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    Aug 02, 2011 12:25 AM GMT
    Ok guys here's what's up my brother is getting married soon on August 20th although i am happy for him and wish him well i do not like the fact that he wants me to be apart of his double life ways of being uncommitted to his fiance' by requesting that i do him favors by calling hotlines at his expense to hook up with other women not his fiance'. It makes no sense to me whatsoever because he wants to be married and start a family but refuses to give up his cheating ways to be committed and i am steady pondering in his pool. I'm in bit of a bind and wonder if any of you guys know how i can get out of this. icon_neutral.gif
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    Aug 02, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    This is really simple, tell your brother you want no more to do with his unfaithful ways and be adamant about it.
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    Aug 02, 2011 12:43 AM GMT
    Your brother is an irresponsible asshole who's putting his and his fiance's health at risk. You need to stiffen your spine and tell him to go fuck himself. You will no longer be part of his schemes. Threaten to tell his fiance and then tell her to keep using condoms while she's having sex with your bro.
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    Aug 02, 2011 12:44 AM GMT
    TakoTaiko saidThis is really simple, tell your brother you want no more to do with his unfaithful ways and be adamant about it.


    Thanks man will do icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 02, 2011 12:46 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidYour brother is an irresponsible asshole who's putting his and his fiance's health at risk. You need to stiffen your spine and tell him to go fuck himself. You will no longer be part of his schemes. Threaten to tell his fiance and then tell her to keep using condoms while she's having sex with your bro.
    Thanks i have told him once that is it worth hurting his fiance' over another woman when he can simply be a man and keep his tool in the pants before someone cuts it off. I love my brother and do not want to see him or anyone else hurt but he lets his d#@k talk for him. icon_mad.gif
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    Aug 02, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
    bhp91126 saidYour brother is an irresponsible asshole who's putting his and his fiance's health at risk. You need to stiffen your spine and tell him to go fuck himself. You will no longer be part of his schemes. Threaten to tell his fiance and then tell her to keep using condoms while she's having sex with your bro.

    This...

    What he's doing is not only dangerous, but disgusting considering she probably thinks she is in a loving monogamous relationship.
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    Aug 02, 2011 12:49 AM GMT
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    Aug 02, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    TrevorMark said
    bhp91126 saidYour brother is an irresponsible asshole who's putting his and his fiance's health at risk. You need to stiffen your spine and tell him to go fuck himself. You will no longer be part of his schemes. Threaten to tell his fiance and then tell her to keep using condoms while she's having sex with your bro.

    This...

    What he's doing is not only dangerous, but disgusting considering she probably thinks she is in a loving monogamous relationship.
    I agree i don't understand my brother sometimes he can be an ass i have tried to talk to him about this but he acts like he has his head in the sand
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    Aug 02, 2011 1:03 AM GMT
    Be true to thyself.

    Stand for something. Or, fall for anything.
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    Aug 02, 2011 1:06 AM GMT
    GAMRican saidBe true to thyself.

    Stand for something. Or, fall for anything.
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    Aug 02, 2011 4:15 AM GMT
    Edward22 saidOk guys here's what's up my brother is getting married soon on August 20th although i am happy for him and wish him well i do not like the fact that he wants me to be apart of his double life ways of being uncommitted to his fiance' by requesting that i do him favors by calling hotlines at his expense to hook up with other women not his fiance'. It makes no sense to me whatsoever because he wants to be married and start a family but refuses to give up his cheating ways to be committed and i am steady pondering in his pool. I'm in bit of a bind and wonder if any of you guys know how i can get out of this. icon_neutral.gif


    Hmmm well when the pastor says "speak now or forever hold your peace"...that would be the time to say something. Yes, it will put a drift between you and your brother but at the same time, it would be the right thing to do. It's not fair to that woman because she may be fully committed and he's not. When your brother asks you why you did it, tell him to put himself in her shoes...he would want someone to do the same thing for him if he found out she was being unfaithful. The decision is up to you but I would definitely say something (maybe you could talk to her one-on-one about it) because the way I see it, it's basically helping him cheat if you don't. She doesn't deserve that, right? Nobody does. Good luck!! icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 02, 2011 4:30 AM GMT
    Edward22 saidOk guys here's what's up my brother is getting married soon on August 20th although i am happy for him and wish him well i do not like the fact that he wants me to be apart of his double life ways of being uncommitted to his fiance' by requesting that i do him favors by calling hotlines at his expense to hook up with other women not his fiance'. It makes no sense to me whatsoever because he wants to be married and start a family but refuses to give up his cheating ways to be committed and i am steady pondering in his pool. I'm in bit of a bind and wonder if any of you guys know how i can get out of this. icon_neutral.gif



    You just tell him no you can't, which is different from simply won't. If he asks why you can't, tell him. And you might also tell him you were heartbroken by it enough to consult a website forum.


    I speak so bluntly because he's your brother and has asked you to assist in him cheating on his partner.
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    Aug 02, 2011 8:39 AM GMT
    I generally don't echo the opinions of guys on here but I think the other guys are right. Tell him you can't be his best man unless he can be the best man for his wife.
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    Aug 02, 2011 8:48 AM GMT
    WOW! Your brother is a dog. Obviously you should confront him and tell him you don't want to be part of his uncool and rather apparent unfaithful lifestyle. Tell him that you won't cover for him AND to add more incentive to the mix tell him that you'll inform his soon-to-be wife about his unfaithful ways.

    That should light a fire under his ass. If nothing else you save the fiancee' and your family some embarrassment not to mention you save who ever is paying for the wedding some money.
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    Aug 02, 2011 8:52 AM GMT
    If you have to act as middle man between your brother and his hookups, shouldn't you be getting compensated for your time? Like a pimp?

    You could call some woman that he would never in a million years hook up with and invite her. Remember "it was an innocent mistake" or "must have been a miscommunication."
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    Aug 02, 2011 9:40 PM GMT
    Thanks for the advice fellas icon_wink.gif
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    Aug 05, 2011 8:19 PM GMT
    BlackCat90 said
    Edward22 saidOk guys here's what's up my brother is getting married soon on August 20th although i am happy for him and wish him well i do not like the fact that he wants me to be apart of his double life ways of being uncommitted to his fiance' by requesting that i do him favors by calling hotlines at his expense to hook up with other women not his fiance'. It makes no sense to me whatsoever because he wants to be married and start a family but refuses to give up his cheating ways to be committed and i am steady pondering in his pool. I'm in bit of a bind and wonder if any of you guys know how i can get out of this. icon_neutral.gif


    Hmmm well when the pastor says "speak now or forever hold your peace"...that would be the time to say something. Yes, it will put a drift between you and your brother but at the same time, it would be the right thing to do. It's not fair to that woman because she may be fully committed and he's not. When your brother asks you why you did it, tell him to put himself in her shoes...he would want someone to do the same thing for him if he found out she was being unfaithful. The decision is up to you but I would definitely say something (maybe you could talk to her one-on-one about it) because the way I see it, it's basically helping him cheat if you don't. She doesn't deserve that, right? Nobody does. Good luck!! icon_smile.gif
    Thanks icon_smile.gif