Is It Just Me?!?!?!?

  • XxXxXxAZNxXxX...

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    Aug 04, 2011 5:49 PM GMT
    I know that so many people have posted on this topic, but I'm getting so frustrated.
    I have done the whole hookup phase and I gotta say, was fun, but it's not that fun any more!
    I have put myself out there and it just seems that nobody's looking icon_sad.gif
    I know they are and I know i must sound like some unstable crazy ass bitch, but you wonder if maybe if its you and you're unattractive to everyone else.
    Does anyone have any success stories to cheer me up?
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    Aug 04, 2011 6:10 PM GMT
    You know I'm on the same boat but I can tell you is that you have just keep yourself distracted with other things in your life than seeking companionship..

    It may be a typical cheer up message and it does get exasperating...But that's all I can tell ya for now..
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    Aug 04, 2011 6:16 PM GMT
    hey man thanks for the response...i know
    I should be focusing on more...and I am, but sometimes i get distracted lol
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    Aug 04, 2011 7:58 PM GMT
    My boy literally just popped up into my life... One minute I was alone single on this site in the chatroom, the next... after he popped up... we started talking and talking and talking.... little did we know it was 3 hrs later... so my point is it will "pop" up when you least expect it... hang in there icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 04, 2011 11:01 PM GMT
    You sure you wanna be a doctor or a veteranarian? They eat up your life.... of the two.. being a veteranarian is the hardest... being a doctor is easy by comparison
  • jlly_rnchr

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    Aug 04, 2011 11:20 PM GMT
    If you had a successful hook-up phase, you're probably not unattractive. I wouldn't worry about that. Sometimes it just takes time to find a compatible guy...right?
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    Aug 05, 2011 2:49 AM GMT
    GreenHopper saidYou sure you wanna be a doctor or a veteranarian? They eat up your life.... of the two.. being a veteranarian is the hardest... being a doctor is easy by comparison


    Lol, so off topic.

    I don't have any stories to make you feel better but I've heard that many people's situations have improved. Here's hoping yours does too icon_smile.gif It's not going to happen over one night or a week either. Stop looking for anything/anyone in particular and engage in activities that you like. Maybe you'll strike it up with someone worthwhile icon_wink.gif
  • kcbronc

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    Aug 05, 2011 3:04 AM GMT
    I never really went through a hook up phase, but my last bf I met online and we were together for over 7 years We're still great friends. I'm not sure if you were talking about meeting someone online or not, but if you do try not to talk about sex right away. Regardless, you'll find someone if that's what you really want. It just takes time. Enjoy the friendships and relationships you make along the way and don't focus on finding "The One".
  • wander2340

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    Aug 05, 2011 3:15 AM GMT
    DAN_THE_MAN saidMy boy literally just popped up into my life... One minute I was alone single on this site in the chatroom, the next... after he popped up... we started talking and talking and talking.... little did we know it was 3 hrs later... so my point is it will "pop" up when you least expect it... hang in there icon_smile.gif


    It helps to know what exactly it is that you are looking for so that when it "pops" up you will instantly recognize it. And, make sure that what you are looking for is NOT anything physical. Look for common life goals and philosophies.
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    DAN_THE_MAN saidMy boy literally just popped up into my life... One minute I was alone single on this site in the chatroom, the next... after he popped up... we started talking and talking and talking.... little did we know it was 3 hrs later... so my point is it will "pop" up when you least expect it... hang in there icon_smile.gif


    awww that's nice...I hope so
    glad 2 hear your's is going well icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    GreenHopper saidYou sure you wanna be a doctor or a veteranarian? They eat up your life.... of the two.. being a veteranarian is the hardest... being a doctor is easy by comparison


    I know...but I can't see myself doing anything else...it's crazy
    yeah my life is probably gonna suck 4 most of it hahahaha
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:46 AM GMT
    Trollileo saidYou'll get over this phase. Trust me. And don't sweat relationships. Like many have said before me, "you won't be happy in a relationship if you can't be happy alone."


    wow that actually makes a lot of sense...thanks dude icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    jlly_rnchr saidIf you had a successful hook-up phase, you're probably not unattractive. I wouldn't worry about that. Sometimes it just takes time to find a compatible guy...right?


    I donno i mean ne1 can hookup...I think ur right tho
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:47 AM GMT
    kcbronc saidI never really went through a hook up phase, but my last bf I met online and we were together for over 7 years We're still great friends. I'm not sure if you were talking about meeting someone online or not, but if you do try not to talk about sex right away. Regardless, you'll find someone if that's what you really want. It just takes time. Enjoy the friendships and relationships you make along the way and don't focus on finding "The One".



    that's awesome. I'm so glad that your relationship is going well. I hope someday I can get there
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    wander2340 said
    DAN_THE_MAN saidMy boy literally just popped up into my life... One minute I was alone single on this site in the chatroom, the next... after he popped up... we started talking and talking and talking.... little did we know it was 3 hrs later... so my point is it will "pop" up when you least expect it... hang in there icon_smile.gif


    It helps to know what exactly it is that you are looking for so that when it "pops" up you will instantly recognize it. And, make sure that what you are looking for is NOT anything physical. Look for common life goals and philosophies.


    I think that is important...i just have no idea where 2 start lol
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    SirDreamALot said
    GreenHopper saidYou sure you wanna be a doctor or a veteranarian? They eat up your life.... of the two.. being a veteranarian is the hardest... being a doctor is easy by comparison


    Lol, so off topic.

    I don't have any stories to make you feel better but I've heard that many people's situations have improved. Here's hoping yours does too icon_smile.gif It's not going to happen over one night or a week either. Stop looking for anything/anyone in particular and engage in activities that you like. Maybe you'll strike it up with someone worthwhile icon_wink.gif



    ...maybe....one can only hope hahaha icon_smile.gif
  • XxXxXxAZNxXxX...

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    Aug 05, 2011 5:49 AM GMT
    THANK YOU ALL FOR YOUR WORDS OF SUPPORT!
    I know it probably doesn't mean much, but it really does help icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:51 AM GMT
    xcuriousgeorge69 saidI know that so many people have posted on this topic, but I'm getting so frustrated.
    I have done the whole hookup phase and I gotta say, was fun, but it's not that fun any more!
    I have put myself out there and it just seems that nobody's looking icon_sad.gif
    I know they are and I know i must sound like some unstable crazy ass bitch, but you wonder if maybe if its you and you're unattractive to everyone else.
    Does anyone have any success stories to cheer me up?


    Aww!! Well I think it may be the other people who are missing out on you because I think you're attractive!!
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    Aug 05, 2011 5:52 AM GMT
    You can search throughout the entire universe for someone who is more deserving of your love and affection than you are yourself, and that person is not to be found anywhere. You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe deserve your love and affection.
    Buddha