I feel SO pathetic right now!

  • Neurons

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    Aug 02, 2011 11:41 PM GMT
    Typing on my phone so any mistakes, probably didn't notice!

    Anyway.. I feel really pathetic right now and I feel I'm going to be judged hardcore for this. I have this BIG crush on an RJ'er. HUGE crush.. I've spoken to him a decent amount of times. I find him extremely attractive physically and intellectually from his posts. The thing is, I've never had a crush on someone online before.. I don't intend to do anything about it since he's all the way on the other side of Canada and I'm the type who would rather not pursue something that I feel I'd get shot down. The other thing is, he's 45! I don't have a problem with age but I feel this is one of those frustrating things that happen. Anyway, has anyone else felt like this(crush) towards someone online?
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:18 AM GMT
    I've had a few online crushes. Not a big deal. More of a "bromance" sort of thing than anything else. I'm in a committed relationship and feel lucky as hell to be in a relationship of over 11 years. Still, there are some guys on RealJock that seem to be the total package and I'd be lying if I said there was never any attraction. But I realize it's not anything that I'd ever pursue.
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    Aug 03, 2011 1:45 AM GMT
    O yes, that happened to me.. I immediately knew that was bad news... it turned out I was right....
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    Aug 03, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    So your crush is going to see this...

    And yeah, I met a few people from here. Recently, I met someone here that I really like and that's all there is to that (although he'll front and say otherwise icon_smile.gif )
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:46 AM GMT
    Yes. I got too attached and so did he. Then I started college, neglected him (didn't come online to talk/call him whenever I said I would, he stayed up waiting for hours, and he was five hours ahead of me as he was in the UK) and it just didn't end nicely. I used to "blame" myself for neglecting him but now I am so glad that nothing worked out. It would have just prolonged a tragic story.

    Online relationships can work it, but I personally don't know of such a thing happening. So, I'll tell you to try to avoid letting any feelings of attractions grow. RJ has a lot of seemingly great guys, some of whom might actually be exactly how you perceive them. You probably won't be able to meet with them enough to have a proper relationship going.

    You shouldn't feel pathetic. It happens (it's RJ, duh). And the age thing shouldn't even be an issue! There's a good lot of older guys on RJ that are nice icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    GreenHopper saidO yes, that happened to me.. I immediately knew that was bad news... it turned out I was right....


    :'(
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    Aug 03, 2011 5:01 AM GMT
    TheKrisPandemic saidTyping on my phone so any mistakes, probably didn't notice!

    Anyway.. I feel really pathetic right now and I feel I'm going to be judged hardcore for this. I have this BIG crush on an RJ'er. HUGE crush.. I've spoken to him a decent amount of times. I find him extremely attractive physically and intellectually from his posts. The thing is, I've never had a crush on someone online before.. I don't intend to do anything about it since he's all the way on the other side of Canada and I'm the type who would rather not pursue something that I feel I'd get shot down. The other thing is, he's 45! I don't have a problem with age but I feel this is one of those frustrating things that happen. Anyway, has anyone else felt like this(crush) towards someone online?
    Dude...it's not pathetic....you see qualities in him that don't exist presently in your life....Just be realistic ..Crushes calm down and fade over time....BUD
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:39 AM GMT
    I too have a crush but I don't let it get to me. Gotta keep my emo on check and just enjoy the friendship -- although it's been awhile since I heard from him.......not that it matters.icon_confused.gif

    Call me.
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    Aug 03, 2011 7:26 AM GMT
    sashaman saidI've had a few online crushes. Not a big deal. More of a "bromance" sort of thing than anything else. I'm in a committed relationship and feel lucky as hell to be in a relationship of over 11 years. Still, there are some guys on RealJock that seem to be the total package and I'd be lying if I said there was never any attraction. But I realize it's not anything that I'd ever pursue.


    +1 (although replace 11 with 7)
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    Aug 03, 2011 9:21 AM GMT
    MuchMoreThanMuscle said
    On a side note, I really don't get how people on here perpetually and publicly fawn and swoon over people on this site. The thing is, these people who compose themselves in this manner would more than likely never have the balls to do it to the person's face in their actual physical presence. It's just a waste of internet space when it comes right down to it.


    I have to admit I have been guilty of this on occasion - usually only if I have had a few drinks beforehand. icon_redface.gif
    It is very true though that topics are either created specifically for these public swooning purposes or others are simply hijacked and the original purpose is lost amongst all the goo-goo gaa-gaa.
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    Aug 03, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    I've had crushes but doesn't go anything beyond that and never get love sick about it. Just swallow the bitter pill and move on
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    Aug 04, 2011 12:09 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidNothing wrong with an RJ crush. I've had a couple. There's only been one guy I mentioned it to and I framed it something like this:
    "We're thousands of miles away and obviously I don't know you from Adam, but from what I see and read, you're 'proof of concept' that the kind of gay guy I've dreamed about actually exists in the real world. And knowing you exist there makes me want to go and see if there's someone like you in my neck of the woods. So thanks for that."
    I think that's about as much as one can 'hope' from such a crush. But hope is a pretty great thing to get out of the blue while you're just pissing away time the 'net. icon_smile.gif

    As for the distance: pretty much insurmountable unless one of you is gonna move. And the age difference...I think 20:45 is tough to make work (unless one of the people is Celine Dion...then it works great, lol.)

    If your world of 'prospects' has been opened up by this guy, go find his doppleganger --or better-- in your town now.

    Henry David Thoreau said“If you have built castles in the air, your work need not be lost. There is where they should be. Now put foundations under them.”


    Well, I'm finished College in Jan and can move anywhere I'd like, but that's a whole other story. I just get frustrated because every post I see by him and every new pic he posts, I get butterflies. Ugh!

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    Aug 04, 2011 12:18 AM GMT
    closer85 saidSo your crush is going to see this...

    And yeah, I met a few people from here. Recently, I met someone here that I really like and that's all there is to that (although he'll front and say otherwise icon_smile.gif )


    ^ you be on some bullshit 24/7 lol icon_rolleyes.gif

    On another note:
    Just go for it. You never know unless you try- would you rather be scared/not do anything and wonder, or man up/do something and know for certain?