey mate, are you a RealJock member online?"
    I don't smoke but I do keep a lighter handy with me.
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    Apr 29, 2008 7:56 AM GMT
    zimatar saidHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!! I've an idea: how about "Hey mate, are you a RealJock member online?"
    I don't smoke but I do keep a lighter handy with me.


    Hey. Idea! icon_idea.gif

    For nonsmokers... every time you see a cute dude, you could gather some kindling and arrange them into a little tent. Then look up seductively at the guy and ask him if he got a light. ROFL!

    Might be a problem if it's in the middle of a bar though, but table legs make nice firewood. icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 8:07 AM GMT
    Or I'll try to look at them sedatively. If I get punched in the face, I'll hunt you down in the Philippines! icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 8:35 AM GMT
    zimatar saidOr I'll try to look at them sedatively. If I get punched in the face, I'll hunt you down in the Philippines! icon_lol.gif


    Oh trust me. You won't!

    And you won't find me in the jungles either! icon_lol.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 11:06 AM GMT
    I wonder what MUTTSKINS has to say. hahahahahahah!!!
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    Apr 29, 2008 12:00 PM GMT
    zimatar saidI wonder what MUTTSKINS has to say. hahahahahahah!!!


    Heeey. You'd be surprised how many straight folks have better gaydars. LOL
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    Apr 29, 2008 2:31 PM GMT
    zimatar saidI wonder what MUTTSKINS has to say. hahahahahahah!!!

    Sorry Zim! I have no idea how to tell if someone is gay. Maybe if they look deeply into your eyes? I dunno... Lol! icon_biggrin.gificon_lol.gificon_razz.gificon_wink.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 3:46 PM GMT
    who the hell knows anymore with all this confounded metrosexuality shinanigains... my gaydar was one a trusted tool. now i just hope for the best and play gay roulette.
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    Apr 29, 2008 3:51 PM GMT
    dancerjack saidwho the hell knows anymore with all this confounded metrosexuality shinanigains... my gaydar was one a trusted tool. now i just hope for the best and play gay roulette.

    HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!! I LOVE THIS SITE FOR TEACHING ME SOMETHING NEW EVERYDAY FROM SUCH REMARKABLE MEMBERS OF THIS FORUM!!!
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    Apr 29, 2008 4:56 PM GMT
    It's all about proper eye contact. When I see an attractive guy, I do the following:

    Step 1: Find a table directly facing the Object of Desire. If somebody is already seated at table directly facing Object of Desire, chase them away by screaming, in the queeniest, shrillest voice you can muster, "OH MY GOD!!! YOU TOUCHED MY ASS!!!! WHAT DO YOU THINK I AM, A HOMO??? IS EVERYBODY IN THIS PLACE A HOMO??? OH, HEAVENS HELP ME, SAINT MARIAH/MADONNA/CHER/ANGELINA/VICTORIA B"

    Step 2: Sit down. Make eye contact with Object of Desire. To get his attention, try clearing throat loudly and obviously while staring penetratingly at him. My preferred pose is one of intense concentration: both elbows on table, chin resting on fists. If Object of Desire does not notice eye contact, clear throat again, and louder. Repeat as needed.

    Step 3: When Object of Desire's friends finally poke and prod him into noticing you staring derangedly at him and he looks up at you, grin. Wickedly and suggestively, with teeth. Lick your lips seductively, all the while wiggling your eyebrows wildly. Do not break eye contact.

    Step 4: As the bartenders/bouncers are escorting you firmly from the establishment, maintain eye contact with Object of Desire, even if this means swiveling your head completely 180 degrees around. Salivate a little. Drool lets him know you really care.

    Step 5: Right up until the moment the police and/or mental health professionals arrive, continue staring in at Object of Desire from nearest window. Mouth 'I love you' repeatedly. Occasionally smack your forehead on the glass for emphasis.

    Follow these steps, my friend, and you shall never fail in attracting the attention of your man. Try it! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 5:00 PM GMT
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    Apr 29, 2008 5:01 PM GMT
    that would definitely be the direct approach
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    Apr 29, 2008 5:02 PM GMT
    Zdrew -- too good.

    I think you forgot to work in the maraschino cherry thing tho.
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    Apr 29, 2008 5:04 PM GMT
    i dont know how to send out signals and im terrible at reading them. when people flirt with me i never realize it and when people are just being friendly i think they are hitting on me. lol

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    Apr 29, 2008 5:05 PM GMT
    Oh, iguana - you're absolutely right. How could I forget the maraschino cherries?

    When clearing the throat isn't working in Step 2, I like to toss the cherries at him to see if he looks up. Nothing too dramatic...just a gently-lobbed cherry every few seconds or so. If you get one into his drink, he's yours for life.
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    Apr 29, 2008 5:25 PM GMT
    zdrew saidOh, iguana - you're absolutely right. How could I forget the maraschino cherries?

    When clearing the throat isn't working in Step 2, I like to toss the cherries at him to see if he looks up. Nothing too dramatic...just a gently-lobbed cherry every few seconds or so. If you get one into his drink, he's yours for life.


    I thought it would be about tying the cherry stem just with your tongue. That shows you have a talented mouth! icon_twisted.gif
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    Apr 29, 2008 5:26 PM GMT
    i thought he meant the thing where you tie the stem in a knot with your tongue... i can do that - i suck at basketball... do i have a chance at all in gay dating?