Aug 02, 2011 5:37 PM GMT
No cruelty please!
What advice would you give to a closeted virgin who's only coming out in his 30s?
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Aug 02, 2011 5:37 PM GMT -
Aug 02, 2011 6:08 PM GMTDon't go too crazy? -
Aug 03, 2011 12:09 AM GMTGo crazy. -
Aug 03, 2011 12:10 AM GMTDo it at your own pace.
Congratulations! You'll feel liberated - exactly that! -
Aug 03, 2011 12:11 AM GMTDont be a fool wrap your tool. -
Aug 03, 2011 12:22 AM GMTmnboy saidDont be a fool wrap your tool.
OMG You got out of my basement again?
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Aug 03, 2011 1:56 AM GMTpaulflexes said
mnboy saidDont be a fool wrap your tool.
OMG You got out of my basement again?
Yah it was getting crowded down there..
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Aug 03, 2011 2:03 AM GMTDon't do it. -
Aug 03, 2011 2:06 AM GMTWhat everyone else said. can't stress enough the need to play it safe. The last thing you want to do is end up doing the whoop whoop for your first time with some ho' and leaving with a lot more than you wanted...
Obviously being 24 and having been out for .. 3+ years.. i can't quite fit in your shoes but maybe more direct questions wouldn't hurt than just broad asking for advice.
Oh and um Leg photos are great but psh if yer out be out! Get some photos up
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Aug 03, 2011 2:07 AM GMTplay safe -
Aug 03, 2011 2:15 AM GMTLive your life -
Aug 03, 2011 2:15 AM GMTCongrats -
Aug 03, 2011 2:15 AM GMTHmmm... Believe in yourself. Stay true to yourself. -
Aug 03, 2011 2:16 AM GMTBe true to who you are, go a little bit crazy and be safe. -
Aug 03, 2011 2:18 AM GMTStrap a comfy mattress to your back and use condoms. -
Aug 03, 2011 2:55 AM GMTGo at your own pace. Find others like you, or others that are sympathetic to your situation. Because honestly, most gay guys don't take kindly to newbies, especially when it comes to relationships. They always throw out the "I'm not going back in the closet" line, when you want to make gradual steps out of your comfort zone. Don't get discouraged if/when you meet those types of guys. Be true to yourself and know that you don't have to live up to anyone's expectations, except your own. -
Aug 03, 2011 3:23 AM GMTSafe Sex -every time
You live in large cities, there is likely to be a Gay Community Center there. See if there are gay groups that participate in activities that you already like doing (hiking, exercise, biking, bowling, art, theater, religious etc), that way you can meet people with similar interests. Too much of the "community" revolves around the bars and nightlife -not always the best way for meeting people.
Take your time and enjoy dating -you don't have to get married tomorrow, you've got lots of time to find a relationship (if that is what you want, but there's also no shame in being single)
Have fun
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Aug 03, 2011 3:24 AM GMTmnboy said
paulflexes said
mnboy saidDont be a fool wrap your tool.
OMG You got out of my basement again?
Yah it was getting crowded down there..
I let all of them out.
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Aug 03, 2011 3:28 AM GMTWell, 2 different issues here. I would suggest that you find some quality guys to get to know that you can trust and learn from. Not partiers but guys that are open with providing you good advise and explaining anything that you might not know.
As for being a virgin, nothing wrong with that. You don't need advise there. You'll know when you're ready, don't rush it and don't feel that you need a notch in your belt just because you're coming out. Make your first experience with a guy one that is very positive, with someone you really enjoy because it will be one date that you will always remember. Good luck. -
Aug 03, 2011 3:36 AM GMThit everything you can! -
Aug 03, 2011 3:39 AM GMTeb925guy saidWell, 2 different issues here. I would suggest that you find some quality guys to get to know that you can trust and learn from. Not partiers but guys that are open with providing you good advise and explaining anything that you might not know.
As for being a virgin, nothing wrong with that. You don't need advise there. You'll know when you're ready, don't rush it and don't feel that you need a notch in your belt just because you're coming out. Make your first experience with a guy one that is very positive, with someone you really enjoy because it will be one date that you will always remember. Good luck.
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Aug 03, 2011 3:39 AM GMTTime to be flawless~
You may now only listen to Madonna, etc.
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Aug 03, 2011 3:54 AM GMTDon't worry if you're doing things correctly. Enjoy yourself and be in the moment. Let nature take it's course. Play safe. -
Aug 03, 2011 4:11 AM GMTeb925guy saidWell, 2 different issues here. I would suggest that you find some quality guys to get to know that you can trust and learn from. Not partiers but guys that are open with providing you good advise and explaining anything that you might not know.
As for being a virgin, nothing wrong with that. You don't need advise there. You'll know when you're ready, don't rush it and don't feel that you need a notch in your belt just because you're coming out. Make your first experience with a guy one that is very positive, with someone you really enjoy because it will be one date that you will always remember. Good luck.
Great advice!
Also, don't get discouraged with the gay dating scene when you're ready to venture down that path. -
Aug 03, 2011 4:16 AM GMTCongratulations, sir!
