Gay friends?

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    Aug 02, 2011 9:59 PM GMT
    How do you get them if..

    You don't drink but maybe twice a year.
    You don't do drugs.
    Work quite a bit.
    You don't go out to clubs but maybe once a year.
    You're in a committed long term relationship.

    I don't mean to list many stereotypes of gay guys but honestly, I'm starting to feel if you fit any of these it's nearly impossible to meet and maintain gay friends. I just moved to Tampa four months ago with my partner and I know there are quite a few gay couples in our apartment complex but how do I meet them?! Even outside of the complex, how do you meet new [specifically gay] people when you're not going to clubs or looking for something more than friendship?

    I feel like I need to say...I sincerely appreciate my straight friends..but sometimes...I feel like they just can't relate on a few issues...
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    Aug 02, 2011 10:00 PM GMT
    kdsbil saidHow do you get them if..

    You don't drink but maybe twice a year.
    You don't do drugs.
    Work quite a bit.
    You don't go out to clubs but maybe once a year.
    You're in a committed long term relationship.
    ...you don/t. icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 02, 2011 10:03 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    kdsbil saidHow do you get them if..

    You don't drink but maybe twice a year.
    You don't do drugs.
    Work quite a bit.
    You don't go out to clubs but maybe once a year.
    You're in a committed long term relationship.
    ...you don/t. icon_razz.gif


    I'm going to assume you're joking...but it's a bit disheartening because I'm really starting to believe it. icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 02, 2011 10:05 PM GMT
    Almost every social circle has a token gay dude. Just hang out with assumed-straight people and you'll eventually be introduced...then introduced to more...etc.
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    Aug 02, 2011 10:23 PM GMT
    kdsbil saidHow do you get them if..

    You don't drink but maybe twice a year.
    You don't do drugs.
    Work quite a bit.
    You don't go out to clubs but maybe once a year.
    You're in a committed long term relationship.
    ...


    Amen brother - We are in the exact same situation. It is extremely frustrating and can totally relate. Glad to know that We are not the only ones..

    Both of us did not grow up here so don't have a group of school-based friends like most locals seem to have and keep close to their chest.
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    Aug 02, 2011 10:39 PM GMT
    On-line, college campuses, LGBT centers, gyms, bookstores, cafes, wherever straight people are. icon_wink.gif

    Friends of friends is mostly how I meet more gay people.

    Invite your gay neighbors to dinner! Just get to know them.
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    Aug 02, 2011 11:26 PM GMT
    Chaa_xwvn saidOn-line, college campuses, LGBT centers, gyms, bookstores, cafes, wherever straight people are. icon_wink.gif

    Friends of friends is mostly how I meet more gay people.

    Invite your gay neighbors to dinner! Just get to know them.


    LGBT centers?
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    Aug 02, 2011 11:55 PM GMT
    kdsbil said
    Chaa_xwvn saidOn-line, college campuses, LGBT centers, gyms, bookstores, cafes, wherever straight people are. icon_wink.gif

    Friends of friends is mostly how I meet more gay people.

    Invite your gay neighbors to dinner! Just get to know them.


    LGBT centers?


    I did a quick search online and found these. I don't know if they're up and running, what kind of services they provide, etc.

    Maybe they have positions for volunteers, good luck.

    Metro Wellness Community Center
    3170 3rd Avenue North,
    St. Petersburg, FL
    33713-7602
    (727) 321-3854 ‎
    metrocharities.org

    Tampa Metro Diversity Center
    Case Management, Prevention, Wellness Services
    1315 East 7th Avenue
    Tampa, FL 33605
    813-232-3808 (PH)
    813-234-3075 (FX)
    info@metrotampabay.org

    Metropolitan Charities Inc
    6421 N Florida Ave,
    Tampa, FL 33604-6007
    (813) 232-3808 ‎
    metrotampabay.org
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    Aug 03, 2011 12:55 AM GMT
    Get straight friends icon_biggrin.gif they're more fun!
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:35 AM GMT
    The only gay friends I have are from RJ... and even they get on my nerves icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:37 AM GMT
    I have a lot of gay friends and I'm not really into any of that stuff. I met most of them through school and mutual friends.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    Join a gay sports team. I don't know about your city, but where I live there's a gay league for about every sport, including hiking.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:40 AM GMT
    brueges saidJoin a gay sports team. I don't know about your city, but where I live there's a gay league for about every sport, including hiking.


