I've forgotten how to date

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    Aug 03, 2011 12:34 PM GMT
    So I've been single for very very long time and now that I'll be returning back to Toronto (Canada) this fall, I realize that I wouldn't have a clue anymore of the dating protocols with a guy.

    Because the lack of quality guys in the current country of residence (Karachi) I pretty much hung up my coat and accepted my singleton status

    Once I return, it would technically be more easier for me to end up dating a girl.However that's not what I want so unless she's r someone I dig, I have no desire for that.

    In fact I wouldn't even know if a guy would be interested with me if I'm wandering around downtown or at a social event.

    Barring Grindr (cause I do not have smart phone) is there any tips or advice from any of you fellas.




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    Aug 03, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    pchoc1 saidThere's not much to it. It's mostly about sex. Save going out to dinner for friends and family.


    Don't listen to him.


    To OP: Of course Guys still date. Just treat it as you're meeting a new special friend. I suggest that you think of a lot of fun activities to do. Guys bond over activities, whereas girls bond over long conversations. I think the safe bet is to plan a date that has both elements. Movies are by far the worst dating activity to do cuz there is absolutely no interactions. You want to interact with this guy you're dating.

    Be yourself, and have fun! Dating is all about having fun while discovering the other person (and yourself). icon_biggrin.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:00 PM GMT
    Fivealive saidBarring Grindr (cause I do not have smart phone) is there any tips or advice from any of you fellas.

    Are you asking about how to CONDUCT a date, or how to GET a date? Or both?
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:18 PM GMT
    I think you should seek for friendship first. Take it step by step and don't pressure yourself while dating or it'll fall appart before it even started.

    Once feelings start to jump in, be yourself and follow your instincts. If the guy is the right one, everything will fall into place.

    There is no manual on "how to date" a guy. When you are really genuinely interested in dating someone, every situation is different because every person is different.

    Once u start talking to someone on any website, I suggest you don't ask the person too many questions, just the basic stuff and then meet up for wtv (drinks/coffee/supper/sport) that way it is more likely that you will know the person better than online.
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    Art_Deco said
    Fivealive saidBarring Grindr (cause I do not have smart phone) is there any tips or advice from any of you fellas.

    Are you asking about how to CONDUCT a date, or how to GET a date? Or both?


    Kinda both. I'm afraid I've become rusty.

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    Aug 03, 2011 3:59 PM GMT
    Depends on if you're going to be living downtown or in the suburbs somewhere. It's much easier to meet guys in your daily life if you're just walking in the neighbourhood and your neighbourhood is actually walkable versus a car strewn highway.
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:14 PM GMT
    Grindr is a good place to find a good date? icon_eek.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    mayBbignow2 saidMaybe its your clothing choice
    You should wear a combination of below

    gay-guy-in-booty-shorts.jpg

    pinksmurf.jpg

    funny-8-1-11.jpg


    Hmmm.... You may be onto something here! lol

    Oh and I do not have a smart phone so Grindr is not possible
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    mayBbignow2 saidMaybe its your clothing choice
    You should wear a combination of below

    gay-guy-in-booty-shorts.jpg

    pinksmurf.jpg

    funny-8-1-11.jpg


    Hmmm.... You may be onto something here! lol

    Oh and I do not have a smart phone so Grindr is not possible
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:43 PM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidGrindr is a good place to find a good date? icon_eek.gif


    Can be. Met my ex on it.
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:51 PM GMT
    TroyAthlete said
    Soulasphyxi saidGrindr is a good place to find a good date? icon_eek.gif


    Can be. Met my ex on it.


    Im dating someone I met on Grindr too...
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    Aug 03, 2011 5:40 PM GMT
    Awww. You could practice dating with me.

    If a guy is interested, you can tell by his eye contact and body language. Sometimes he will tell you, but the body language and the eye contact are the sure giveaways.
    So you're not dating right now. You could at least go people watch. Go someplace with a lot of pedestrian traffic and watch how people interact. You might not be in practice for dating, but you will at least be in practice for picking up the signals.
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:08 PM GMT
    Ermine saidAwww. You could practice dating with me.

