I figured out why gay relationships rarely last.

  • DrobUA

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    Aug 01, 2011 5:20 AM GMT
    STOP MOVING IN WITH YOUR BOYFRIENDS AFTER A MONTH AND A HALF!! No shit it's not gonna last. Straight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together. That way they learn all the crap that you do that is going to drive them crazy and prepare themselves for it.
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    Aug 01, 2011 5:21 AM GMT
    I moved in with my first bf the day I met him.
    It lasted 3.5 years.

    Coincidentally, both of my other bf's (which I waited longer to move in with) also lasted 3.5 yrs.
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    Aug 01, 2011 5:22 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidSTOP MOVING IN WITH YOUR BOYFRIENDS AFTER A MONTH AND A HALF!! No shit it's not gonna last. Straight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together. That way they learn all the crap that you do that is going to drive them crazy and prepare themselves for it.


    But easy access to secks is so tempting icon_razz.gif lol
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    Aug 01, 2011 5:25 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidStraight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together.


    On what planet?
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    Aug 01, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    unfounded7 said
    DrobUA saidStraight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together.


    On what planet?


    Exactly
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    Aug 01, 2011 5:27 AM GMT
    FrostedFlakes said
    DrobUA saidSTOP MOVING IN WITH YOUR BOYFRIENDS AFTER A MONTH AND A HALF!! No shit it's not gonna last. Straight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together. That way they learn all the crap that you do that is going to drive them crazy and prepare themselves for it.


    But easy access to secks is so tempting icon_razz.gif lol
    Do you have any fucking idea just how right you are? icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 01, 2011 5:28 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidSTOP MOVING IN WITH YOUR BOYFRIENDS AFTER A MONTH AND A HALF!! No shit it's not gonna last. Straight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together. That way they learn all the crap that you do that is going to drive them crazy and prepare themselves for it.


    ahhh...come on, tell us about the "crap"...

    Let it all out.
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    Aug 01, 2011 5:31 AM GMT
    Oh yeah, btw...I brought the U-haul on the sixth date....10 years latericon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 01, 2011 5:33 AM GMT
    DrobUA saidSTOP MOVING IN WITH YOUR BOYFRIENDS AFTER A MONTH AND A HALF!! No shit it's not gonna last. Straight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together. That way they learn all the crap that you do that is going to drive them crazy and prepare themselves for it.


    YEA THAT'S TOTALLY IT icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 01, 2011 6:40 AM GMT
    This is why I thought the ending to Shelter was bullshit. The dude's starting college for the first time and he moves in with the guy after spending a couple months together?? Oh and with a child for them to raise! Yeah that's a realistic setup.
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    Aug 01, 2011 6:47 AM GMT
    Straight people have a much bigger dating pool to choose from. Gays go boinker when they found someone they're compatible with. So everything is rushed.

    Cant really blame them.
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    Aug 01, 2011 7:00 AM GMT
    One1313 saidStraight people have a much bigger dating pool to choose from. Gays go boinker when they found someone they're compatible with. So everything is rushed.

    Cant really blame them.


    ^^^ agreed!
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    Aug 01, 2011 1:26 PM GMT
    That's why being who you are completely within the first month is the best... that way, you won't drive them crazy because they will already know who you are.

    Be yourself upfront basically and relationships will last.
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    Aug 01, 2011 2:19 PM GMT
    DrobUA saidStraight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together.


    Really?

    I mean, really?
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    Aug 01, 2011 2:20 PM GMT
    Egyptian_and_Proud saidThat's why being who you are completely within the first month is the best... that way, you won't drive them crazy because they will already know who you are.

    Be yourself upfront basically and relationships will last.


    I think you hit it on the head right there Egyptian.

