Need romantic advice from hung guys

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    Aug 03, 2011 2:57 PM GMT
    At home from iraq on a 15 day vacation and have spent it so far reconnecting with an old friend from my teens; these past few days have been my first time seeing him in 5 years. He always came off as bi to me or something, and now in our early 20s he has turned out to be full on gay – out to his family and friends and seems to have really made peace with himself, except for one thing.

    He has a ridiculously large penis that would even put porn stars to shame and he is really embarrassed of it. It’s always made him stand out, people have always commented about it, even back in the day when he was pretending to be straight, and so he is very self conscious and prefers for people to not know about it. Now living a gay man’s life, where size queens make penis size out to be paramount even before a man’s personality, his penis issues have only gotten worse.

    Seeing as we are going on casual dates right now, it’s becoming increasingly clear that it is an issue for him. I accidentally gave him a hard-on the other day while we were getting ready to head out for lunch and he was embarrassed the whole time until it finally went down. I’ve never seen a guy so embarrassed in my life.

    For those of you packing a bit more than the rest of us, what issues did/do you have with your penis size, what did people do to reinforce these complexes, how did you get past it – if ever. Finally, what can I do to help put him at ease, because his penis just isn’t that big of a deal to me?
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:02 PM GMT
    You just have to make it clear that you are dating him not his penis and there's nothing for him to be embarrassed about. Just treat him like it's normal as that's probably all he wants.
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:10 PM GMT
    Pure saidYou just have to make it clear that you are dating him not his penis and there's nothing for him to be embarrassed about. Just treat him like it's normal as that's probably all he wants.


    Pure he wants advice from hung guys. Unless you plan to prove that you are, can it!
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:26 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    Pure saidYou just have to make it clear that you are dating him not his penis and there's nothing for him to be embarrassed about. Just treat him like it's normal as that's probably all he wants.


    Pure he wants advice from hung guys. Unless you plan to prove that you are, can it!


    LOL - well I'm not ridiculously large or porn-star shaming but I haven't been particularly impressed when someone JUST focuses on my dick. I assume it's the same for him.
  • Neurons

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    Aug 03, 2011 3:39 PM GMT
    I'll wear tighter briefs and actually stick it under the waist of my pants. Loose underwear and pants/shorts are out of the question.
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:40 PM GMT
    And thats the good thing about me. I don't just focuss on his penis, I am so much more intrigued by his personality. But then knowing about his self-conciousness makes me a bit uncomfortable. It makes me uneasy because a guy like me is going to give a guy a hard on, especially if he see's me dressing for our date or if we're cuddling and watching a movie, and I don't want to always feel uneasy if this ends up going any further.

    I'm simply hoping you guys can help me better understand his situation. Because I've always been average and so really cannot identify. I know what its like to be treated like a piece of meat and yet those traits that make people want to fuck me have never made me so uncomfortable that I wished i had a bad body or that i wished I was unattractive. But he literally wishes he had a small penis, and said that things that guys have put him through since he started dating has made him ashamed of his size.

  • kcbronc

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    Aug 03, 2011 3:41 PM GMT
    What kind of underwear does he wear? Briefs or better yet a jock will keep him packed in better. If he wears boxers then there is no hope.
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:43 PM GMT
    kcbronc saidWhat kind of underwear does he wear? Briefs or better yet a jock will keep him packed in better. If he wears boxers then there is no hope.


    Yup, he wears boxers. But he wears tighter pants.
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:44 PM GMT
    We want PICTURES or you're making all of this up icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:44 PM GMT
    Halfstep said
    kcbronc saidWhat kind of underwear does he wear? Briefs or better yet a jock will keep him packed in better. If he wears boxers then there is no hope.


    Yup, he wears boxers.


    Well that's the first thing to go! Why not get him a pack of sexy briefs as a present and see if that keeps him a little bit more under control! I know I couldn't wear boxers unless I wanted to show really obvious bulges!
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:48 PM GMT
    That underwear thing is actually a really good idea. Because we're men and its natural and if he could just go through what the rest of us go through without it being too obvious, I think he will be more at ease when we're cuddling in public or when something gets him excited.
  • metatextual

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    Aug 03, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    It seems you're going at it the right way -- really, just don't comment on it at all, if you can.

