Not sure I am making the right choices.

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    Aug 03, 2011 9:54 PM GMT
    I apologise in advance for bothering you with this, but there's no one I can discuss this with really. Also, I don't pity myself, I am satisfied with my life and all. It's just something that bothers me at the moment.

    In the last 6 years I have lived for short-medium periods in different countries and cities. It was all great, especially because most of the time abroad I was a student, so it was easy to go home every two weeks and have family come over whenever. But now this will all change, because I am moving again, but now for a career. As a worker you don't really have the luxury of getting out whenever you want for however long you wish. The few days off a year I ll spend mostly traveling to my parents and siblings who are split in two different countries. I am home now with everyone, and with all the good and the bad in our family, I just feel good being around them all. Being away from it, will make me sad and unhappy I am afraid.

    It has always been my dream to have an international career, and my family knows that and they always supported me with that, but now that I am starting for real... I am not so sure it is all really worth it.
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    Aug 03, 2011 10:38 PM GMT
    24 years old and afraid to leave home?
    You musta been seriously sheltered, dude.
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    Aug 03, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    you're in need of a sassy gay friend...
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    Aug 03, 2011 10:43 PM GMT
    paulflexes said24 years old and afraid to leave home?
    You musta been seriously sheltered, dude.


    I kinda have to agree. icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 03, 2011 11:00 PM GMT
    paulflexes said24 years old and afraid to leave home?
    You musta been seriously sheltered, dude.


    No, I went abroad at the age of 18, and then continued to live abroad since. All that time not being home. It's just that my family is my everything, I don't need to be at home, just being able to visit them at least two times a week would be enough. They are more important to me than anyone in this world, they're like my friends. Especially now that I can see my parents getting older.

    @ i_VAN, but aside from calling me a stupid bitch, what would he say? Stay with family or leave?
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    Aug 03, 2011 11:52 PM GMT

    Monir, I say go for the career. You can always quit a job. If it's a well paying career you can host family. They can tour and sight-see while you're at work.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:20 AM GMT
    Well, I think that since your family knows this is something you want, they would feel really bad if you stayed there for them. If I've learned anything in life, the short time I've been here, it's that we need to learn to live for ourselves and noone else. Don't think of it as being harsh, but as being free. icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:27 AM GMT
    Spending more and more time away from your family is the result of most jobs these days. We do hae lots of ways to stay in touch, though, thanks to technology. Having your family members visit you from time to time is good, too.

    Family will always be important to you, but in the long run you have to mold your own life beyond them as well.