Gay Racist

  • JOCKDEVIL34

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    Aug 02, 2011 10:38 PM GMT
    Ok. I went to dinner with some friends at are a gay interracial couple. Another gay male that is in the restaurant made a comment to my friend who is white in which he said (What are you doing with those Monkey's) how would you react in this situation?
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    Aug 02, 2011 10:41 PM GMT
    JOCKDEVIL34 saidOk. I went to dinner with some friends at are a gay interracial couple. Another gay male that is in the restaurant made a comment to my friend who is white in which he said (What are you doing with those Monkey's) how would you react in this situation?


    Huh? icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 02, 2011 10:42 PM GMT
    I would probably laugh, honestly.


    JOCKDEVIL34 saidOk. I went to dinner with some friends at are a gay interracial couple. Another gay male that is in the restaurant made a comment to my friend who is white in which he said (What are you doing with those Monkey's) how would you react in this situation?
  • JOCKDEVIL34

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    Aug 02, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    This guy was asking what are you doing with those monkey's! Referring to what is he doing in this restaurant with those blacks.
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    Aug 02, 2011 10:55 PM GMT
    I'd be shocked and disgusted but then I'd also ignore him. Is he really worth the effort it takes to remain upset and angry with him? Nope.
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    Aug 02, 2011 11:23 PM GMT
    The better man would say take the high road and ignore such farce...

    However I would rather have clocked him in the face and told him to get out.icon_evil.gif
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    Aug 02, 2011 11:25 PM GMT
    What would you do if someone else said why are these fags here? The same response is probably appropriate icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 12:33 AM GMT
    I would have told him does he know that monkey's throw their shit, and tell him not to fuck with me unless he wants a face full of shit.
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    Aug 03, 2011 2:14 AM GMT
    Why bother responding to every stupid thing that everyone else says?

    Maybe you have the free time to call him an ass and explain to him why he's an ass. If not, just don't bother.
  • JP85257

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    Aug 03, 2011 2:24 AM GMT
    Did he say Nigger?
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    Aug 03, 2011 2:42 AM GMT
    Considering the discrimination that gays go through, being gay doesn't automatically exclude gays from discriminating against others. Racists come in all shapes and forms.
  • JP85257

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    Aug 03, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    Dont take this the wrong way, but there are far worse things he could have called you.

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    Aug 03, 2011 11:43 AM GMT
    Start singing aloud, for everyone to hear, "I'm a Believer," "Last Train to Clarksville," and "Daydream Believer."
  • kcbronc

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    Aug 03, 2011 4:17 PM GMT
    I would be more concerned about how your friend reacted and how he replied to the racist. If he laughed it off I'd probably be pissed but if he stuck up for you then I'd be fine and thank him.
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
    JP85257 saidDont take this the wrong way, but there are far worse things he could have called you.



    You are kidding, right? How is this helping the cause?

    Anyways, don't let it bother you. There will always be pathetic fools who have nothing else to do than to hate upon other people. I am hoping your friend stood up and told him off. In the event that nothing was said or done on your friend's side, then I would confront him or just find new friends.
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    Sep 05, 2011 1:39 AM GMT
    JP85257 saidDont take this the wrong way, but there are far worse things he could have called you.



    icon_eek.gifSoooooo... some derogatory terms are BETTER than others??? Hmmm
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    Sep 05, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    JP85257 saidDont take this the wrong way, but there are far worse things he could have called you.



    You are an idiot.
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    Sep 05, 2011 1:52 AM GMT
    You should have told him, 'He's with us because size does matter.'
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    Sep 05, 2011 1:56 AM GMT
    I'm in an interracial relationship. So far we have had one extremely racist/negative comment hurled our way. My reaction was basically like Dave Chappelle's reaction to the waitress knowing he wanted the fried chicken as a stereotype - I was just shocked. I wasn't even angry, I was just shocked (boyfriend's people were insulted, not mine.) I felt like I already won because I was more progressive than this guy who thinks you can insult race in the 21st century and be in the right - especially on a crass stereotypical putdown that seems more consistent with a 1911 mindset than 2011.

    In your situation: I would ask him to repeat it louder to ensure that I heard it correctly. Then I would feel smug and superior that I was not him.

    Your actions are always louder than your words - at the end of the day you either (obviously) are okay with diversity or you are not. People generally are not going to change overnight and become instantly accepting of "others" they have side-stepped for so long. You win just by being there, at the same table, as someone a little different than you - whether it is your friend or your lover.
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    Sep 05, 2011 2:29 AM GMT
    I probably would've given him a really blank expression and told him that I didn't come with him I came with my boyfriend and friend. Then I'd call the server over to bring him a banana.
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    Sep 05, 2011 11:47 AM GMT
    A manager at my job with whom I was casually friendly got transferred to another location in Rhode Island. When we parted company it was one of those deals where neither figured they'd see the other again.

    Not so! A couple of years later, I was on an overnight train to DC when who should board my car in Providence. We were happy and excited to see each other; I waved him into the seat next to me. Before we'd reached Connecticut we were getting our drink on, each guy taking turns paying for a round. Beer, conversation, and laughter flowed freely. That is, until he said, "Y'know, sometimes I really miss all the monkeying around that used to go on. But why should I have been surprised, with all the monkeys who were there?" Suddenly a handsome, broadly grinning man got very ugly in my eyes. Gritting my teeth and biting my tongue, I let all expression drain from my face and fixed a cold glare on him.

    He then got visibly nervous, trembling and stammering as his face flushed. "Uh, you know, monkeying around...monkeys...I didn't mean...no, really...I'm sorry..." I stood, and purposely knocked his knees together as I eased past him into the aisle and reached up to grab my duffel bag from the overhead rack. "I'll be seeing you. Enjoy the rest of your trip," I icily said to him as I left. The last he got from me was a whispered, "Fuck you."

    This crap is out there way too much, and I see and hear it all the time. No more stories this time, although I've got a great one about how half a busful of people called out a hater who the driver ended up dumping by the side of the road. icon_smile.gif

    When the cold shoulder doesn't work, I always go with the stink eye.
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    Sep 05, 2011 12:11 PM GMT
    Through word or deed make the the shameful racism public... if it's unspoken, ignored, or trivialized, it is reenforced. When I'm my higher-self I might try to educate in a kind way. Usually I'm too upset by this crap to be my higher-self though.