    Personally, I don't mind comments from strangers who're just commenting on a noticeable bulge, but when it comes to someone I hold close, a passionate kiss or a cuddle are better than an outright proclamation on my penis size.

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    Aug 03, 2011 3:54 PM GMT
    Pure said
    Chainers said
    Pure saidYou just have to make it clear that you are dating him not his penis and there's nothing for him to be embarrassed about. Just treat him like it's normal as that's probably all he wants.


    Pure he wants advice from hung guys. Unless you plan to prove that you are, can it!


    LOL - well I'm not ridiculously large or porn-star shaming but I haven't been particularly impressed when someone JUST focuses on my dick. I assume it's the same for him.


    I just wanted to see a pic of your junk icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 3:56 PM GMT
    I like how everyone is just clicking on this thread to see who is hung and that's it.
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:22 PM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidI like how everyone is just clicking on this thread to see who is hung and that's it.


    I'm doing it now that you mention iticon_wink.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:27 PM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidI like how everyone is just clicking on this thread to see who is hung and that's it.

    Guilty icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:31 PM GMT
    Halfstep saidIt’s always made him stand out, people have always commented about it, even back in the day when he was pretending to be straight, and so he is very self conscious and prefers for people to not know about it.


    Poor baby. Gotta love first world "problems".

    P.S. If you don't make it a big deal, then it won't be a big deal. And if he doesn't want attention, maybe he should stop wearing boxers. Just some thoughts.
  • kcbronc

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    Aug 03, 2011 4:40 PM GMT
    Seems kind of strange that he's embarrassed yet wears boxers which accentuates the issue. I hate wearing boxers... might as well not wear underwear.

    I want to be a voyeor on the thread where someone is self conscious of their bubble butt. icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:42 PM GMT
    It's a cold day in Hell when a guy is self-conscious about being too hung. Tell him I'll trade dicks with him if he wants. icon_lol.gif Women can get breast reduction surgery...I wonder if penis reduction procedures exist for men? icon_question.gificon_eek.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 4:58 PM GMT
    wildtype87 saidIt's a cold day in Hell when a guy is self-conscious about being too hung. Tell him I'll trade dicks with him if he wants. icon_lol.gif Women can get breast reduction surgery...I wonder if penis reduction procedures exist for men? icon_question.gificon_eek.gif


    It's one thing to be self conscious about being hung, and another thing to be self conscious about showing their package in public. A big package at a gay bar/event is one thing, but at work, around family or in the general public can be embarrassing.
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    Aug 03, 2011 5:27 PM GMT
    Soulasphyxi saidI like how everyone is just clicking on this thread to see who is hung and that's it.

    +1 (i think the OP might have posted this just to see who is hung)
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    Aug 03, 2011 5:29 PM GMT
    I don't think I've ever met someone who's self conscious about being hung- lets be real....
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    Aug 03, 2011 5:33 PM GMT
    Present!icon_biggrin.gif Funny how 8 out of 10 guys in here start to chat with me and they're really cool but is not until I unlock that I instantly become part of their buddy and Hot list. It makes me wonder If I'm doing the right thing by unlocking...
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    Aug 03, 2011 5:39 PM GMT
    ESCESV saidPresent!icon_biggrin.gif Funny how 8 out of 10 guys in here start to chat with me and they're really cool but is not until I unlock that I instantly become part of their buddy and Hot list. It makes me wonder If I'm doing the right thing by unlocking...


    lol now you made me want to see :-).

    Does anyone else find it hard to accommodate a well hung guy? I mean not that I wouldnt date someone with a big hunk of meat but I def wouldnt be able to have sex with them a lot. 6" is best for me :-)
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    Aug 03, 2011 5:47 PM GMT
    Chainers said
    ESCESV saidPresent!icon_biggrin.gif Funny how 8 out of 10 guys in here start to chat with me and they're really cool but is not until I unlock that I instantly become part of their buddy and Hot list. It makes me wonder If I'm doing the right thing by unlocking...


    lol now you made me want to see :-).

    Does anyone else find it hard to accommodate a well hung guy? I mean not that I wouldnt date someone with a big hunk of meat but I def wouldnt be able to have sex with them a lot. 6" is best for me :-)


    I'll show it to youicon_wink.gif.

    I normally hear the same based on the pic; "Yeah I can take all of that" Then when the moment comes it's only a "Oh My" What the heck?! you either can or you can't.icon_confused.gif