Social and economic "class": Does it matter?

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    Aug 04, 2011 12:59 AM GMT
    Do you find "social" and "economic" class to be factors as to how you relate in your friendships and/or dating relationships? Does it make a difference? Does it affect how you spend time/money when together? How so?
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    Aug 04, 2011 1:38 AM GMT
    For me, it's not so much socioeconomic status (SES). Instead, it's more about the thinking pattern and common interests, along with IQ. It's not exactly a very potent aphrodisiac to me that, I have to explain why something is interesting or funny to a date like 5 times and he still doesn't get it. You know?

    Someone can have very little education but be very street-smart and have a bunch of life experiences to talk about, and I would find that extremely attractive indeed. I cannot relate to people who are close-minded, or just plain stupid. All my past BFs, in retrospect, are all very smart. Otherwise we have nothing to talk about and I would just lose interest in them. To me, the first connection should come from the mind. If we cannot relate to each other during the date, then we are done. I don't care how hot he is. I can always go home and look at porn; there are hotter men online.

    With that said, I also feel that SES is positively correlated with IQ, and the reason being that to earn money, or to land on a well-respected position, requires intelligence (and hard work, to some degree). I am not saying that people with high educations, or hold high positions in the industry, are necessarily smarter, per se. It's just that in these bracket of people, there is a higher occurrence of running into these guys I would like to date, because I can relate to them better.
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    Aug 04, 2011 1:53 AM GMT
    With dating, it can be a factor for me. I am a college student working part time, so I feel highly uncomfortable dating anyone who is done with school and financially independent.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:45 AM GMT
    I am much more concerned with drive, ambition, and their value system. As long as they can support themselves then it is all good.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:51 AM GMT
    WHAT IS THIS, THE 18TH CENTURY??? icon_confused.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:52 AM GMT
    It potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:54 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:58 AM GMT
    CHIdude said
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!


    What am I supposed to do, starve!? icon_cry.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 2:59 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    CHIdude said
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!


    What am I supposed to do, starve!? icon_cry.gif


    No baby, no. Daddy's here to "feed you." icon_twisted.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:00 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    CHIdude said
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!


    What am I supposed to do, starve!? icon_cry.gif


    If I buy a dude dinner I EXPECT something in return...

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    Aug 04, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    CHIdude said
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!


    Bacon and cookies at Costo are surprisingly cheap. But the semi-annual trip to the cardiologist's office is what's gonna take a big bite out of his bank account. icon_razz.gificon_razz.gificon_razz.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:01 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Ariodante said
    CHIdude said
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!


    What am I supposed to do, starve!? icon_cry.gif


    If I buy a dude dinner I EXPECT something in return...

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    A "thank you?"
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:02 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Ariodante said
    CHIdude said
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!


    What am I supposed to do, starve!? icon_cry.gif


    If I buy a dude dinner I EXPECT something in return...

    icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif


    you can share in the cheese fries while we watch Ghostbusters 2.

    Don't take too many >=/
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    You caught me while I do a lit review on the subject. I think SES could be important in finding someone with a compatible world view, but whether your income/education/occupation measures up right doesn't necessarily matter. Perceived SES is just as potent.
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:05 AM GMT
    it definitely matters. it matters a lot
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:06 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    Cash said
    Ariodante said
    CHIdude said
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!


    What am I supposed to do, starve!? icon_cry.gif


    If I buy a dude dinner I EXPECT something in return...

    icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif


    you can share in the cheese fries while we watch Ghostbusters 2.

    Don't take too many >=/


    LOL! Stop it! I'll bring 2 orders of cheese fries... I just hope U.S. Customs wont have a problem with food icon_sad.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:20 AM GMT
    Cash said
    Ariodante said
    CHIdude said
    Ariodante saidIt potentially could. If I were dating someone who was used to spending large amounts of money on a daily basis there would definitely be conflict because I wouldn't be able to do that.


    WTF are you talking about??? Your food budget alone would drive anyone broke!


    What am I supposed to do, starve!? icon_cry.gif


    If I buy a dude dinner I EXPECT something in return...

    icon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gificon_twisted.gif


    Decades ago, an older man who was in the advertising business got free tickets to many things and took me to them. I figured that that was OK since he was getting the tickets free. However, when he wanted to take me to expensive places to eat, I drew the line; that made me very uncomfortable. At the time, I could not have afforded such things myself, so I stopped seeing him.
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    Aug 04, 2011 3:21 AM GMT
    If his daddy's rich, that's all that matters.
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    Aug 04, 2011 5:07 AM GMT
    I always pick friends based on who they are.To base friendships on Social class and money is bullshit. Male friendships should never be based on money and status because that isnt friendship that's convenience. But to each their own.
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    Aug 04, 2011 6:06 AM GMT
    neilly7 saidI always pick friends based on who they are.To base friendships on Social class and money is bullshit. Male friendships should never be based on money and status because that isnt friendship that's convenience. But to each their own.


    Have you ever picked friends based on social class and money?
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    Aug 04, 2011 6:13 AM GMT
    JackNWNJ said
    neilly7 saidI always pick friends based on who they are.To base friendships on Social class and money is bullshit. Male friendships should never be based on money and status because that isnt friendship that's convenience. But to each their own.


    Have you ever picked friends based on social class and money?

    No
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    Aug 04, 2011 6:16 AM GMT
    no, i am not that shallow. i picked them based on their looks.
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    Aug 04, 2011 7:05 AM GMT
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    Speaking of, looks like I'm now using this thread to procrastinate becoming more ERUDITE in some GRE vocab icon_rolleyes.gif


    Don't remind me... shit, that's in like a month
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    Aug 04, 2011 8:56 AM GMT
    AGS89 saidHmm... my ex of 8 months actually broke up with me b/c it really started to bother him that if he wanted to go out to eat at a nice place or go on a vacation with me, he'd have to pay.

    Nothing made me feel more like a housewife than when he commented on the dishwasher not being emptied once haha.



    Now you see, he´s the jerk for not being more sensitive. Financially asymmetrical relationships llike this only work if the rich one is able to act like a decent human being and not allow his money to become a problem. If he can´t do that then he´s not a keeper, ESPECIALLY as he knew you were a student: I find his behaviour horrible.
  • bad_wolf

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    Aug 04, 2011 9:00 AM GMT
    I would like to say that things like this shouldn't matter, but having been with someone who's a parasite to the bank balance and my wellbeing, never learning to drive or wanting to take the bus because he could get a lift off me...I'm definately take economic back ground into consideration next time.

    I want to be equals in a relationship not some paternal surrogate.