    Commodification of our personalities will always lead to disappointment. It come down to the principal of "if someone cant handle me at my worst, they dont deserve me at my best".
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    Aug 01, 2011 2:36 PM GMT
    In my view is there are relationships, not gay, not str8, not bi, but relationships. Relationships are Relationships and they last or fail based on the people involved. It doesn't matter if the people involved in the relationship are gay or st8. Moving in together for one couple can work and for another it might not. Doesn't matter what the sexual orientation is like. We humans do our best to figure things out and we need categories to attempt to understand why we do what we do.
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    Aug 01, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    Time accelerates as you get older.Your 12 months is my 2.38 months

    21/12=1.75. 54/12 =4 .166
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    Aug 01, 2011 3:20 PM GMT
    pecfan saidIn my view is there are relationships, not gay, not str8, not bi, but relationships. Relationships are Relationships and they last or fail based on the people involved. It doesn't matter if the people involved in the relationship are gay or st8. Moving in together for one couple can work and for another it might not. Doesn't matter what the sexual orientation is like. We humans do our best to figure things out and we need categories to attempt to understand why we do what we do.


    Over simplification. Having been in both gay and straight relationships, there is a different dynamic between the two of them.

    It has been my experience that gay relationships move much quicker than straight ones. I don't know why, but that's just the way it is. My last ex and I are really good friends though, which I think is rare. Wasn't difficult to return to friendship though since unlike most guys I know, I made sure to play it slow from the beginning and make sure we could be friends before dating -- again, this seems rare among most guys I know.

    I think a lot of gays have it all wrong when it comes to dating and love.
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    Aug 01, 2011 3:27 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidTime accelerates as you get older.Your 12 months is my 2.38 months

    21/12=1.75. 54/12 =4 .166
    Now if only people would drive like time has sped up, instead of slow-poking everywhere like so many people do. icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 01, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    They last if you think of gay years as being 6.5 times faster than straight ones.
  • trainhard2011

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    Aug 01, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    This has to be one of the most homophobic web sites out there. I'm not kidding. It is non-stop gay-bashing with generalized, untrue bull-shit. And, straight people are the gold standard. It's like you have taken every self-loathing gay man on the net, and put him on one site. I think many of you should really consider Exodus. I honestly believe you would be much happier pretending to be straight. I wish I could bet on each of you because I would be trillionaire based on the likelihood you will all die alone.

    And, to the op, this is why YOUR relationships don't last.
  • trainhard2011

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    Aug 01, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    Laxster, guess you're not part of that fringe group, right? What, with you being single, and "picky" and all.
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    Aug 01, 2011 4:08 PM GMT
    DrobUA saidSTOP MOVING IN WITH YOUR BOYFRIENDS AFTER A MONTH AND A HALF!! No shit it's not gonna last. Straight ppl at least wait a year or two before moving in together. That way they learn all the crap that you do that is going to drive them crazy and prepare themselves for it.


    21 and you've figured it all out... sounds like me 3 years ago.
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    Aug 01, 2011 4:09 PM GMT
    pecfan saidIn my view is there are relationships, not gay, not str8, not bi, but relationships. Relationships are Relationships and they last or fail based on the people involved. It doesn't matter if the people involved in the relationship are gay or st8. Moving in together for one couple can work and for another it might not. Doesn't matter what the sexual orientation is like. We humans do our best to figure things out and we need categories to attempt to understand why we do what we do.


    I agree with this. No matter how you look at it, a relationship is something that occurs between two people, and is a product of how both behave towards each other (along with various environmental factors). I know heterosexual couples who moved in together very quickly and then were together for a long time. I know same-sex couples who did the same thing and were together for different lengths of time.

    To say "gay couples move in together too quickly (compared to straight couples) when they're in relationships" is a gross over simplification and wildly inaccurate. And how do you know that "gay relationships rarely last"?

    It does remind me of part of a joke, though.

    What does a lesbian bring along on the second date? Her furniture and her cat.
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    Aug 01, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    trainhard2011 saidThis has to be one of the most homophobic web sites out there. I'm not kidding. It is non-stop gay-bashing with generalized, untrue bull-shit. And, straight people are the gold standard. It's like you have taken every self-loathing gay man on the net, and put him on one site. I think many of you should really consider Exodus. I honestly believe you would be much happier pretending to be straight. I wish I could bet on each of you because I would be trillionaire based on the likelihood you will all die alone.

    And, to the op, this is why YOUR relationships don't last.


    What's the definition of 'hypocrisy?'