Awkward start to online hookup

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    Aug 05, 2011 5:48 AM GMT
    I think it's something with me, but it seems whenever I hookup with a guy I met online, there is always this awkward moment from when we meet at the door to the bedroom. Then it carries over to the foreplay and sex and makes the whole experience sort of awkward. Any advice on how to improve the situation?
  • citypartyboy

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    Aug 05, 2011 12:47 PM GMT
    define awkward. a fart? a trip and fall? choking on a drink of water because it 'went down the wrong tube?' lol
  • Nautical

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    Aug 05, 2011 12:54 PM GMT
    man i know what you mean, i was what i guess you'd call a late bloomer, didnt have my first kiss till i was 21. i tried a hook-up once but i felt so awkward and weird during and after, but as time would play out it seems like friends with beneifts are more my style when im not in a relationship. I dont think theres anything wrong with you, maybe you just need to know that person a little more then whats on their profile.
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    Aug 05, 2011 1:29 PM GMT
    Maybe I'm old fashioned... but perhaps meet first for drinks?
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    Aug 05, 2011 1:32 PM GMT
    Don't hook-up with people online. Problem solved.
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    Aug 05, 2011 1:45 PM GMT
    Caesarea4 saidMaybe I'm old fashioned... but perhaps meet first for drinks?


    ^^^ THIS!

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    Aug 05, 2011 1:49 PM GMT
    Date first. Then have sex. It's more intimate that way anyway.

    Hookups are kind of scary, don't you think? You really don't know that much about the person you're hooking up with. He might be a nice smart handsome, d&d-free guy who doesn't do this often at all, and you happen to be his "once in a blue moon" guy. Or, he can be the complete opposite of that. Maybe that's your mind trying to tell you something.
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    Aug 05, 2011 1:53 PM GMT
    Then there's also the question of which of the above you become.....
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    Aug 05, 2011 3:28 PM GMT
    Forget the awkwardness, what about your safety? Why do you have people you have never met coming to your house before you meet them in public?
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    Aug 05, 2011 3:46 PM GMT
    If he's so ugly that it's awkward, send him home.
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    Aug 05, 2011 3:47 PM GMT
    Caesarea4 saidMaybe I'm old fashioned... but perhaps meet first for drinks?
    Why waste all that valuable time, when the only thing wanted by both parties is sex?
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    Aug 05, 2011 3:50 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Caesarea4 saidMaybe I'm old fashioned... but perhaps meet first for drinks?
    Why waste all that valuable time, when the only thing wanted by both parties is sex?


    Sad, but TRUE!

    Honestly, if you merely want to trick ... Why carry on the guise of meeting for coffee and having potentially awkward conversation when the only thought in your head is what the guy looks like naked and pondering if can he take my girthy ginger cock?
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    Aug 05, 2011 3:52 PM GMT
    paulflexes said
    Caesarea4 saidMaybe I'm old fashioned... but perhaps meet first for drinks?
    Why waste all that valuable time, when the only thing wanted by both parties is sex?


    the alcohol helps...
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    Aug 05, 2011 3:58 PM GMT
    chemguy79 saidWhy carry on the guise of meeting for coffee and having potentially awkward conversation when the only thought in your head is what the guy looks like naked and pondering if can he take my girthy ginger cock?


    Mmm, girthy ginger cock...

    I'm sorry, what were we discussing? icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 07, 2011 3:32 AM GMT
    jim_stl said
    chemguy79 saidWhy carry on the guise of meeting for coffee and having potentially awkward conversation when the only thought in your head is what the guy looks like naked and pondering if can he take my girthy ginger cock?


    Mmm, girthy ginger cock...
    I'm sorry, what were we discussing? icon_smile.gif


    Well.....now it's girthy ginger cock!! icon_cool.gif

    Ahem...pictures Chemguy79?!?
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    Aug 07, 2011 3:43 AM GMT
    fratguy14 saidI think it's something with me, but it seems whenever I hookup with a guy I met online, there is always this awkward moment from when we meet at the door to the bedroom. Then it carries over to the foreplay and sex and makes the whole experience sort of awkward. Any advice on how to improve the situation?


    First rule of Southern hospitality: "If you are uncomfortable, then your guests will be too."

    Are you just meeting at the door and going to fuck? That's hella awkward.

    I suggest a social lubricant (like two shots of Jack Daniels) and a refusal to hookup until after lots of small talk (learn the person's name, occupation, hobbies, etc.) to set yourself at ease.

    My last online hookup and I chatted for two and half hours over wine before the naked stuff started.

    I would just say "don't hookup" -- but I know how it gets when you're horny.