Kissing While Laying Down - Dominant or Submissive

  • biontop

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    Aug 03, 2011 11:49 PM GMT
    So my partner and I were pondering this the other night: When kissing laying down, is the person underneath the other (the one on their back) the submissive person in the relationship? (and I'm not talking about top or bottom). Or is the bigger person the one that's supposed to underneath. I think it the first, but he thinks its the second.

    With us I'm usually underneath him when we're kissing, I'm a submissive top, he's a power bottom. But he's significantly bigger than me (he's 6'2" and 195 lbs, I'm 5'6" and 140 lbs), which by his theory makes us strange.

    So which one is it?

    Thanks for any answers! icon_biggrin.gif
  • pwrbottom12

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    Aug 04, 2011 1:16 AM GMT
    I think you two are normal because if you're the submissive one and are smaller than him and underneath him then he is dominanting you. I could see it going many ways.

    I personally like rolling around icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:48 AM GMT
    Neither. It doesn't mean anything.
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:52 AM GMT
    I don't think it really matters... I think the dominant one picks which he'd rather do and makes it happen.. that's what happens with me anyways icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:58 AM GMT
    niether it don't matter, you just do what you comtrable with
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    Aug 04, 2011 4:11 AM GMT
    Sheesh, does it really matter?
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    Aug 04, 2011 5:10 AM GMT
    Doesn't the dominant one decide?

    I always decide.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:03 PM GMT
    I have never heard of such a thing.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:05 PM GMT


    Sort of a role-play thing?

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    Aug 04, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    What is it with gay men and this whole dominant/submissive bullshit?
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:10 PM GMT
    From the opinion of someone that lives the BDSM lifestyle, being on top of someone vs being under someone does not determine Dom/sub.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:12 PM GMT
    Chattman91 saidWhat is it with gay men and this whole dominant/submissive bullshit?


    It's also a straight thing. And a Bi thing.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:12 PM GMT
    Chattman91 saidWhat is it with gay men and this whole dominant/submissive bullshit?


    I dont know. I know it as a fettish, Seems to be a preoccupation with some folks on this site.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:13 PM GMT
    Pyrotech saidFrom the opinion of someone that lives the BDSM lifestyle, being on top of someone vs being under someone does not determine Dom/sub.


    For me it was whoever weighed less was on top.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:22 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said
    Chattman91 saidWhat is it with gay men and this whole dominant/submissive bullshit?


    I dont know. I know it as a fettish, Seems to be a preoccupation with some folks on this site.


    Because dom/sub, to a lot of gay men is, on some undeniable level, a draw on the dynamic of a man/woman relationship.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    It only means something if you want it to mean something. Other then that it's just a kiss. I'm sure if you want to be dom'd or subbed you'll express it so it's not a mystery.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:25 PM GMT
    Animus said
    Dallasfan824 said
    Chattman91 saidWhat is it with gay men and this whole dominant/submissive bullshit?


    I dont know. I know it as a fettish, Seems to be a preoccupation with some folks on this site.


    Because dom/sub, to a lot of gay men is, on some undeniable level, a draw on the dynamic of a man/woman relationship.


    LMAO! Seriously, where do you guys come up with this shit?
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:27 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said
    Pyrotech saidFrom the opinion of someone that lives the BDSM lifestyle, being on top of someone vs being under someone does not determine Dom/sub.


    For me it was whoever weighed less was on top.


    Aww, that's a bummer. I always date guys bigger and stronger than me, and I absolutely LOVE it when they laid on top of me to kiss me.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:28 PM GMT
    Pyrotech said
    Dallasfan824 said
    Pyrotech saidFrom the opinion of someone that lives the BDSM lifestyle, being on top of someone vs being under someone does not determine Dom/sub.


    For me it was whoever weighed less was on top.


    Aww, that's a bummer. I always date guys bigger and stronger than me, and I absolutely LOVE it when they laid on top of me to kiss me.


    I like it too. Most of the time the other guy thought he was hurting me and felt bad.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:32 PM GMT
    Dallasfan824 said
    Pyrotech said
    Dallasfan824 said
    Pyrotech saidFrom the opinion of someone that lives the BDSM lifestyle, being on top of someone vs being under someone does not determine Dom/sub.


    For me it was whoever weighed less was on top.


    Aww, that's a bummer. I always date guys bigger and stronger than me, and I absolutely LOVE it when they laid on top of me to kiss me.


    I like it too. Most of the time the other guy thought he was hurting me and felt bad.


    I've learned to pull them in tighter to let them know I'm all good. ;-)
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:36 PM GMT
    I hate kissing on top, it's always awkward for me for some reason. That being said I'm def not a submissive kind of guy in bed.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:39 PM GMT
    So basically sideways would make the world stop for you, a stupor would ensue, amirite? God forbid a 69 lol. These are all stupid inferences, sub Dom man woman. If u think too much about that stuff, you are clearly not enjoying the momenticon_smile.gif
  • biontop

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    Aug 04, 2011 4:59 PM GMT
    Well I think we're all gay men here not female-wanna-be's. I've never know a gay man that thinks of their relationships as man and woman. That wouldn't be right icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 6:13 PM GMT
    in my experiences the dominant person always chooses what they want, and i'll playfully switch it up but most of the time, they pick. and usually, they've picked being on the top so i can wrap my legs around their back. yeeee!
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    Jan 11, 2012 5:41 PM GMT
    Animus said
    Dallasfan824 said
    Chattman91 saidWhat is it with gay men and this whole dominant/submissive bullshit?


    I dont know. I know it as a fettish, Seems to be a preoccupation with some folks on this site.


    Because dom/sub, to a lot of gay men is, on some undeniable level, a draw on the dynamic of a man/woman relationship.


    For me, it's about getting the love that I need.