    If a guy is interested, you can tell by his eye contact and body language. Sometimes he will tell you, but the body language and the eye contact are the sure giveaways.
    So you're not dating right now. You could at least go people watch. Go someplace with a lot of pedestrian traffic and watch how people interact. You might not be in practice for dating, but you will at least be in practice for picking up the signals.



    I wouldn't mind you being my practice date!

    Unfortunately people watching here is very mundane. Maybe in back in T.O I can try....

    Another issue is that when I was younger I usually initiated the flirting and eye contact. But now I'm pretty reserved...I'm no less friendly but no longer the hint giver.
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:09 PM GMT
    First off, stop throwing in the towel because you're not finding what you're wanting. Stop dating specifically to find Mr. Right. Try giving people a chance, go out on dates with people you don't like, and it'll teach you to appreciate people for who they are and expose you to knew things.

    You won't make many lovers doing so, but you'll make interesting friends that you would not have otherwise. I've started doing this, and I have met so many interesting people who have taken me on experiences I would not have had without them. These guys who were not good enough for me to be with, have made my vacation amazing already, and I've only been home for like 4 days.

    Next time a guy ask you out and you go through that check list in your head and say no because you know things won't work out romantically between the two of you, say yes anyway. Let them know you can't promise anything, but that you are open to getting to know them and have fun.

    You won't regret it, promise.
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:20 PM GMT
    You put your right foot in,
    You put your right foot out;
    You put your right...

    oh how to date....I was going to say didn't think many people forgot how to do the hokey pokey.
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:26 PM GMT
    Halfstep saidFirst off, stop throwing in the towel because you're not finding what you're wanting. Stop dating specifically to find Mr. Right. Try giving people a chance, go out on dates with people you don't like, and it'll teach you to appreciate people for who they are and expose you to knew things.

    You won't make many lovers doing so, but you'll make interesting friends that you would not have otherwise. I've started doing this, and I have met so many interesting people who have taken me on experiences I would not have had without them. These guys who were not good enough for me to be with, have made my vacation amazing already, and I've only been home for like 4 days.

    Next time a guy ask you out and you go through that check list in your head and say no because you know things won't work out romantically between the two of you, say yes anyway. Let them know you can't promise anything, but that you are open to getting to know them and have fun.

    You won't regret it, promise.


    I've already done that. I've made a few friends from it, but most of them had serious issues and most of it was the case of the ex.

    Its not me throwing in the towel, and yes I do have right to what I want and I also know that nobody is perfect. However I got plenty of times gipped and so I sanctioned myself as single.
    And since being single it was good, I let my dating skills go because it was no longer of use to me.
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    I'm sure you'll get it back. You seem like an awesome guy. Just give yourself time.
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:39 PM GMT
    Fivealive said
    I wouldn't mind you being my practice date!

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    Fivealive said
    Another issue is that when I was younger I usually initiated the flirting and eye contact. But now I'm pretty reserved...I'm no less friendly but no longer the hint giver.

    It's ok. This is where people watching will help. If you can see the signals when others are flirting and checking each other out, you should be able to tell when a guy is checking you out and flirting with you.
    When you're feeling more confident you can start initiating the flirting if you like.
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    Aug 03, 2011 6:45 PM GMT
    cityaznguy said
    pchoc1 saidThere's not much to it. It's mostly about sex. Save going out to dinner for friends and family.


    Don't listen to him.


    To OP: Of course Guys still date. Just treat it as you're meeting a new special friend. I suggest that you think of a lot of fun activities to do. Guys bond over activities, whereas girls bond over long conversations. I think the safe bet is to plan a date that has both elements. Movies are by far the worst dating activity to do cuz there is absolutely no interactions. You want to interact with this guy you're dating.

    Be yourself, and have fun! Dating is all about having fun while discovering the other person (and yourself). icon_biggrin.gif


    I agree. We tend to bond better having conversations while doing activities.