    I would join something like that.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    I can relate to this. It was shocking for me to experience the difference between the ease of making new gay friends when I was single to now, when its next to impossible. I wish I had something encouraging to tell you.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    Ive made a few gay friends... once you get to know a few, you automatically begin to know more
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:41 AM GMT
    brueges saidJoin a gay sports team. I don't know about your city, but where I live there's a gay league for about every sport, including hiking.


    I would love to be on a gay soccer team but I have this horror visions of them running like fairies caring more about their abs than playing the sport. I know that's incredibly prejudiced of me but I can't help it icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:42 AM GMT
    Jerebear saidI can relate to this. It was shocking for me to experience the difference between the ease of making new gay friends when I was single to now, when its next to impossible. I wish I had something encouraging to tell you.


    Hmmm thats strange.. ALL my gay friends are in relationships.... i cant get along with the single gays.... they dont like me that much, and I dont have the patience for their games
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:43 AM GMT
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    brueges saidJoin a gay sports team. I don't know about your city, but where I live there's a gay league for about every sport, including hiking.


    I would love to be on a gay soccer team but I have this horror visions of them running like fairies caring more about their abs than playing the sport. I know that's incredibly prejudiced of me but I can't help it icon_lol.gif


    One of my best friends plays soccer.... he would kill you if you ever said that to him haha! He's probably the most athletic/competitive person you would ever meet!
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:44 AM GMT
    kdsbil saidHow do you get them if..

    You don't drink but maybe twice a year.
    You don't do drugs.
    Work quite a bit.
    You don't go out to clubs but maybe once a year.
    You're in a committed long term relationship.

    I don't mean to list many stereotypes of gay guys but honestly, I'm starting to feel if you fit any of these it's nearly impossible to meet and maintain gay friends. I just moved to Tampa four months ago with my partner and I know there are quite a few gay couples in our apartment complex but how do I meet them?! Even outside of the complex, how do you meet new [specifically gay] people when you're not going to clubs or looking for something more than friendship?

    I feel like I need to say...I sincerely appreciate my straight friends..but sometimes...I feel like they just can't relate on a few issues...


    Hot damn, you drink and club way more than I do! (Never had a drink, never been to a club, never done drugs, put in about 60 hours a couple weeks ago (avg a min of 45, norm of 50), just hit my 2.5 year mark with my beau)

    That said, I don't have any gay friends that I see in person. Plenty of amazing gays I know all over the world and would LOVE to meet that I regularly interact with online. I managed to meet one once but besides that I just don't know any gays in person.

    So if you happen to find a few I'd be happy to meet em too icon_razz.gif

    LGBT centers could be a good place to look. As soon as I moved to my new apt/city I looked for an LGBT group to join but there just aren't any! It's really pretty horrible... If I had any sense for that kind of thing I would consider trying to start one but I just don't have the time, skills, or patience to do anything like that.

    Ah well.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    kdsbil said
    brueges saidJoin a gay sports team. I don't know about your city, but where I live there's a gay league for about every sport, including hiking.


    I would love to be on a gay soccer team but I have this horror visions of them running like fairies caring more about their abs than playing the sport. I know that's incredibly prejudiced of me but I can't help it icon_lol.gif


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    Aug 03, 2011 1:48 AM GMT
    most of the gays I've met from moving to chicago I met through joining a gay rowing team. The guys are pretty competitive and it's alot of fun.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:51 AM GMT
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    Jerebear saidI can relate to this. It was shocking for me to experience the difference between the ease of making new gay friends when I was single to now, when its next to impossible. I wish I had something encouraging to tell you.


    Hmmm thats strange.. ALL my gay friends are in relationships.... i cant get along with the single gays.... they dont like me that much, and I dont have the patience for their games


    Most of my old gay friends are in relationships too, but over the years we've all moved all over the country and so the need to make new ones.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    Hey listen, Ariodante is gay, but I'm fine with it... I'm still marrying his ass.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:59 AM GMT
    Join the Navy.. or the Marines. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 2:00 AM GMT
    Chaa_xwvn said
    kdsbil said
    brueges saidJoin a gay sports team. I don't know about your city, but where I live there's a gay league for about every sport, including hiking.


    I would love to be on a gay soccer team but I have this horror visions of them running like fairies caring more about their abs than playing the sport. I know that's incredibly prejudiced of me but I can't help it icon_lol.gif





    haha. Thanks.