Met this guy in real life finally.

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    Aug 05, 2011 3:07 PM GMT
    I friended someone two years ago from my hometown via FB. Our parents live in the same small town still (population ~2,500). It's safe to say we both come from a white trash town. We both got out.

    Two years later, with no intent on this happening, I'm at Indiana University, and he's starting in a few weeks with his master's in music performance. He moved into his apartment Monday, but we have had no plans to see each other or meet officially. IU is small, and you're bound to run into each other eventually.

    Tuesday he sat three rows ahead of me at a piano recital. Tah-Dah we met.

    We've been chatting and texting for two years so it was no big deal. It was more like, "Hey, how's your mom and sister?"

    We saw each other last night at a recital and sat together. It was good; my pee-part tickled.

    I did have a fantasy crush two years ago perhaps because it makes a cute story line.

    CATCH: I formulate reasons in my head of why I couldn't date this guy IE) no sunscreen, wears A&F, he's seven years younger, he's about a 0.5inch too tall, etc...I become a judgmental bitch.

    Thoughts?
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    Aug 05, 2011 3:13 PM GMT
    What's wrong with 7 years younger; I don't know myself? ANF is a bit for high schooler..
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    Aug 05, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    I wouldn't make up reasons to not like the guy. Just go with your gut feelings. If you are crushing on him then that's that.
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    Aug 05, 2011 6:19 PM GMT
    When the pee part tickles then you know icon_smile.gif

    ... No sunscreen??? Whats wrong with u? Ask that fella on a real date!
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    Aug 05, 2011 6:23 PM GMT
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    Aug 05, 2011 6:28 PM GMT
    deltalimen said

    CATCH: I formulate reasons in my head of why I couldn't date this guy IE) no sunscreen, wears A&F, he's seven years younger, he's about a 0.5inch too tall, etc...I become a judgmental bitch.

    Thoughts?


    Yes, get off your high horse and start living by following your heart.
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    Aug 05, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    Wait so you dislike him superficially for having too much sunburn/tan?
    Yea I know, minor bitchy turnoff for me too icon_smile.gif
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    Aug 05, 2011 6:35 PM GMT
    Seems like most people are always complaining as to why they cant date or are unable to find people to date, and when they do, they look for ways to make it unsuccessful, as stated by the OP, No sun screen, among other petty little thing, and since when did age became an issue, two consenting adults should never worry about that. Live life and enjoy while you have as well as enjoy the company of others, especially if you like them. icon_razz.gif
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    Aug 05, 2011 6:49 PM GMT
    deltalimen said[...]
    CATCH: I formulate reasons in my head of why I couldn't date this guy IE) no sunscreen, wears A&F, he's seven years younger, he's about a 0.5inch too tall, etc...I become a judgmental bitch.
    Thoughts?


    These are all wonderfully well thought out reasons.
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    Aug 05, 2011 6:59 PM GMT
    If you're that judgmental, leave him alone--he deserves better.

    In all seriousness, though, deltalineman, try to get over that... Watch this video from gay relationship advice columnist Dan Savage. Most of us can learn a lot from his advice:

  • EricLA

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    Aug 05, 2011 7:04 PM GMT
    Sounds like you're asking us to talk you into dating him. You admit some of your reasons aren't the most substantial. It sounds like you find him attractive enough. So, the question is do you like him as a friend or more? You can always keep it at the friend level and see if your feelings for him increase. Or, if you feel like there's more there, despite some minor resistance, then go for it and ask him for a date.
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    Aug 05, 2011 8:03 PM GMT
    I wouldn't settle if I wasn't content for whatever the hell personal reasons.

    Having a crush on someone doesn't mean you two will be compatible or happy in a relationship.

    you can always just be friends with or without benefits.
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    Aug 05, 2011 10:56 PM GMT
    deltalimen said It was good; my pee-part tickled.


    This made me laugh! icon_lol.gif
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    Aug 06, 2011 2:30 AM GMT
    Thanks guys. This is awesome.

    Ultimately I am that guy that so many gay men are like and . . . dislike. The reason why I put up such a wall is my fear of rejection, disappointment, failure, etc... It's all fear based.

    A few weeks back I was speaking with an ex-fling from ten years ago. He said, "You were the most beautiful man I've ever met. You still are today. You broke my heart, but I knew you would. I was okay with that risk."

    ^If only I could be more like that. ^